Just because we homeschool, doesn't mean we want to miss out on things like the first day of school! We are joining a co-op this year that meets once to twice a week, and we started this week with a visit to a local museum. The kids were excited, so we put on their new clothes and backpacks and started our new school year with a bang.

We have a revamped schedule we are working on. Here's what it looks like so far:

5:30 My Personal exercise

6:00 My personal time for prayer and scripture study

6:45 Family Scripture Study and prayer

7:15 Breakfast/Dishes
Fold and put away one load of laundry together
Weekly Worky (Monday-make bread, Tuesday-dust/vacuum, Wednesday-bathrooms, Thursday-windows/mopping, Friday-according to need)
Personal Chores (Get dressed, brush hair and teeth, straighten room...)

9:15 Quick-Pick up

9:30 Pledge of Allegiance
Memorization (write out what we are trying to memorize that day, then memorize through actions, marching to the rhythm, taking turns saying lines...)
Mom School-A mini lesson on whatever I think is lacking (like symmetry/assymetry)

10:30 Read-aloud during snack

11:00 ROW to Know-Quiet, individual reading or writing time

12:00 Lunch-discuss what we learned during ROW

12:30 Math

1:00 Quiet Time

1:30 Free Productive Time (pretty much anything except friends, media, or outside time)

(2:30 Errands if we have any)

3:00 Free Time

5:00 Everyone comes in to prepare for dinner time.

6:00 Dinner/Dishes

6:45 Family Read-Aloud

7:30 Bedtime

9:30 Grown-up bedtime

So, there you have it...our basic outline. And, yes, we are very flexible with it.

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Why do some writers struggle for each word, while other writers have words that seemingly flow from their fingertips?

I’ve Got a Secret!

Are there secrets to being able to write with ease? Does anyone really know what works and what doesn’t?

Well, Daphne Gray-Grant’s article on “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Writers” will give you a lot of food for thought in this area. She studied effective writers to discover their secrets–and has revealed them here.

Make It Personal

Read the article–study it–maybe even journal about it. We all need to periodically consider if we need to develop some new habits–and drop a few old ones.

Is there something you’d add to Daphne’s list? If so, leave it in the comments below. Then make your own list of habits you want to develop to further your writing career. Post several copies where you’ll see them daily–and then watch them transform your writing life.

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Last night we had our young grandkids overnight. Roasted hot dogs and marshmallows, hiked, and made lots of memories. I could have written after they went to bed, but I was too tired!

If you have a family–whether it’s preschoolers and toddlers like I had when I started writing, or grandkids like I have now–it’s something you have to consider when trying to write more. It’s a balancing act, especially if your family comes first in your heart, as mine does.

It’s no good putting the writing before your family and then living in guilt. The guilt will short circuit your writing and create a solid writer’s block. So, how can you make more time to write without short-changing your family? It’s a juggling act!

Tight Rope Balancing Act

In the second Glimmer Train Guide to Writing Fiction (2007), the volume called Inspiration and Discipline, an interesting point was made. A mother/writer was asked about balancing family and writing.

In part, she made this observation: “It’s very hard. There’s no way of glossing it over. It’s very, very difficult. At this point, my children are grown, but still they’re–of course–more important than my work. And that’s how it is… I sometimes think back through history: Were there any great women writers with children? I’ve been unable to find any. Of course, the way history is written, we don’t know…but those whom we know didn’t have children and families.”

I had never thought about that, but my favorite female writers (Jane Austen, Louisa May Alcott, and others) were single women without children.

Can You Be Both Mom and Writer?

What do you think is the reason behind that fact? Is it merely the time needed to raise a family, preventing you giving enough time to the writing? Or is it that both writing and raising children take the same kind of dedication, love, focus, and sheer energy? Can babies and bylines mix? Or if you try to do both, do both suffer?

I don’t personally think either has to suffer, although there are only 24 hours in anyone’s day. You probably can’t be as prolific while raising five kids! You may write five great books instead of ten, but they can still be awesome, award-winning books.

What do you think? I welcome your insights too. In your experience, have you been able to combine writing with having children? Do you have a secret you could share with other (struggling) moms?

If so, please leave a comment!

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Like many families, summertime for us often means traveling by car for long distances. (I’ve learned that going anywhere in Texas means traveling a long distance.)

This summer I re-read an old post on writing while traveling and decided to practice what I preached. I packed the laptop and my novel notes, and we took off.

The Realities

Did I like working on a laptop in the front seat of a compact car? No. I don’t like typing with my elbows close to my waist or trying to find angles where the sun won’t glint off the screen. Happily, we were driving in the dark a good bit of the time, so the sun wasn’t a huge problem.

Did I like writing with the radio blaring? No–I like total quiet to write. Despite the less-than-ideal writing conditions, I was able to write a whole chapter going and half a chapter on the way home. That was about 4,200 new words of a rough draft. If I hadn’t written, what would I have done otherwise? Daydreamed. Napped. Stared out the window.

Additional Benefits

Besides getting the words down, the words written in the car will be very helpful to me later today. When I sit down to write, I won’t have to go back and see what I wrote three days ago and try to remember the emotions of that scene or where I was headed with it. It’s still fresh in my mind from writing in the car last night. I can pick up where I left off with little trouble.

(By the way, I readily admit that writing with no small children in the car is MUCH easier! When my children were little and I didn’t own a laptop, my writing in the car was done with pencil and notebook, using a flashlight after dark. Where there’s a will, there’s a way!)

Dare to Be Flexible

All our best laid plans for setting up a writing schedule can go out the window during the summertime. We don’t live on islands, but instead in families that require our flexibility. So learn to build that flexibility into your writing life.

By all means, have a set schedule and a favorite place that is most conducive for your writing. But learn to go with the flow too–and fit the writing in whenever and wherever you can. Later, you’ll be glad you did!

During the summer and vacation time, what are some other places you’ve discovered that you can write? I’d love to hear about them.

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“Of all things I’ve lost, I miss my mind the most.”

I don’t recall who said that famous line, but occasionally it’s true of all of us. We don’t always need to learn new things. Sometimes we just have to remember some things we once knew–but have slipped from our present-day thinking.

