There’s some seriously powerful energies been brewing up lately. Can you feel them? On one hand, I feel my intuitive abilities have just leaped up a notch. I’m feeling much like young Superman who burned holes in the wall from not knowing how to control his superpower vision. On the flip side of all this psychic mojo is a lot of STUFF is releasing that I’m guessing really need to be released. A step up must move a ton of crud out of the way.

Back when I was in high school, I was pretty dedicated to my dancing. And in the process of dancing in lessons after school and in high school dance classes, I was overusing my dominate leg tendon too much. When I was forced to run several miles around a track in a gym class I hated (still have nightmares about gym classes) I seriously pulled that tendon to its breaking point. For the first time in my life, I was on crutches trying to navigate my life until it healed.

I’m thinking that when we get hurt emotionally in life, whether from someone else’s actions, or from loss, or just from life circumstances, we are injured and have a wound, much like my hurt tendon.

The other day I got triggered. My emotions were set to high and you would think I was injured that day, but it was that old wound just getting re-injured. You know that saying, salt in a wound? That’s just what happens after big wounds. Some wounds don’t heal properly the first time around. Or, maybe, we just couldn’t feel at the time. It wasn’t safe and now that we are, it can truly heal. And just like any injury, the best thing is to stay off the leg for awhile so it can bring itself back into balance, and that means looking at the trigger and deciding what needs to be expressed, or felt, or even avoided what can trigger for healing’s sake until we are off the crutches. (Interesting how my dance injury did keep me out of gym class for several months, but forced me to miss dancing).

Years later, I am still dancing whenever I get the chance to, even spontaneous bursting into steps when the radio plays, but that leg still carries a small throb as a reminder to take it easy, and be extra careful with my soft spots.

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You may enjoy my post on Broken Leg Theory, which is also included in my book, Help! I’m Sensitive. 

Our souls whisper to us through stories. (Class starts March 21st)

In Arizona right now, there is a law sitting on the Governor’s desk that will allow businesses to discriminate and not serve those that are gay based on religious beliefs. This legislation got me thinking about labels and how we perceive people when we only look at the surface.

Years back, I had an experience when I overheard an acquaintance tell her friend I was “flighty.” I had a legitimate reaction: I almost whacked her with my wand. Being a sensitive person I have two forms of reactions in my arsenal: I either want to smack people over the head and get bitchy, or I feel hurt. (I usually feel both). And yes I have wings that I only show my dearest and closest friends, so I can take flight sometimes when I need to, but being called flighty pissed me off. This woman knew me at a time when my whole life was crumbling, my beloved dog, Foxy, was in the process of leaving this world, my family was crumbling, and what this woman saw was my world’s ungrounded-ness. She, not knowing me well or knowing any of this, only saw the surface and made an assessment.

The definition of “flighty” found online: “not serious or dependable” “irresponsible” “flakey”

I equate flighty with being ditzy, which would be really nice, as you are never weighed down with thoughts.  (Finally, a good night’s sleep!) Ditzy equals lightheaded, not all there, a not super bright kind of formula. I wouldn’t want to be labeled that, ever. The truth of the matter is there isn’t a moment that I’m not thinking three thousand thoughts, including analyzing the meaning of the life while trying to figure out the formula for the back of Post-it paper. And like most sensitive empaths, I’m overly responsible feeling like it’s up to me to make sure most of the world’s population is happy and fully taken care of.

If we believe in magical things like fairies and the light, imaginative, happy part of this crazy world, are we then seen as ditzy and not down to earth? Are we prejudiced against? What if Arizona businesses had signs that said “No folks that believe in anything magical allowed here.” How would these businesses even know we thought this unless we carried a sign saying so?

Now, I can understand why she might have felt that way about me. I can look very ungrounded, flying around the room with a ton of hummingbird energy. That is my natural energy reserve because I am just plain excited and passionate about what this planet seems to offer. But I guarantee my head is not in the clouds but is in a planning/organizing stage. And give me sugar or caffeine and my sensitive, little body will be hanging from the ceiling lamp making giggling noises and I’ll be talking a mile a minute. I can also get overwhelmed with too much information coming in all at once which can give me that glossed-over look.

