Betrayal is the number one deal breaker, it is one of the most devastating experiences a person will ever endure. It is more than a psychologically damaging event, it is a physical insult to the deep limbic system. Betrayal inflicts wounds to our senses which are played out by the body's chemical response network. Neurotransmitters fall out of balance. Brain chemistry churns out feelings so painful, so devastating, it often seems as if we cannot possibly survive into a new moment because the one we are living in is so hurtful, so filled with suffering, we are too stuck to imagine a new door will ever open. I am dealing with this in my life today. I will have to deal with it for many tomorrows that come, because the injury caused by this kind of event requires an entire overhaul of ones personal life, including plans, dreams,hopes, goals, beliefs, trusts, reality. I will ache and I will heal. I will pause to learn, and I will move forward. I've endured similar pain before, yet never this much betrayal. But I will be okay.
Joanie,
What happened?
As you know, more than 20 years ago, the man I loved for almost 30 years, the father of my children, abandoned me and even sued me for harrassment (in court!) for sending him a birthday card.
The result: while I was suing him for support, I met my wonderful 2nd husband, John . .. who has provided me with a good life ever since.
Courage! Life has good things for you, too.
Ilene
I sent you a private letter to let you know. I spent last summer working intensive depression therapy. Looks like I get to spend this summer rehabilitating a broken heart. Looks like Joanie's single again!