Time Management Re-Visited

Because of Memorial Day this week, plus a lengthy appointment, plus joining a gym, plus speaking at the City Council meeting, plus spending time with my grandkids, my available work hours looked like a piece of Swiss cheese. It was like an old movie, just my own variation: “Honey, I Shrunk the Writing Time.”

I was thinking about it this week and realized I’ve been around this mountain a hundred times over the past thirty years. What did I do before to fix it? Silly as this sounds, I read back through the Writer’s First Aid blog’s time management posts.

Jogging the Memory

One concept that I covered in three posts (thinking like a 9-to-5 office worker) made good sense to me–again. I’m going to re-post those links from over two years ago for those of you who are newer to the blog. Hope you find them as helpful as I did this week!

• Part 1: Thinking Like a Nine-to-Fiver
• Part 2: True Grit for Writers
• Part 3: Changing Our Minds

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I’ve only been up and working for an hour this morning.

Already I’ve counted eleven different distractions or temptations that I’ve had to resist in order to keep working.

Here’s my one-hour list:

• new movie that came from Netflix
• new library book, a mystery by a favorite author
• email from friends
• Snapfish photos sent by a friend
• wanted to call my best friend to tell her something IMPORTANT
• magazine on the kitchen table in the pile of mail
• new SCBWI bulletin on my desk
• do the dishes (they bug me)
• run necessary errand to “get it out of the way”
• respond to Facebook messages from friends
• a helicopter flying in circles over my neighborhood

Some I gave into. (I ran to the window to see if the helicopter was the police in case there was a criminal in my front yard. It wasn’t and there wasn’t.) I read two emails from friends but resisted answering them yet. But it amazed me in just one hour how many distractions there were to deal with!

Similarities

My best friend (who lost 100 pounds several years ago) leads a support group for weight loss. She faces temptations daily to slip back into old habits. Food is pressed on her from TV, magazines, gifts from students, family gatherings, parties, graduation receptions, her husband, and more.

But she’s kept off the 100 pounds because she has a plan. She has plans for social situations, plans for quiet evenings, plans to avoid temptation in restaurants and grocery stores, and nice ways to say “no, thanks” when well-meaning people offer her food. She calls it “mindful eating.”

Writers would do well to have “mindful writing” as well. Your distractions are probably like mine in some ways, different in some ways. But writers, too, need a plan to avoid temptation to get off schedule. Choosing to write from nine to ten this morning is only a small part of the job. Having a plan for dealing with distractions is the crucial other part.

Needing a Break?

Maybe you’ve been writing and editing and researching for an hour or two, and you’re distracted by everything. If so, maybe you need a break. But I would advise copying my friend here too. When she wants to snack, she asks herself, “Am I really hungry?” If she’s not, she might take a short walk or read a book to rejuvenate herself.

Likewise, writers need to ask themselves, “Am I really tired now?” Have you worked long enough to justify being tired? Or are you frustrated or intimidated by your writing and looking for a distraction? If you’re not truly tired, maybe you need to make a better choice too. For example, you might read an article on dynamic dialogue if you’re having trouble in that area.

Mindful Choices

It’s true that you might be really tired and need a break. Take a tip from my friend. Before she makes a food choice, she pays attention to what she’s doing. She chooses something that will benefit her body, like a banana or yogurt (instead my #1 choice: chocolate candy!)

As writers, when we really do need a break, we also need to be mindful. Choose a small break that will benefit your writing. (I’ve listed seven such choices in

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A few weeks ago in “Find a Need and Fill It” I asked for your input concerning the topics you find most helpful in this blog.

Thank you all for the responses! It’s been very helpful. The requests fell into three main categories. Since I blog on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, that made it easy for me. From now on, this will be my general blogging schedule so that I can cover each topic area regularly.

What You Can Expect

Monday = Inner Motivation (includes:)

• fears–all kinds!
• discipline
• focus
• goals
• rejection
• lack of motivation
• encouragement
• a writer’s dream life
• procrastination
• working with our “inner editor”
• enjoying writing more
• perseverance
• creative inspiration
• writer’s block

Wednesday = Outer Challenges (includes:)

• setting boundaries
• time management
• distractions
• discipline
• writing schedules
• goal setting
• balancing writing with chaos in life
• balancing day jobs with writing
• our writing needs (vs. “their” needs)
• self-defeating behaviors

Friday = Tips ‘n’ Tricks of the Trade (includes:)

• specific genre help
• writing books I’ve found helpful
• blogs I find useful
• classes I’ve taken
• voice (writer’s and character’s)
• critique groups
• conferences
• working with publishers
• marketing–all kinds
• considering the audience when writing
• dealing with publishers who don’t respond
• finding good markets
• developing depth in writing
• selling “unique” pieces instead of jumping on the bandwagon

Thanks for Your Input

All your feedback has been immensely helpful in organizing future blog posts and making sure I cover topics you want to hear about and find useful. If I missed anything on these lists, feel free to let me know!

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“Life is what happens when you’ve made other plans.” We’ve all heard that saying. I want to remind you that it’s during these unexpected “life happens” events that you most often lose sight of your writing dreams.

How do we keep that from happening?

According to Kelly Stone in Time to Write, “The only requirement to be a writer is a Burning Desire to Write, coupled with the dedication that that desire naturally creates. Follow that desire up with action and nothing will keep you from success.”

Life Interrupted

I agree with Ms. Stone. Adhere to that formula for success, and you can’t miss. BUT life gets in the way sometimes: personal illness, job loss in the family, sick parents or children, a teen in trouble, a marriage in trouble. It’s at these times when you need to take precautions to keep your dream alive inside you.

Other writers struggle with this too, whether it’s during calm times in life or when there’s more upheaval. “It’s easy to believe that what you do doesn’t matter, but you have to think that it does matter,” says novelist Mary Jo Putney, “that you have stories to tell, and a right to tell them.  You should take the time to yourself to explore this ability. You’ll always be sorry if you don’t do it.”

Practical Tips

There are many tried-and-true actions to take to keep your dream alive. Write out your goals and action plan, breaking it down into small, do-able steps. Set small daily goals, and write–even if it’s only for ten minutes–to stay in the habit. Visualize in great detail having pieces published, autographing your first novel, or quitting your day job to write full-time.