Over at my Facebook page I have my featured cupcake of the day and I like to share pictures of fairies and sweet dogs smiling.  Does that mean I am flighty and not seriously dealing with the big life issues of the day? Nope, the opposite. It’s because I have felt and lived the depth of this world — deep pain, deep love, deep hurt, deep everything —  that I know how crucial it is to share the good so we don’t get loss in that pain.

So before we label anyone inaccurately, we need to remember we are only judging the surface, and by labeling, much like those signs that might go up in Arizona restaurants, all we are doing is keeping so many others out, and missing out on the beautiful experience of seeing their greater depth.

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*And many of us have experienced prejudice and labeling about just being sensitive or highly intuitive

A Big Thank You

I am thrilled, tickled and happy of the growing success of Fairy & Empath Online School since I’ve moved my classes to this website. There’s a steady stream of new and returning students who I can spoil with tools and information, and hopefully, at the same time, inspire their creativity and expression. Let’s have fun while we learn!

Tomorrow Starts New Classes

A little reminder, tomorrow starts new sessions of the EMPATH SKILLS, TALKING TO ANGELS, GUIDES AND DEAD PEOPLE, FAIRY HEALING BEGINNER and FAIRY HEALING THE ANIMALS classes. Have you reserved your seat yet? Sign-ups all weekend long. Head on over to the catalogs: EMPATH SCHOOL, FAIRY ONLINE SCHOOL.

Hope to see you in class!

Call out to Fellow Fairies, Half Fairies, and Fairy Lovers:

I’ve been compiling fairy-related resources to share each time I give my Fairy Beginner Healing and Fairy Healing the Feminine classes (offered on a revolving basis). Every lesson I share a few links, whether a fairy artist, fairy reader, or a fairy place so students can emerge themselves into the world of fairy.

If you’d love a mention and some free publicity I’d love to share your services. Give me an email, leave a comment below, or message me on Facebook.

With appreciation,

Just a reminder…new class sessions start on FRIDAY in both EMPATH & FAIRY ONLINE SCHOOL.

To check out the classes, for EMPATH SCHOOL, go HERE. For FAIRY ONLINE SCHOOL, go HERE.

Important Class Change

I need more time! The Storytelling and Intuition class will be moved to MARCH. For those of you who wanted to take this class but didn’t have time now for it, you are in luck. Registrations will be still taken until then.

Haven’t done a Sketchbook Saturday in awhile! Here’s images from the upcoming Storytelling and Intuition class (which conveniently is now taking registrations.)

We pick out your  STORY THEME of the week

I think classes and learning should always be REWARD-BASED, so we look at yours.

We make our “travel journals” collecting breadcrumbs from our stories

We look at our pictures for intuitive stories

Fun! Join me?

So, I’m super excited. I had this idea for this class months ago and I can’t wait to share with you my deep passion for story-making.

What if we could deeper understand and have clarity in our lives by expressing our stories? It was a simple idea that came into my head while reading Christopher Vogler’s book The Writer’s Journey. If we dive down into our stories and relate it to the hero’s journey, everything makes sense. And what if our intuition and our souls were trying to talk to us every day through our different stories that we encounter?

Being a creative person, like most of you readers, my story comes out everyday I make some form of art. There’s gold there just for me–communication from my soul.

Join me on this storytelling 5-week online journey as we explore this avenue of communication. We’ll play and have fun, of course, and have some valuable “aha moments.”

For details and to register, head on over to HERE.

So excited and psyched! All the details coming tomorrow….you will love it!

I quoted my fav movie, Field of Dreams, in today’s post. Reading about the movie’s trivia over at IMdB, I learned an interesting fact (among others):

“According to supplementary material on the DVD edition of this film, shortly before shooting began, the actor who played Ray Kinsella’s father, Dwier Brown, was notified that his father unfortunately pass away. Immediately after the funeral, he traveled directly from the funeral to filming in Iowa for the scene. He stated that although the emotion was too fresh and painful, it had an effect on how he eventually played his scene with Kevin Costner.”

–quoted from the IMdB website. 

Check out the quotes here.

From FIELD OF DREAMS: “Ease his pain.”

Like many of you, I wake up in the morning, fresh from dreaming, bringing back some kind of message or understanding. The lesson downloaded into my brain this morning was about empathy.

