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Forest Online Camp starts this Friday! OMG! Since I can’t take all of you to the forest, I can bring the forest to you. Let’s have a campfire and roast marshmallows, and find ladybugs to talk to, while counting the new seeds in the trees. We will discover and play with our different “clairs” while nurturing our bodies with the sensual treasures found in Nature. I made a movie about the class and registration is open, so head on over to see and sign up HERE.
Explore your senses…
FULL DETAILS AND REGISTRATION OPENS TOMORROW.
Sensitive folks overload easily. The cause is not because we are delicate or weak. We are just wired to pick up all the layers of information at once. This means we pick up the subtle nuances most miss, like the sound of the doves singing outside the window, or that a friend is cranky even though she hasn’t said or showed any indication. On the flip side of this is we can take in all that information and fry our brains and emotions when it gets way too much (picture the heads exploding like in that old horror movie, Scanners. Yup, not a pretty picture and of course, not literal.) You can be pretty sure a sensitive has gone into overload when they show signs of shutdown which include a blank look, anxiety/nervousness, spaced-out feeling, or signs of insecurity. Symptoms look different in each sensitive. And what every sensitive wants is to be understood and known. So non-sensitives, LEARN THESE. And sensitives, share this list with your non-sensitives.
This warning label (“do not push”) should come with every sensitive born into this world. Pushing does not motivate a sensitive. It forces the automatic shut down valve to go off. Pushing only speeds up the “take in-sort through-digest” process making overwhelm happen faster because there’s no time to digest. It also just really pisses us off.
2. Load a ton of responsibility on our shoulders, be sure to not acknowledge or appreciate what we are already doing, and then add more.
That one speaks for itself, but I must say, as a tribe, sensitive folk are usually over-responsible and will take on a great deal as it is.
3. Increase sensory input.
Add very loud music we can’t control, or let in a swarm of flies in the room that can’t be caught. I am a tolerant person but when my neighbor plays country music on full throttle until 2 a.m., I’m going to get a little out of balance.
4. Expect a day of constant stimulation out of us.
Start the day early by taking us out for the day shopping, then stop at a crowded restaurant, go sight-seeing, and then dancing all night with a ton of noise and people. Just see what happens. Observe. Be sure to not include any breaks or alone time.
5. Add any illness to the day and then introduce either 1/, 2/, or 3/. Heck, even 4/.
Add llness or even a woman’s “time of the month,” and we are down for the count. Then all the sensory input and noise just swoops right in because our thin walls are way down. It’s a little like having the radio on several channels at once.
6. Add a crowd.
I still write about the Willie Nelson concert I went to that had a line wrapped around the casino to get into, then I was surrounded by a huge stadium-filled crowd screaming. Thank goodness it was outside because a crowd packed into a room with no walls? Oh fun.
7. Increase time pressure.
This one goes along with the “pushing” category. Sensitive folk like to flow in the zone moving to their own rhythms. We are great with deadlines but we need to control how we get there. I watch Project Runway and each episode when the designers get closer to presenting their creations, we can feel their tension through the screen. Let us control our rhythm.
8. Layer on the emotional sad stories.
We can sometimes overload from reading the Facebook feed of sad stories everyone is feeling. We feel compassion when our friends are going through rough times. Our hearts can jump out of our chests and MERGE. Our empathy is our superpower and it can be unbalanced at times when it’s multiplied.
9. Give us too much change at once.
We like our change in smaller steps; a little like slowly entering the pool rather then diving right in. We get in there, it just takes a little longer.
10. Add too many little technical things that don’t work.
I am sure this one matches everyone not just sensitive folk. Have a day where the bank screws up your account, or your computer doesn’t respond, or there’s a glitch in Photoshop and you lost all your data, and we will get rather testy. THEN add any two from the above list and we frazzle up quite good.
So, be kind to a sensitive today. Understand what creates overload and what makes life work swimmingly well for your sensitive friend. And for goodness sake, never ever say, “You need to toughen up instead!” That’s like being short and being told to be tall! Say that and you will see a different kind of overload.
SQUASH for courage, CALENDULA for empathic boundaries (ahhh, finally), NEW! ECHINACEA for balancing all over and putting the pieces back together and more! All gentle and made with apple cider vinegar (really healing in itself). Great for Sensitive folks. Sale ends on Sunday when I order a ton of bottles! Head on over NOW to order and have nature support. Go HERE.
Have you recently gone to the movies (or rented on Netflix) and thought, “Dear Lord, why didn’t you warn me!” Yes, me too. So I thought, why not start a bi-monthly report here at The Designing Fairy, to warn my fellow sensitives and save them a ton of therapy.
photo credit: Netflix
photo credit: Netflix
What’s with it, Hollywood? A movie nowadays isn’t complete without violence to women? Rethink your writing. Then we all wonder why politics takes our rights away out from under us. As for you my fellow sensitives, stay away from these two and for scary, stick to old episodes of Goosebumps and Are You Afraid of the Dark?
Until next time, Fairy blessings,
weekend frame of mind
for the Healing Fairy Alphabet deck. Can you guess which letter?
playing with new color pencil set from Target
Glad you asked. Often students and readers ask me this. Rather then go into a long diatribe that makes their eyes glass over, I share this video I made.