You don’t have time for all that?

Okay, then just do ONE thing. Steve Berry, NY Times bestselling author, said it well: “The number one thing you must do is write. You have to write, write, write, and when you can’t write anymore, write some more.”

Don’t go to bed tonight until you’ve spent at least ten or fifteen minutes writing. Nothing keeps a writer’s dream alive and flourishing like sitting down and writing. Absolutely nothing.

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Last week I took a clear look at my 2010 goals and my office–and was appalled. I started off so great in January! What had sidetracked me to the point that my office was buried under paper–truly couldn’t even see my desk top–and only one of four self-assigned deadlines had been met?

Actually, I’d suspected I was off track about six weeks ago. Knowing I was behind schedule, I worked longer hours, telling myself “it would all work out somehow.” Nose to the grindstone, I just kept pushing.

Did that get me back on track? No! I’m even further away from my goals than before.

I had to stop and admit that I had taken a wrong turn somewhere. I was no longer on the “road to success” that I started down in January. And all the prayer and positive thinking wasn’t going to change that.

What Happened?

I backtracked several months, trying to find out where my train had derailed. Luckily, I journal, so it wasn’t too difficult to find those triggering events. Some of the events were negative, and some positive (which surprised me).

For example, one of my New Year’s Resolutions (goals) was to stay off the Internet until after lunch and write in the mornings. I’d done it for a couple of months, and had a lot of writing to show for it. But one early morning when I had to post something before leaving on a trip, I was on Facebook and up popped an instant message from my deployed daughter in Iraq! Due to the time difference, she was online during my early morning hours. My journal that day reflected the joy I’d felt after instant messaging with her for nearly 45 minutes. After that, I started getting online early in the morning “just in case.” My plan was to see if she was online, and if not, get right off. That lasted less than a week. Soon I was back to checking and answering unimportant email, reading newsletters, and paying bills online–instead of writing.

Messy, Messy

I don’t know about you, but I can’t work in a mess. My office had had piles of paper stacked on the floor and both desks for weeks. It drove me nuts, but since I felt pushed for time, I worked on the kitchen table instead. Why so much mess? All because I dropped a five-minute habit two months ago.

One thing I learned in Margie Lawson’s “Defeating Self-Defeating Behaviors” class was to take 5-10 minutes at the end of the work day and clean your desk. File things away. Get out the first thing you’re going to work on in the morning–but just that one thing sitting on your clean desk. I used to do that–and feel energized just walking into my office.

I spent two days last weekend cleaning it. You can now actually walk INTO my walk-in closet. (Previously it was a lean-in closet, and you had to stand outside and reach for things.) Two big bags full of papers went to be recycled. Everything is now filed in clearly labeled WalMart storage boxes. And I’ve doubled my work output this week just by having the office clean!

Lay New Track

When we make our goals, we plan to follow a straight line to success.  However, if you’re moving away from your goals instead of closer, don’t just reassure yourself with (false) positive statements and keep going down the same path.

Stop! Backtrack. Pinpoint where you made a wrong turn so that you can now make a course correction. Lay some new track–track that’s headed again in the direction you intend.

I’m back to cleaning my office every evening before I quit work. And until my daughter comes home from Iraq, I&rsquo

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My daughter’s expecting her first baby, and it’s fun watching her during this “nesting” season. Today it struck me how much her preparations for a new life are like those plans made by writers who want to write for a lifetime.

Time to Make Changes

My daughter’s changes have included preparing the baby’s room and getting the proper baby equipment. She is also handing over a ministry at church that she runs (and loves), but feels she can’t devote enough time to after the baby is born. And she plans to stop working. I asked if they could afford that, and she said they’d been budgeting for this eventuality for years. (Bless her husband.)

All this nesting has been a dual venture. Her husband is involved, from going to doctors’ appointments and setting up the nursery to being a careful financial planner. They’re on the same team.

Writing Season Preparation

If you want to be successful at your writing and even turn it into a career, you’ll need to make similar changes. The easiest one is setting up a writing space (whether it’s a spare room or just a corner of the bedroom) and acquiring the proper equipment (computer, printer, Internet access).

You may have to give up some volunteer activities for a while, or cut back (or cut out) certain hobbies. For a while, maybe you can’t plant huge gardens or run marathons or belong to three book clubs. Your may also hope to quit your day job. If that’s the case, you’ll need to do like my son-in-law and have a strict budget (probably for years) to prepare for the income cut.

Lastly, involve your family. Writers’ lives always run smoother when the immediate family members are on the same team. Find ways to involve everyone so they don’t feel neglected.

It’s Temporary

My daughter’s nesting season won’t last forever. One day when she’s an old hand at the skills she’ll acquire to balance home and baby, she will (slowly, I hope) begin to add some “extras” back into her life. Maybe not everything, but some things she misses the most.

Likewise, the things you give up so you have time to devote to your writing is for a season. Once you have the writing skills well in hand, you will be able to slowly add back into your life a few of the things you miss most. But give sufficient time to your “writing season” first. You’ll be glad you did!

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In the midst of the doldrums, our writing lives come to a standstill. We stop writing, reading craft books and magazines,  journaling, critiquing, and researching.

There is actually a place near the equator named the Doldrums. Because of shifting winds and calm spots in the area, a sailboat caught in the Doldrums could be stranded for days due to lack of wind. When we’re caught in the writing doldrums, our writing boat is stranded for days too.

What causes this? The Doldrums near the equator are caused by alternating calms and squalls. Super highs and super lows. Hyperactivity and then no activity.

That’s exactly what causes the writing doldrums too.

Uneven Pacing

The cycling back and forth between hyperactivity and doldrums is where many of us live. NOTE: the hyperactivity can be writing-related or nonwriting activity. Writerly hyperactivity includes writing marathons for ten hours, getting caught up in the Twitter-Facebook-LinkedIn-MySpace-blog frenzy, and other ways of operating in hyper-drive. Nonwriting hyperactivity can be rushing from one kids’ activity to another while juggling your day job, a birthday party, a sick parent, and your aerobics class.