What is empathy anyway? Most of us would define it as feeling what another person is feeling, relating, and being able to step into their shoes. You feel the sadness and relate when someone posts on Facebook about saying goodbye the last time to their beloved dog. Your heart hurts for them. You feel when your friend is sick and want to make her better. You watch the devastation on television of those who have lost their homes in a tornado and your gut aches for what they are going through.

There is different levels of empathy–how much it is turned on. When I was in high school, I remember feeling so much pain in middle school that I learned feeling was a not a safe thing. I shut that part of me off. I stayed on the surface. It wasn’t gone; it came out in stomach aches.

There are folks who are very extroverted who only feel their own space and don’t always feel the space of others. They have empathy, it’s in there, they are just more focused inward.

There are folks who read this blog who are Empaths. We feel everything. The empathy button is on so strong it can be overwhelming and debilitating. We feel times a hundred. That’s why sometimes it shuts off and we numb over or we couldn’t function.

There are many closet sensitives out there who appear un-feeling who are really our fellow brethren who felt way too much at some time and were seriously hurt, and so they can’t feel anymore. It isn’t safe to.

Then there are folks out there who have no empathy. They came in for special purposes, some of them, and perhaps, feelings would get in the way of that mission. They don’t feel when you are hurt. They don’t see how their actions affect others. They don’t hurt when others hurt because they don’t know how. The parts of the brain that feels that is broken. They live a different life. Do we have empathy for them? Maybe we can just understand what’s missing and see them differently.

I watch empathy in my dogs. If I am crying, they can feel my sadness, and will rush over and try to comfort me. It goes beyond instinct.

In my life right now, I am being asked to live at a deeper level of empathy, to put my feelings aside, for what is best for another. My little family lost a member the other day. Bun-Bun, my parakeet of almost nine years died suddenly. Before she died she had communicated very strongly that she missed Prosperity who had crossed over in September. She loved us but her body was starting to slow down and her heart ached for her companion. I’m being asked to look beyond my selfishness of wanting her to be here–to hear her beautiful little song-y chit chat throughout my day and having her companionship–and to honor her wishes. In this situation, I need to step into her spirit feet, feel her happiness and joy now of being reunited, and honor what she wanted and what is best for her first. It’s here where my empathy is a gift I can give her.

A little reminder…

Section 2 of January classes start tomorrow. Did you reserve your space?

I’ve loved hosting my classes here instead of Schoology! Schoology is great and organized, but it’s nicer to have the classes here and be able to have the hands-on personal touch that allows me to have.

Ready to have some fun? Empath School here, Fairy Online School here.

Here at The Designing Fairy, I often receive questions concerning being intuitive that folks are scared or puzzled about. This is the beginning of a series where you can ask questions about your psychic abilities, and I will attempt to help and answer. I’ll be answering from my own experiences, and if I don’t have the information or answers, I’ll do a little research and find out.

The question

“Sarah” shares that she is beginning to pick up what feels like spirits in the room. She’s scared and confused and wants to know what is “wrong” with her.

The answer

Dear Sarah,

Sounds like you are an empath who has abilities in being aware of the energies around you. It’s like your “Spidey” sense. I liken psychic ability to playing the piano. Everyone can push a few random keys and make music. Not everyone becomes a concert pianist. Everyone has intuitive abilities. It’s to what degree and how much, and how turned on it is.

With feeling or noticing spirits, you have some mediumship abilities. You are just seeing what is there, but not noticeable to everyone. You can “tune in” to spirits by striking up some conversation or simply tune in and see what images or information receive. But always do so with boundaries. Just like you would be cautious letting anyone into your home, you would do the same with your personal, psychic space.

The more you talk to people who have similar abilities, and the more control you feel over them, the less fearful you will be.

Hope that helps!

Fairy blessings,

If you have a question, feel free to fill out my Contact Form. 

In process

Creating new online Visual Storytelling class.

The teacher is taking classes.

I’m enrolled in a great class on Skillshare: Julia Pott’s Developing Narrative class. I’m knee-deep in week 2 and my assignment is to ask friends (and perhaps, students) on their experiences regarding my film’s theme.

What are your experiences with Beauty? Were there times in your life that you felt drained of light/juice/mojo/life? And how or what was the process of refilling back up? What brought you back to life? Why were you drained or lost your light? It could have been from a time period in your life, or an incident that happened, or just a memory you had (like being picked last in gym class, or your Mom told you in a quick remark you were too tall) .