Cool, huh? Flower essences are so great for working with sensitive people because they are non-toxic and we are so darn sensitive that the essence goes straight to what needs healing in a loving, gentle way, giving tons of us insights.
I’m offering FLOWER ESSENCES HEALING in July. You can take advantage of the HUGE sale by signing up now over here.
I am one that will hold on tight to my emotions in order to stay in strength, but sometimes, I need some releasing of the dam to maintain balance or mine erupts. Because I’m not a crier easily, I need to jump-start the process. Perhaps, you are the same. Here are my top Crying Resources to allow me to have a good cry, release, and be back in balance. Drum roll please.
Well, there’s my recommendations. What’s yours? Or, are you the type of crier who needs no help?Add a Comment
A new session of Empath and Fairy Online School starts June 27th, including new class, Tell Your Story. Have you reserved your seat yet? A great way to spend your summer. (And look for special CAMP starting in July. Details coming here).
I am diligently working on book 2 in the Help! I’m Sensitive series. I’ve been pretty much involved in its writing most the year as I collect stories and experiences in my mountain of journals. And here’s the thing, I’d love to hear from you. What problem as a sensitive, do you want to see me cover? Dealing with issues of focus, or maybe, panic attacks? Dealing with insensitive people is your biggest hassle? Use the CONTACT FORM below and speak up. What do you need tools to deal with?[contact-form]
Thank you my dear readers! I appreciate your feedback. Fairy blessings,
I stopped making little films.
It hit me the other day when I felt the urge to make a little film for my social media client. The hunger to make one made itself known with familiar pangs and growls. It had been over a year since I gathered images and wrote a story and this confused me. Why did I stop?
Why do we stop doing what we love? “We lose permission” is the thought that came into my head when I asked this. When I was going to Grad School, I had permission and a structure which included definite expectations and assignments for the reward of a certificate. Most of these assignments involved making little videos to teach our message. I dove into the task with such lust that I knew this was my passion. I experimented with light animation, silly web shows, and personal stories in color pencil. I was always a storyteller, but now I had a vehicle that really matched me.
When school ended, I was left without permission. I needed to dive back into the work world and make money, and the films now seemed impractical. They needed to make a lot of money right away for them to be “worthwhile” and I didn’t know how. So I shut down that part of me.
A few months ago, I told a new friend what I did for a living. I hesitantly included creating little movies. “Oh, that’s a hobby then?” she said. I cringed down into the deep hollow of my stomach. “No,” I replied. “That’s my passion.” The words bursted out on their own before I could stuff them back in.
We stop painting, woodworking, writing songs. We stop crafting, jewelry-making, ceramics painting, doodling and drawing for fun. We become the “grown-ups” who are responsible, accountable, and serious, and if we have a teeny bit of time leftover, we let ourselves indulge. Many folks wait until they retire to have permission. All this withholding creates bitter, depressed, dried up people that take away the joy from the world.
Part of the creative process, whether by career or choice, is the PLAY stage. When scientists discover cures, they are first experimenting, which is their idea of playing. We experiment with tools, play, try out materials and techniques, and what comes out of that process can be very fruitful and helpful to others. When I made my FAIRY GUIDE I was playing in the garden. I wanted to learn about nature and healing. And what came out of those notes was a school that is over eight years old and international, and hopefully, helping many. Engaging in your creative passion is necessary. Nurturing your loves and where your creative impulses are taking you is following your intuition/gut, which is leading you to your greatest success (financially and/or emotionally) and where you need to be. It’s responsible.
I’m self-nurturing now by diving back into movie making. It feeds me like nothing else does. I feel filled up, joyful and 100% me. And it could lead to huge financial success in ways I haven’t even discovered yet, and/or it could just make me happy, and I deserve to be happy.
I give you permission to play, experiment, and dive down into your creative passion.
…that means I might need a day or two to hole up in my cave just to feel my own space or to process my day. It’s especially true when I am processing strong emotions or feelings.
…that means I enjoy my own company.
…that means I overload easily from too much people interaction, noise and activity.
…that means you can give me a pad of paper and some pens and markers and I’m happy for most the day.
…that means I am not trying to be mean when I go back into my cave and need cave time. It’s how I recharge.
…that means I don’t always like talking on the phone and long conversations can be draining.
…that means my physical space is very important to me and I don’t like to be intruded upon. Caves are sacred.
…that means I would hate a whole day filled with non-stop people. I’d feel like I was being swallowed up hole.
…that means I am just a little different then some people and need to be understood.
…that means I do relate the best with other introverts.
Yes, at heart, I am an introvert.
When I need to think clearly and feel my own energy, I head to the forest. Follow the opening in the tree.
The periwinkle is in bloom. Big time fairy flower over here.
Time to hang out for awhile and just enjoy. (check out all the dog hair on my pants)
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Prayers for one of my favorite places, Oak Creek Canyon in Sedona which is being attacked by fires right now.
Fun and Creative Online Classes in EMPATH SCHOOL and FAIRY ONLINE SCHOOL start Friday. Reserve your space!