Either way, you’re too busy and out of balance. This always–and I do mean ALWAYS–is followed by the doldrums where you just can’t make yourself do a thing. (Partly it’s nature’s way of making you slow down and rest.)

Is this your pattern? If so, you’ve probably noticed that the time spent in the doldrums effectively wipes out how much you gained during the hyper times.

The Solution

Do you get tired of crashing, of having days of no productivity that follow your super productive days? After the flurry of frenzied activity that accompanies your adrenaline rush, your bodies, minds, emotions and spirits shut down. This can be prevented though!

It takes daily discipline, but it can be done. And oddly enough, the discipline that’s called for is slowing down. You want to avoid the hyperactive days–be they writing or nonwriting hyper days–so that the doldrums don’t automatically follow.

To avoid the crash, you have to avoid the frantic days that precede it.

Balance and Pacing

If you want to have a writing career that will go the distance, your best bet is to avoid the extreme highs so you can avoid the extreme lows. Even if you can write five straight hours, it’s better for most people to stop after two hours and take a break. Do something else, something physical. Change gears. Let the adrenaline subside. You can write again later if you have time.

If you’re hyper in the nonwriting world, it may mean saying “no” a lot more often. Not everyone who asks for your assistance needs it nearly as much as you need to stop and take a few deep breaths and relax. Most of us have such an automatic “yes” that we don’t even stop to think or pray about the request. It’s only later–when we’re up till midnight trying to get our own things done–that we realize we agreed to something that we should have declined.

The Pay-Off

The writers who last, who keep producing quality writing, are usually those who have found a way to stay on an even keel most of the time. Then they can write daily, produce pages that add up over time, and still have a balanced life away from the keyboard.

Give yourself permission to get out of hyper drive, and thus avoid the writing doldrums. You’re the only one who can make that change. I urge you–and ME–to begin today.

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In the midst of the doldrums, our writing lives come to a standstill. We stop writing, reading craft books and magazines,  journaling, critiquing, and researching.

There is actually a place near the equator named the Doldrums. Because of shifting winds and calm spots in the area, a sailboat caught in the Doldrums could be stranded for days due to lack of wind. When we’re caught in the writing doldrums, our writing boat is stranded for days too.

What causes this? The Doldrums near the equator are caused by alternating calms and squalls. Super highs and super lows. Hyperactivity and then no activity.

That’s exactly what causes the writing doldrums too.

Uneven Pacing

The cycling back and forth between hyperactivity and doldrums is where many of us live. NOTE: the hyperactivity can be writing-related or nonwriting activity. Writerly hyperactivity includes writing marathons for ten hours, getting caught up in the Twitter-Facebook-LinkedIn-MySpace-blog frenzy, and other ways of operating in hyper-drive. Nonwriting hyperactivity can be rushing from one kids’ activity to another while juggling your day job, a birthday party, a sick parent, and your aerobics class.

Either way, you’re too busy and out of balance. This always–and I do mean ALWAYS–is followed by the doldrums where you just can’t make yourself do a thing. (Partly it’s nature’s way of making you slow down and rest.)

Is this your pattern? If so, you’ve probably noticed that the time spent in the doldrums effectively wipes out how much you gained during the hyper times.

The Solution

Do you get tired of crashing, of having days of no productivity that follow your super productive days? After the flurry of frenzied activity that accompanies your adrenaline rush, your bodies, minds, emotions and spirits shut down. This can be prevented though!

It takes daily discipline, but it can be done. And oddly enough, the discipline that’s called for is slowing down. You want to avoid the hyperactive days–be they writing or nonwriting hyper days–so that the doldrums don’t automatically follow.

To avoid the crash, you have to avoid the frantic days that precede it.

Balance and Pacing

If you want to have a writing career that will go the distance, your best bet is to avoid the extreme highs so you can avoid the extreme lows. Even if you can write five straight hours, it’s better for most people to stop after two hours and take a break. Do something else, something physical. Change gears. Let the adrenaline subside. You can write again later if you have time.

If you’re hyper in the nonwriting world, it may mean saying “no” a lot more often. Not everyone who asks for your assistance needs it nearly as much as you need to stop and take a few deep breaths and relax. Most of us have such an automatic “yes” that we don’t even stop to think or pray about the request. It’s only later–when we’re up till midnight trying to get our own things done–that we realize we agreed to something that we should have declined.

The Pay-Off

The writers who last, who keep producing quality writing, are usually those who have found a way to stay on an even keel most of the time. Then they can write daily, produce pages that add up over time, and still have a balanced life away from the keyboard.

Give yourself permission to get out of hyper drive, and thus avoid the writing doldrums. You’re the only one who can make that change. I urge you–and ME–to begin today.

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Every family is so different when it comes to their homeschool schedules, but we all like to hear what everyone else is doing anyway.

A while ago, I started thinking a lot about our schedule and the ever-present question, "Am I doing enough?"

I took a while to digest the question before I tried to answer it.

I knew that strict schedules didn't work for me or my family. I took a couple of weeks to observe what did work for us and to think about how we could be more efficient and productive with our days.

I concluded that we need a lot of flexibility in our family, but it is nice to have a structure to follow.

I looked at our natural rhythms and how everything fit around naps and mealtimes. Then I took these rhythms and wrote them out into a framework.

Here is the schedule that we have been following for the last couple weeks. It has transformed our lives (without changing them very much.)

I know it won't work for your family. Like I said, every family has their own rhythm.

(Times are flexible, of course.)

7:00 Wake up and take care of personal chores. (get dressed, pick up room, brush teeth)
8:00 Eat breakfast.
        Devotional--Read and discuss a Bible story and work on memorizing our poem of the week.
(9:00 MWF-exercise)
10:00 Snack and Free learning time (pretty much anything except computer/friends)
11:00 ROW to Know (I made this up. It stands for Read or Write to Know. I work on my novel while the kids read or write quietly.)
12:00 Lunch/Discuss what everyone learned during ROW.
12:30 Read-Aloud
1:30 Weekly Worky (M-make bread, T-dust and vacuum, W-clean bathrooms, TH-Mop/Clean windows)
        Free Time
5:00 Prepare for dinner
6:00 Dinner
7:00 Journal of Gratitudes and Inspirations
        Scripture Study
7:30 Bedtime

It's interesting. I hate being stuck to a schedule. We have very few activities scheduled on the calendar. I like to be free to do whatever we are inspired to do, but it's nice to have a framework, too. It's nice to have a rhythm to fall back on or to throw out the window when we feel so inclined.