I’d love to hear from you. You can comment below or use the contact form for privacy. I might use a piece of your experience symbolically in the visuals, but won’t retell your story or mention you for anonymity.

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It’s Friday and that means Fairy & Empath School Friday! Today starts a new semester of learning. Have you reserved your space in class yet? Here’s the link to FAIRY ONLINE SCHOOL and EMPATH SCHOOL. Hope to see you there.

In the works…

I’m relocating.

Well, not me, I’m actually experimenting. I love SCHOOLOGY and have had lots of fun hosting my classes over there, but I miss the personal interaction, and I really would like to have my classes based right here on the home site. So, that means I will be having Fairy Online School and Empath School based right here. Students will receive the magic words to enter their classroom and you won’t have to leave the site to go to school. It will be more comfortable for students who are more challenged technology-wise.

Classes Offered

For January, I am offering less classes for better focus and concentration. There will be Empath Skills class, which will be a group class, Clairvoyance, and Animal Mediumship classes. There are two start dates to choose from, which is also an experiment.

Over at Fairy Online School, Fairy Healing for the Feminine, and Fairy Healing Beginner Class are being offered for you fairy/nature lovers. I promise those classes will be fairy-filled and fun.

More Changes

I hope to offer more fun videos for your lessons and new resources listed for further study. Woo hoo! I’m working a really cool class right on storytelling that is going to be filled with fun. It will be offered in February. Be sure to subscribe to this website to keep track of it to sign up.

Sign up!

To sign up now for Empath School or Fairy Online School click on those links. New classes start January 10th so get a move on and reserve our space. I’m looking forward to seeing you here!

It’s super easy to get thrown off your individual “radio channel” this holiday season. The stores are filled with crazy people in irritable moods. There’s a ton to pick up if you are sensitive around this time of year. Best and quickest way to get back to yourself? MUSIC! Now, the right music is different for everyone. But I found the following selections instantly put me back into a happy, up space to clear away the slime and grime, and I can hear myself again. Enjoy!

Holiday Menu:

This one will make even holiday music tolerable (for those who have had enough from the stores):

http://youtu.be/qJ_MGWio-vc

Celtic Woman: I was lucky enough to see them in person. Angelic:

http://youtu.be/UQP2KK5RBHY

Local Anthony Mazzella has some pretty amazing music:

http://youtu.be/Bfd4YKvL3Kc

And finally, Sarah McLachlan and Josh Groban. Bring out the hankies.

http://youtu.be/zZHrbjhwKik

What’s your recommendations?

Fellow fairy girl Lindsey Stirling is amazing. Share a little light wherever you can, wherever you are.

December is a wrap-up time. It’s a time of looking at the year you’ve just gone through and sizing up and determining which way to go next. How do you do that with all the choices and opportunities? It can be overwhelming. As someone who is very empathic, I have a built-in radar system that I often curse at and ignore, which, I should be making friends with.

What’s this radar, you ask?

How I feel, especially in my body.

Now I can be slow in the intake, but the situation is improving. The time between getting upset/having an emotional or physical reaction and figuring out that I am upset has shortened. Gone is the time when I’d feel horrible for several days, even weeks, and not know why, because I am now finally noticing with the help of this tool which I will now share with you.

I was faced with a decision over the weekend when an opportunity presented itself. It sounded good and glossy and enticing, but the rest of the day THE MOOD hit. Now, sometimes THE MOOD is one of those empathic “picking up someone else’s shit and I’m carrying around not realizing it is not mine and yet I’m feeling it” kind of moods. I tuned in, and asked this time around, and got a NO from my body that this wasn’t the case.

I explored THE MOOD. I am not a big time fan of this time of year, so there was a little of that melancholy thrown in that I acknowledged. Having experienced many losses this year, I knew that grief was lingering around and was part of what I was feeling. A good cry was needed which I indulged in by watching a sappy movie, but THE MOOD persisted. What was going on?!

