by Bitsy Kemper
Ah, the life of an author. Writing, creating…it evokes images of stretched legs and hammocks by the sea.
Yeah, right. Sometimes I’d rather clean the toilet. Let’s face it. No matter how much we love what we do, and no matter how easily words may flow, there are days when it’s still work. To be a good writer, nay, a great writer, we are faced with days and days of less fun and more work. But hey, it’s still fun. And usually better than grabbing a scrub brush.
With an easily-distracted brain (IS THAT CHOCOLATE?), my biggest challenge is focus. When faced with a deadline or obstacle, my mind tends to freak out. It wanders about like a baby that’s just learned to crawl. (“Oh, I need to see that up close. Oh wait, there’s something shiny, was that always there? Can I eat it?”) Sometimes it sprints like an escaped prisoner and doesn’t come back for days.
When I *have*to focus, I usually can’t.
I figured I could better harness that energy by creating a blog. After all, writing is writing, right? In July I created a WordPress account and literally went live within five minutes. Then I spent 105 minutes picking out a font. Background color? Agonizing. Theme? Changed it four times. I could easily spend five hours a day refining and fine tuning to get it just right. And not one minute would be spent writing. That recently-sprung prisoner called distraction would be laughing all the way to the bank.
Creating or maintaining a blog isn’t the same thing as writing one. But you can’t do one without the other, not if you want to do it well. All the time I spent obsessing over managing formatting ate away at the time I could have spent writing it. Or better yet, working on a manuscript. There’s only so much time in a day, and we need to spend it wisely. (Oh, crap, did I just turn into my grandfather?)
Some of you are very good at writing a pithy post, hitting enter, and going back to your regularly-scheduled program. You impress me. But my brain won’t let me off that easy. “Was there an extra space after the fifth sentence? Would this look better in blue? Maybe I could take a few pictures to post along with it…hang on, I’ll grab my camera…” Next thing you know I’m knee deep in gifs and jpegs and have completely forgotten the purpose was to write.
Here’s the deal: WordPress ISN’T WHAT I DO. It’s not what defines me. Sorry, blog, I mean I like you and all, but you are not what I wake up in the morning eager to work on. You are not what I think about all day and can’t wait to work on again once the kids are asleep. You are not what kept me from falling asleep last night because of all those great story ideas resulting from an otherwise painful trip to the mall. Yes, I will tend to you, dear blog, but not at the expense of my other writing progress. I can’t hand you the steering wheel.
I set the blog up only to walk away because it aggressively detracted me from my one true love: working on my manuscripts. (To think they just waited patiently for my return! They are so good to me.) My blog is imperfect and I hate that. But sometimes “good enough” has to be, well, good enough.
Bottom line: if there is only enough time in the day to get one thing right, it’s gonna be my manuscript, not my blog. I won’t be a better writer if I use the blog as a distraction away from my “real” writing, the way I use my writing to distract me from cleaning the bathroom (honestly, you’d think it’d be spotless by now).
Maybe you can replace the word “blog” with “Facebook” or “crying baby” or something else from your own life; we all have that one big distracter that keeps us from staying on track. The trick is to fight the temptation, tame the beast, focus focus focus.
Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.
Now I’m off to finish those revisions my editor needs next Thursday. Sorry, bathroom and blog, you’re gonna have to wait.
Bitsy Kemper is author of six educational picture books and one nonfiction YA that’s due 2014. Interestingly, her passion is humorous middle grade and creative, fictional picture books, but real life (or is it her blog?) has a way of interfering with finding their perfect publisher…
Busy with three kids (four if you count her husband), Bitsy has stayed focused long enough to present at writer conferences and schools from NY to CA. She’s enjoyed using her corporate background to create custom business plans for fellow writers who would rather clean toilets than market themselves. Follow her at @BitsyKemper or BitsyKemper.com.
Now stop reading and get back to writing!
Wow. Did you just crawl inside my head? My blog is definitely my favourite distraction tool of late. *blush*
Thanks for the reminder to prioritise.
Bitsy, I can So relate to this! I was snickering because my blog gobbles up a lot of my time in the ways you described. Fortunately, I enjoy blogging. Well, most of the time.
Sometimes my writing is a guilty pleasure. Sometimes it is the last thing I get to, but when I can find a time to focus on it I’m surprised by what creative thoughts are hidden there waiting to burst through .. and not onto my blog page.
Thank you for this. Today is going to be a writing day.
Brilliant post! Thanks, Bitsy!
Dear Bitsy,
Thank you for your stay focused, no delaying, and take time for yourself post…A pleasure to read!
Thanks Bitsy. I had to start going to BA (bloggers anonymous) and admitting my distraction blog was eating up my soul. I am glad to know that others get caught up in it too. It’s so embarrassing when a writer friend points out a tiny flaw, and it sends you on a 30 minute binge of making it all pretty.
Ha! This post was my distraction from the blog post I’m writing. Thanks, Bitsy.
So true! So true! The thing about writing (which is loads of fun once I actually begin) is that there are always at least a dozen things I must do first. And don’t get me started on blogging. I spent hours setting one up a few months ago–and haven’t written a word yet.
After reading this, I feel it is not necessary for me to have a blog. I have been feeling like, it was a necessity. Thank you.
Totally agree on the focus thing and the lack of it. Life can interfere at times and there are some things you just don’t want to miss. Taking a advantage of the times creativity takes precedent over milestones. Great post!
I, too, have a love/hate relationship with my Twitter account and lack of blog! It’s not that I don’t see their purpose but I’d just SO much rather be writing my manuscripts. Thanks for helping me realize there are others in my boat, Bitsy.