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Have you ever noticed that we never drift in good directions?

If you want to accomplish anything, it has to be by choice. “Drift” is our default setting when we allow outside distractions to capture our attention. [See Attention! It's a Choice and Pay Attention!]

Have you drifted away from your writing goals this past year?

Looking Back

Recall the last time you set some writing goals. Did your goals include X number of hours of writing per week, or X number of pages produced monthly? Did you perhaps start out with great gusto? Did you continue to consistently write and produce those pages?

If not, it’s because you stopped actively making choices. You let yourself drift.

When the Thrill Wears Off

I love canoeing. Paddling is great exercise for the arms, and gliding across a sparkling blue lake is heavenly. However, when the first thrill of being on the water gives way to tired, cramping shoulder muscles, the tendency is to stop paddling. We rest a bit, and that’s okay, letting our attention wander to the shoreline or herons gliding overhead.

But if you stay focused too long on the wildlife or sunbathers on the shore, your forward motion stops. You begin to drift off course, whichever way the wind is blowing or the current is flowing.

Lost Momentum

Drifting occurs when we stop the forward momentum, and it never takes us the direction we want to go. With that fact in mind, consider the direction of your writing career.

When you made your writing goals, your writing had your attention. You were focused. You paid the price of giving up other distractions. You logged in writing hours and watched the new pages pile up.

But at some point, you got a bit tired. We all do! Something–or someone–caught your attention. And kept your attention too long. Now you’re drifting away from the writing career of your dreams.

Self-Assessment Time

Be honest with yourself about this. Has anything in the past six months or year captured your attention or affection in a way that is distracting you from your goal? Is there a distraction that started out small but has grown so that it takes up way too much of your time? (This could be a hobby or pastime, something that looks harmless or even good.)

Is there anything you need to stop or drop from your life so you can pick up your paddle and get your canoe moving again?

Time for Action

If you’ve drifted from your writing goals, don’t keep on hoping that you’ll somehow magically drift back. You won’t. Drift doesn’t work that way. Drift takes the path of least resistance.

As a reminder: attention –> direction –> destination.

If you want your destination to read “successful writing career,” then you need to be headed in that direction. And in order to head that direction, you must choose to pay attention to your writing. This will probably require you to stop paying attention to something else.

An Honest Look

Be honest with yourself. What shifts in attention do you need to make in order to stop the drift and turn things around? Bite the bullet and make the changes. Start today!

And once you’re headed in the right direction again, guard against drift. Notice the things that compete for your attention. Pause. Take a step back before giving your attention to something. Remind yourself of the destination you want to

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[Suggestion: first read  Attention! (It's a Choice)]

I had only one New Year’s Resolution this year: become consistent.

I was a yo-yo dieter, yo-yo exerciser, yo-yo writer, and yo-yo studier. I knew what to do in each area. Lack of knowledge wasn’t the problem. In each case my problem was consistency (or lack thereof).

What’s Wrong with Us?

Why don’t we consistently give our attention to the things that matter and are worthy of our attention?

When growing up, some parent or teacher was always snapping at us to pay attention. If we didn’t pay attention, we might cross the street in the path of a car, or miss important questions on an exam. Paying attention has always been important–even critical.

So why do we resist paying attention to the things that we claim really matter to us, like our writing (and our health which impacts our ability to write)? The reason is hidden in the phrase pay attention. Attention is a payment you make. It implies a price, a cost. And it’s a price we aren’t always willing to pay.

Is It Worth the Cost?

The true reason we don’t pay more attention to our writing and writing-related activities is because it will cost us something. We’ll have to give up some short-term pleasure that has captured our attention–and this payment feels like a loss. It costs us something.

“It is this cost associated with paying attention to the right things that makes it so difficult to do.” (The Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley) In addition, we know we won’t see any results until sometime in the future. We have been conditioned to want immediate gratification.

Short- plus Long-Term Rewards

I don’t know about you, but when I make the choice to pay attention to my writing (and give up the distractions), I feel better very soon. It boosts my self-esteem, for some reason, and I again feel like a “real writer.” 

The loss associated with turning off the TV or getting off the Internet is very momentary. We make it a bigger deal than it is. Turning back to your writing or studying brings a satisfaction writers can’t get anywhere else. Pay attention to your writing for both daily joys and long-term satisfaction.

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Getting into the writing habit is difficult, especially in the early years of writing. Our lives are full to overflowing already, so where can we possibly fit in some writing? How can we form a consistent writing habit when our schedules change from day to day, depending on our obligations?

Believe it or not, you have more time to write than you think. Keep a time log, tracking how you spend your time for a few days or a week. If you do, you’ll spot “down” time that you use for other things which could be snagged for your writing.

Redirect Your Time

When my kids were very young, I desperately wanted to write. I realized that instead of catching up on laundry and chores during their afternoon naps, I could write. Instead of making beds and doing dishes during the morning half hour of “Mr. Rogers,” I could write. Instead of thumbing through ragged magazines for twenty minutes every Friday afternoon while my daughter got her allergy shots, I could write.

Bed making and dishes and laundry could be done while little ones milled around. I chose to write instead when they didn’t need me. That “nap-Mr. Rogers-allergy shot” schedule became my writing routine until my youngest went to kindergarten. By that time, Atheneum had published my first five middle grade novels.

Hidden Time

“But I really don’t have any free time!” you might truly think. I challenge you to study your schedule very closely. Everyone has pockets of “down” time during the day. It may vary from day to day, but usually it is consistent weekly. (For example, you may sit in the pick-up line at your daughter’s elementary school every afternoon for fifteen minutes. Instead of listening to the radio, write.)

You might free up some time by doubling up on your mindless activities. Most of us multi-tasked before the word became popular, but if you’re not, try it. While supper is cooking, don’t watch the news; pay those bills or wrap those birthday gifts, and free up a half hour in the evening to write. If you want to write YA novels, listen to those young adult books on tape while you walk your dog. You’ll be doing your “market research” for an hour, freeing up an hour later to write.