A big thank you to my good friends who helped me realize that I was considering go down the wrong way by possibly accepting the opportunity I was presented with. My body was letting me know that opportunity was not aligned with me! It was the wrong fit. Yes, logical mind had a ton of reasons why this choice was a good one. I’d get out of my comfort zone, tackle doing things I wasn’t good at but could be good at. I’d meet new people, and the choice would eventually lead to the direction I wanted to go, maybe. Logical mind is very good at molding me and squooshing me into boxes. But I am a soul that likes to break out of boxes. Body, on the other hand, has a direct line to my inner, empathic radar. It just reacts and lets me know: “Ronni, what the f(*%K are you doing, Girl?” Unlike logical mind, the body knows the simple answers to these questions: will this choice really make me happy? Is this a JOYFUL choice for me? Is it right for me?

We have all had experiences in our lives where we made a choice from logical mind because it looked really good on paper. How did those work out for you? Looking back, I haven’t had one that did.

Thank God and my body for THE MOOD that day. It quickly went away when I acknowledged I was compromising and heading in the wrong direction. (Another good clue). Further insight, and I realized that choice actually would have had me going backwards, not forward. (And that was a really good insight).

So look at your ‘symptoms’ differently today. That stomach ache you keep getting around a certain relative? Don’t curse it, understand what it’s saying. That persistant cold you have every Monday morning you have to go to work? Listen. When THE MOOD hits, don’t berate yourself for being too emotional. And when we bitch and complain we have no guidance and are abandoned, look again in your own backyard! Literally, your own backyard. Your body as your backyard? Get it? Oh, never mind. Just pay attention.

Oh, and incidentally, sometimes the body is saying YES to something that seems totally crazy and illogical, but is a fabulous great decision or the right road to pursue. I felt that way adopting my newest dog family member and going back to school. I’m so glad I listened.

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Be sure to check out my book Help! I’m Sensitive and new book on animal communication, Speak Woof and Meow. And for further tips and tools for being sensitive, sign up for the January session of the EMPATH SKILLS ONLINE CLASS. And one more, keep your eyes on the lookout for my new book, YOUR TURTLE SHELL.

This is a crazy time for a sensitive person. The energy out there alone is a little on the wonky side. So, here’s a little tip from my eBook, Help for the Holidays if you are Sensitive. 

Need the ebook? Here’s a link.

This is the time of year we look back at 2013 and regroup and either sit in amazement we survived, or sit in gratitude at what we have gained. It’s also the time for New Year’s Resolutions and goal-setting. Now, don’t get me wrong, I like goal-setting. I’m a Capricorn. We live for this kind of analytical, organized kind of stuff. But resolutions and impossible goals are mean and nasty little boogers.

Let me explain. My logical mind will look at 2013 and then make a long to do list that starts like this :

1. Double my income in a month

2. Publish four to six new books in 2014

3. Lose five pounds in two months and flatten my stomach

You get the picture. I could possibly complete these tasks since I can be quite ambitious and anything is possible, but talk about big time pressure! Did you feel that headache coming on just reading this?

We often also have the expectation that because there was some craziness in 2013 and sadness or whatever, that 2014 WILL BE THE YEAR. It will be the year that everything is joyful, and unicorns, rainbows and lottery checks fall into our laps. Now, mind you, that is very possible and we can make some serious magic, but let’s lighten up there on the expectations. I do think 2014 will be lighter and positive (energy read here), but if there is some loss, or sadness, or f-ups, that’s just part of that equation we call life.

I find the solution to resolutions and impossible goals, is more of either:

1/create monthly smaller goals that you want to focus on,

or 2/have a general focus or theme for the year.

Personally, I like both, but I love the idea of creating a monthly theme. It could be bringing in more JOY into your life, or SELF ACTUALIZATION, or the year will be one of CREATIVE ART where you will devote most of your time to expressing your inner artist. But take it from me, do not, under any circumstance, pick PATIENCE for your goal for your year. Trust me on that one.

Happy New Year, dear readers, and happy mini goal making.

I got the best birthday present the other day. A precopy of Somerset Studio magazine.

What’s this? I had just submitted an essay a month or two ago and hadn’t heard a thing.

Holy cows! What a fabulous and important gift from the Universe/God/Angels. I am beyond thrilled and a great way to start the new year.

It’s available now – January 1st – at most Barnes and Noble’s and Michael’s shops. And yup, national magazine and one of my favorites! Hope you like it and especially, hope you like the message in the essay.