What has happened to our society? Why are we so intolerant of our mates? I heard last week that people no longer have a “7 year itch”, it is more like a“3 year itch” now.
I started thinking about all my friends and neighbors that are no longer married, or have gone through a few marriages already themselves. Why? When I start talking to my kids’ friends, almost every one of them come from a home of a single mom, mother living with a boyfriend, or once in a while no, 1% of the time living with both parents.
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This is my attempt to show you what my brain sees from Margie’s Window as I gaze out on our neighborhood |
As I started looking around my own neighborhood I realized that we are the only house out of the immediate homes around us that are still married since we moved here three and a half years ago.
I found this article on the internet, thought I’d share it with you.
Seven-year itch now down to three years: Why?
Posted by David W Freeman
Weight gain by a partner, lack of money, snoring, and overexposure to the in-laws are top passion-killers, the Daily Mail reported. Did someone say lack of racy underwear? That's another biggie, along with toenail clippings left on the bathroom floor.
What explains couples' lack of tolerance?
"Longer working hours combined with money worries are clearly taking their toll on modern relationships and we are seeing an increasing trend for solo holidays and weekends away from marriages and relationships in order to revive the romantic spark," Judi James, the pollster who oversaw the survey, told Reuters.
The survey of 2,000 adults in steady relationships - commissioned by Warner Brothers to promote the release of its new comedy, "Hall Pass" - showed that couples spend less time in the bedroom as they become more annoyed with each other. Fifty-two percent of couples in new relationships reported having sex at least three times a week, as compared to 16 percent of those whose relationships were at least three years old, according to Reuters.
Couples seem to compensate by spending more time alone and taking separate vacations, according to Reuters.
What can couples do to keep the home fires burning? Recognize that love is tough, and that it's perfectly normal to think about straying as relationships evolve. That's the word from Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz, the authors of "Building a Love that Lasts" and bloggers for Psychology Today. But the Schmitz's simplest observation may be the best piece of advice for couples. (end of article)
I don’t expect women to stay with someone who is abusive or anything. But, after 23 years of marriage I think I know how hard it can be. Anyone who knows me knows that. Love is not easy, marriage isn’t easy. I was widowed at 26, stayed single for five years before remarrying. Life is what you put into it. My husband and I look forward to growing old together, losing our hair, getting wrinkles. Yes, our bodies are not the same. And personally thong underwear rubbing in my crack is not sexy! Maybe it is all those damn sexy underwear rubbing us raw, caus
I love ghost stories. And I mean ghost stories, rather than horror stories. If truth be known I am the world’s most squeamish person. I really do hate the sight of blood, which is the only reason why I haven’t seen Sweeney Todd yet. Anyway, enough of my foibles. I have been looking for an excuse for posting an excerpt from our book Mother Leakey and the Bishop: A Ghost Story, by Peter Marshall, for ages, but so far haven’t been able to come up with one. So, today I am posting it for no other reason than I really loved this book of literary detective work, and I hope you will too. Enjoy!
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I am so fortunate to be blessed with the most wonderful mother in the whole world. She has been an endless source of beauty, creativity, support and encouragement throughout my entire life. She is so caring and gives so much of herself and her time, not to mention she is an amazing cook. My greatest example of a woman has always been my mother.
Today is all about you Mom and I thank God that I am so truly blessed to be your daughter. I wish I could be there to spend this day with you and celebrate with you and Dad today. You are always in my thoughts and prayers and I'll be home in 3 weeks! XOXOXOX
Eve Mason Ekman is co-author of Mothers on the Fast Track: How a New Generation Can Balance Family and Careers with her mother, Mary Ann Mason. Their book is a guide for young women facing the tough decision of when - and if - to start a family. Eve, a young woman herself, weighs in on the difficulty below.
At twenty-seven, with a newly minted degree in social work and a host of personal and professional projects that keep my free days full with trips to the dark room or editing in cafes, the idea of children seems like a black hole. A hole that is unfathomably large, un-navigable and unknowable. This is not because I do not want children. I do. It is not even because I have not found the person who I would consider to be a life partner. It is the of dozens of women I have spoken to with children, trying to balance their careers and families that have me spooked, these women seem to feel fried. Their stories are as effective as some sort of public advertising campaign to warn me away from drugs. (more…)
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note: This article first appeared at The Women’s Media Center.
by Joyce Antler
Jewish mothers have gotten a bad rap—for being overprotective, overfeeding, intrusive, manipulative, guilt inducing. The list is easily extended. It is almost impossible to remember that the Jewish mother idea, like other stereotypes attached to ethnicity and gender, is a creation of the media–celebrated, or rather, denigrated, in films, television, radio, fiction, drama, and on the nightclub stage. She is not real at all. (more…)
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that is so true....I always say marriage is hard work..never mind the inlaws, siblings & friends...but when you marry young as I did you actually grow up in your marriage! I truly beleive opposites do balance each other... its just getting through those early years as you say.
Oh Denise you are so right! Yes, inlaws, siblings..... wow, I have forgotten about those from the early days. Oh my. Yet, we made it. Now we are like a good wine, aged with yrs.