Get It in Writing

Write down whatever pockets of time that you discover can be used for your writing. Even if it’s only fifteen-minute chunks, note them. You can write an amazing amount in ten or fifteen minutes at a time-and it adds up. You may find these chunks in the “between times.” You might have a bit of time between when the kids get on the school bus and you have to leave for work. Or between your day job and supper, you may have half an hour that you wait on a child at ball practice. (I wrote a lot sitting in bleachers waiting for children at practice.)

Write all these pockets of time down on a weekly schedule and write it on your daily calendar. Make it a habit. Perhaps on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, you write half an hour before work, plus daily you write fifteen minutes before cooking supper, and Saturday morning you write an hour while the kids watch cartoons. That’s four hours of writing in a week, just in the free bits and pieces. Since many of us started writing while caring for small children and/or holding down a day job, this kind of weekly schedule may be the best you can do for a while.

And that’s fine!

Time-Honored Tradition

The highest percentage of today’s famous, best-selling authors admit that their writing schedules were exactly like this in the early years. But they had that “burning desire to write” too. And that desire is what motivates us to find those pockets of time, give the

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Although I sold my first piece of writing twenty-seven years ago, there have been many times that I wondered if I could possibly be a “real writer.” Why? Because many days I didn’t feel like writing–and getting started was always so darned difficult.

Unlike famous writers I read about, I rarely had this burning desire to fly to the keyboard and write. (And I do mean rarely–like three or four times in all these years.)

And yet, I could never quit writing, no matter how discouraging the rejection letters or the markets or the economy. I couldn’t imagine not writing.

The Light Goes On

Last weekend I bought a book with my Valentine’s Day Border’s gift card.  And in the opening chapters of Kelly L. Stone’s Time to Write: professional writers reveal how to fit writing into your busy life, I caught a glimpse of the answer.

I had apparently always harbored a wrong perception of writers and their “burning desire to write.” I actually did have it–I just didn’t know I had it! I fit her description to a T.

I bet you do too!

The Burning Desire

As I read through the descriptions of “a burning desire to write,” a hallmark of life-long writers, I met myself on every page. Here are three of the criteria–see if they apply to you too.

1. It’s a special feeling you get after you write, when you experience that deep satisfaction that nothing but writing can bring you. You feel settled, content. When you don’t write, you feel restless, agitated, and like things aren’t quite okay.
2. A Burning Desire to Write can manifest itself by creating a certain amount of discomfort or aggravation at having to maintain traditional employment because the writer inside wants to be writing instead. You may fear being stuck in a dead-end job that leaves you too exhausted to write.
3. Do you actually like yourself better on days that you write versus the days that you don’t? That’s your Burning Desire to Write coming into play.

Is This You Too?

“No matter what your daily environment,” says author Kelly Stone, “if you yearn to find time to write, please be encouraged, because many people have done it while holding down jobs and juggling multiple responsibilities. Because of your Burning Desire, you are motivated to make time to write.”

Having a life-long desire to write hasn’t manifested itself in ways I had thought it would. And yet, every criteria mentioned in this writing book is something I totally identify with. How about you?

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Have you ever gone in for your annual check-up, sure that you’re doing fine, only to discover you have some unsuspected condition?

Or have you taken your car in for its periodic tune-up (thinking things are fine), only to be told that you need some major part replaced so you don’t crash and burn? In both cases, discovering the unknown problem is a blessing in disguise.

That may be your feeling if you read the wonderful article called “101 Habits of Highly Effective Writers.” You might–like me–start reading the article with the idea that you’re doing just fine. On the other hand, you might realize that although you once had these habits, some of them have slipped–and you need a tune-up.

Not All Habits Are Created Equal

This great list–and I’d recommend printing it out to save for monthly mini check-ups–is broken down into several categories.

• Routine: habits to help you find and maintain a successful writing routine
• The Process: the actual writing you do–and habits to help you
• Inspiration: habits for finding inspiration to improve the quality of your writing
• Improving Your Craft: habits to improve your skills as a writer
• Business: good business habits to make sure you can pay the bills
• Habits You Don’t Want to Have:  habits to avoid if you want to become a successful writer
• Advice from successful writers: a whole list of gems!
• Habits of Famous Writers: the writing habits of the “greats”

What’s Your Score?

I hope you’ll go through the list thoughtfully and make  a note of the habits you need to work on this year. We all have areas that need improvement, but this list is a great practical place to start.

If you’re really brave, leave a comment and share what habits you have well in hand, plus one or two you know you need to work on. We’re all in this together!

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If you answered the list of questions Wednesday about “Where’s My Time Go?”, you may see now that other people’s expectations have taken over your writing time. It’s a common occurrence.

Once you’ve completed your commitments, you need a way to avoid becoming trapped again.

Time-Saving Policies

After you’ve spotted some of your weakest areas, develop policies to cover future requests. For some reason, stating that you have a “policy” about certain things carries more weight with people. Target the areas where you have the most trouble setting boundaries. Some “company policies” might include:

*I have a policy about home business parties. I don’t attend them, and I don’t give them.
*I have a policy that includes no drop-in baby-sitting. I need a minimum of 48 hours notice.
*My policy states that I don’t commit to any event more than (X) months away. (Fill in your personal limit.)
*I choose to help with one party each year at my child’s school. That’s my class contribution, so what party would you like me to help with?
*My policy states that I charge $5 for each ten minutes that parents are late picking up their kids from my day care.

Under-Promise

Sometimes our commitments get out of hand because we want to do such an excellent job everywhere. So learn to under-promise, and later you can over-deliver if you have extra time.

For example, instead of volunteering to help at school the entire day, say you can come and read for one hour. If it turns out that you have extra time when the day rolls around, you can use the time to write or you can “over-deliver” on your promise and stay two hours. You’ll earn a reputation as someone who delivers even more than promised—and yet you’ll have saved time for yourself.

Time Credit Cards

Some of us (I’m guilty!) promise to do things months and months in advance when our calendars are still pristine white. Then six months later, when the event rolls around, our calendars are more jammed than we had anticipated; we regret that we ever agreed to that event or favor.

Too often we commit future time that we believe we’ll have, only to be caught up short later (like a credit card junkie who charges now and is just sure he’ll have the cash to pay it off later.)

Stop charging your time ahead! Cut up your time credit cards. Pay off whatever “time debt” you’ve accumulated at this point, but don’t charge anymore.

If people want you to commit to some volunteer thing more than a month away, simply say, “I don’t commit to things so far ahead. If you want to call me back in (X) months, I will be able to give you an answer then.” At that point, you’ll have a realistic idea of what your month’s schedule looks like.

If you are pressed for an answer (”I need to know now!”), then regretfully tell people that the answer will have to be “no.” (Given that choice, people will wait.)

E-mail and Web Surfing

Limit your Internet time to two periods per day, before and after your work day. Keep it short. Answer crucial e-mail, but skip all the forwarded jokes and poignant stories till later. Unsubscribe from all but the best two or three e-newsletters you receive. Delete the junk without reading it and then close down. According to current workplace statistics, conquering e-mail/surfing addiction can save you a full two or three hours per day.

Assignment: Where is your time going? Do you know? Keep track for a few weeks and be sure. Then begin to implement whatever policies you need in order to safeguar

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Do you feel as if you’re forever running to catch up and keep up? Is finding any time at all to write a challenge for you? If so, you’ll need to simplify your life—choose what really matters—and slow your pace.

But HOW?

Reflective Thinking

With all the noise of modern life and the frantic running around, we have little chance to hear the inner whispers and feel the nudges that try to warn us. “Hold on—this isn’t right” or “You really don’t want to do this.”

Sometimes life gives you the gift of stopping you in your tracks. That happened to me a couple years ago when I ran a fever for eight days and ended up with many sleepless nights to think. I took stock of my rat-face, anything-but-serene lifestyle, and I asked myself some hard questions. If you also want to get off the merry-go-round, take a note pad and jot the answers to these questions pertaining to your own life.

*Why is my life as busy as it is?
*Why have I chosen to commit to so many things?
*What are the costs to me right now of living like this? What are the future costs?
*What tasks/meetings/jobs are no longer necessary? (Only one out of my four cancelled appointments that week needed to be rescheduled. The others, it turned out, weren’t that important.)
*Which activities are things other people thought I should do?
*Which volunteer positions do I no longer enjoy?
*Which professional organizations no longer meet my needs and can be dropped?

This time of reflection was so very profitable. It enabled me to spot three big changes I could make, immediately freeing up about fifteen hours per month.

Should I? Shouldn’t I?

Is your life run according to shoulds (your own or other people’s?) When asked to run a concession stand at your child’s school or attend a make-up or clothing party, do you agree because you feel you should, rather than because you have a real desire to do it? Do you even take time to make a thoughtful decision, or does the should rule?

In a sermon entitled “The Unhurried Life,” the pastor reminded us that “NO is a complete sentence.” In other words, sometimes you can just say no. Or “I’m sorry, but I can’t.” Period. Don’t let people guilt you into doing things you just don’t want to do.

Reassess the value of your time. Is it really more important that you do the volunteer newsletter for your neighborhood association—or that you put that time toward your writing dream? None of us likes to have people mad at us. On the other hand, it may be a price worth paying in order to have a fighting chance to realize your dreams.

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Most writers think it’s procrastination that puts a monkey wrench in their novel progress. But sometimes it can be something a little more subtle: Workcrastination.

I learned about this word from author Tayari Jones on her blog:

“[T]here is another, more sneaky, incarnation– Workscrastination.

This is when you blow off your novel for important stuff that needs doing, not fun stuff, but necessary stuff.”

Sometimes the things you “have” to do can start to sip away on your writing time. When you have a day job and/or other “required” responsibilities, it’s easy to justify that you must do them.

For me, with a major software release on April 1st (I know right — the irony), this month will be a major exercise in the delicate balance of getting my day job work done and not stressing out revising the last chapters of the novel.

When you have required things that must be done, you have to be ruthless. You have to learn to say “no” and stick to your schedule.

This may mean saying “no” to social gatherings or not watching so much TV or even talking with your loved ones about honoring your writing time.

Because workcrastination will become a major factor of not finishing your novel.

Your novel is important to you, and it deserves to have your full attention during the time you have set aside for it.

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I spent much of last week sick in bed, but it gave me a chance to read more than usual. I got a couple of “aha!” moments from the book I was reading (Who Switched Off My Brain?) mentioned last week.

The book deals with what the author calls “the Dirty Dozen” areas in our lives where we create our own problems, often by well-meaning efforts. This toxic behavior can derail our purpose in life and steal our dreams–including our writing dreams.

Two of the dirty dozen that hit me between the eyes was “toxic seriousness” and “toxic schedules.” And I knew that I’d stumbled across two of the reasons I was sick instead of fighting off common viruses.

AHA! #1

I’ve known for years that negative emotions like anger and unforgiveness can literally make you physically sick. But did you know that an absence of fun in your life can make you sick too?

Laughter IS the Best medicine!

For a lot of reasons, I grew up with the firmly entrenched idea that “life is a serious matter.” People who didn’t take life seriously annoyed me. I thought they simply didn’t understand the situation!

Well sometimes life is no laughing matter, but you still need to incorporate more fun in your life. [I finally understood why I felt so much better physically after spending time with my grandkids, despite being tired. I laugh a lot more on those days!]

Did you know this? Studies show that “a really good belly laugh can make cortisol drop by 39% and adrenalin by 70%, while the ‘feel-good hormone,’ endorphin, increases by 29%…Laughter boosts your immune system by increasing immunity levels and disease-figthing cells.”

Another medical study showed that humor gets both sides of your brain working together, which is so necessary to writers. We need to be both creative and editor-minded (left-brained and right-brained) in order to do our best writing.

So take time to bring fun into your life today–and every day. Look for the humor in situations–or even yourself. Watch a funny video. Read something that tickles your funny bone. Tell a joke!

AHA! #2

In my case, I realized over the weekend that my “toxic seriousness” went hand-in-hand with what the author called “toxic schedules.” One had a direct impact on the other. My overly serious attitude about life leads to an over-scheduled week that doesn’t work unless I invent a 48-hour day. And, of course, a packed schedule adds pressure and just reinforces an overly serious attitude.

Current brain research shows that there’s a lot more at risk than just being tired when you over-schedule yourself. Of particular interest to writers, without sufficient relaxation in your lifestyle, “you will become a less effective thinker, defeating your ability to accomplish the mental tasks that stole our relaxation in the first place. In fact, for the brain to function like it should, it needs regroup/consolidation time. If it doesn’t get this, it will send out signals in the form of high-level stress hormones, some of which are epinephrine, norepinephine and cortisol. If these che

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According to the National Science Foundation, the average person has about 12,000 thoughts per day, or 4.4 million thoughts per year.

I wager that writers are well above the average because we read more and writing causes us to think more than the average.

Who’s In Charge?

I had known for a long time that our thoughts affect our emotions, and that toxic “stinking thinking” could derail our writing dreams and health faster than almost anything. You are the only one who can decide whether to reject or accept a thought, which thoughts to dwell on, and which thoughts will become actions.

But sometimes–a lot of the time–I felt powerless to actually do anything about it on a consistent basis. Sometimes I simply felt unfocused and overwhelmed.

Need a Brain Detox?

I’ve been reading a “scientific brain studies” book for non-science types like me called Who Switched Off My Brain? by Dr. Caroline Leaf Ph.D. which has fascinated me. With scientific studies to back it up, it shows that thoughts are measurable and actually occupy mental “real estate.” Thoughts are active; they grow and change, influencing every decision we make and physical reaction we have.

“Every time you have a thought, it is actively changing your brain and your body–for better or for worse.” The author talks about the “Dirty Dozen”–which can be as harmful as poison in our minds and our bodies.

Killing Our Creativity

Among this dozen deadly areas of toxic thinking are toxic emotions, toxic words, toxic seriousness, toxic health, and toxic schedules.

If you want to delve into the 350+ scientific references and pages of end notes in the back of the book, you can look up the studies. But basically it targets the twelve toxic areas of our lives that produce 80% of the physical, emotional and mental health issues today. And trust me. Those issues have a great deal to do with you achieving your goals and dreams.

There Is Hope!

According to Dr. Leaf, scientists no longer believe that the brain is hardwired from birth with a fixed destiny to wear out with age, a fate predetermined by our genes. Instead there is scientific proof now for what the Bible has always taught: you can renew your minds and heal. Your brain really can change!

Old brain patterns can be altered, and new patterns can be implemented. In the coming days, I’ll share some more about the author’s ”Brain Sweep” five-step strategy for detoxing your thoughts associated with the “dirty dozen.”

But right now I’m going to read about the symptoms of a toxic schedule. I have a suspicion…

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All of our actions have results, or consequences. That’s not news to anyone. And yet, do we act like we believe that?

Not all that often.

Too many writers (myself included sometimes) believe that if we work our hardest and try our best and keep a good attitude, we’ll end up successfully published. Why? Because we have good intentions. But it’s “direction-not intention-that determines our destination,” says Andy Stanley in his new book The Principle of the Path.

Here’s a simple illustration. You may intend to be a great archer. However, if you work hard, shoot arrow after arrow, and lift weights to have stronger biceps-but don’t pay attention to direction-shooting arrows is a waste of your time. Oh, you might luck out and hit your target once in a blue moon, but that’s about it. Sadly, many writers approach their careers like this.

Good Intentions-No Direction

In every part of your life (health, relationships, writing career) you’re moving in some direction toward a specific destination. We don’t end up at that destination out of luck or sheer hard work or good intentions or because “it all worked out somehow.” Destination is the end result of the choices you made yesterday, added to the ones you make today, added to the ones you make tomorrow.

There are paths we choose that lead us to destinations we never intended, and there are paths we’re on right now that are leading us away from-not toward-our dreams and goals. If we’re headed in the wrong direction, no matter how good our intentions or how hard we work, we won’t reach our goal.

Personally Speaking

It’s the decisions you make on a daily basis that determine your path and your destination. For example, for many reasons I want to be super-healthy the older I get. I want it more than most other things because it affects all areas of my life. I know a lot about nutrition and exercise and weight loss and what my body needs to run its best. A healthy body is my intention and has been for years.

BUT the daily decisions I made last year to eat candy instead of the hated vegetables, to watch a movie instead of go running, and skip the weights work-outs have NOT led me to great health in 2010. My path led to higher cholesterol, higher blood pressure, much less stamina, and more headaches. (I bet you can guess what my goals are this year!)

Writerly Direction Needed Too

I see writers doing the same thing. They’ve got their goals written down, they’ve set deadlines for themselves, they’re determined to finish that novel and submit it, and ultimately they want to be published. They knock themselves out to create websites, network on Facebook and LinkedIn and writer chat rooms, write newsletters and blogs-but they never have time to actually do much writing. They spend so little time actually writing that they don’t improve.

Despite their great intentions, their daily choices are not taking them in the direction they want to go. (That’s my main reason for staying off the Internet till the afternoon, as mentioned in my Not-to-Do

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As one of my time-saving endeavors in 2010, I made what my best friend calls a Not-to-Do list. I couldn’t squeeze more writing into my day unless I eliminated some things. Once I identified many of the problems, fixing them wasn’t that hard!

And a Not-to-Do list really works too. The first week in January I was able to add 16 hours of writing time to my schedule, and the second week I added 15 hours. I was thrilled with the changes—and believe it or not, I’m finished earlier in the day and able to take all of Sunday off.

I’ll share my list, and then I hope you’ll leave a comment and share something you’ve given up to make more time for writing. Altogether, we could generate a really helpful list! 

The List

Since what you don’t do often determines what you can do, let the weeding out process begin!

1.      I use my answering machine and don’t take calls from numbers I don’t recognize. I let it go to Voicemail on my answering machine, which is turned up so I can hear the message. If it’s important, I can interrupt the message and take it. Nine times out of ten—or more—it can wait.

2.      I don’t get on the Internet at all until 2 p.m. This has been the single most beneficial change I’ve made this year. I let my kids and friends know my new schedule and said to call me if they needed an answer about something before that time. If I answer email before that, I’m stuck online for several hours, flitting from site to site.

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