A little over a year ago, someone I care about called to tell me they had to terminate their pregnancy. My heart skipped a beat. I'd been her biggest cheerleader concerning the pregnancy. Her first child died at a few months old. This friend had an illness that prevented healthy pregnancies. Was afraid to try again. So she'd adopted a newborn girl.
She'd finally been able to have another pregnancy. Everyone was so excited. What in the world would make her choose termination? It just wasn't like her. Then she told me it was an ectopic pregnancy. My heart broke.
I had no idea what to say. There are never good words when a person faces such tragedy.
Sometimes life termination just has to be. Not because of inconvenience. But because the child was growing in her tubes. So I told her.
"That was not an abortion."
She broke down and cried. I begged her not to feel guilty. I told her I would pray. She did not deserve to have to end a life. It was hard for her. So hard. Tubal pregnancies do not end in success. And I had no right to spout conservative values.
The more I pray, the more I know sometimes stuff just happens. Everyone has troubles in their lives. I am learning to just be quiet. Be still. People need to hear the voice of Jesus, not the opinions of a Christian.
Selah.
I love you, my Princesses. Have a beautiful day. Jesus loves you. If you don't know Him, email me and we can remedy that. If you have any comments, thoughts, or questions, the comment box is below. And feel free to follow us. We love to make new friends.
Love Always,
Jae
For the mom who doesn't know where her kid is tonight. The aunt raising her nephew because her sister would rather have a boyfriend than a kid. The parent whose children are using drugs. Or the grandma mommy who has a toddler with anxiety disorders. For the daughter who's been abandoned by her parents. The wife who just received the dear Jane letter from her spouse. Or the teenage girl standing outside the abortion clinic. For those struggling to understand why a loving God would allow such cruelness in the world.
He hears you.
He knows your pain.
He is right by your side.
He knows your every thought
and loves you anyway.
Jesus went to the cross for you friend. He loved you enough before you ever entered your mother's womb to lay down His life as a sacrifice for whatever you are facing right now. And He will still love you whether you make the correct decisions or not. Whether your faith is of a mustard seed. Whether you are contemplating suicide or checking into the local rehab. Jesus is with you, my darling. And He will not ever go away. Cling to Him. He is right beside you. Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel His presence. He really is right there. I know, because when I am at my lowest of lows, I feel Him when I don't feel as if I am loved by any other.
by Crystal J. Otto
I’ve enjoyed sleeping for as long as I can remember. My mom may tell a different story about childhood naps and early bedtimes, but as far as I am concerned, sleep is a very necessary and enjoyable activity. I sleep, therefore I dream, and in recent years I’ve incorporated my dreams into my journal. Journaling my dreams has provided me with fabulous material for short stories and blog posts and has also given me ideas on how to enhance my writing to make it more vivid and exciting for the reader.
I’ve suggested dream journaling to those who have diagnosed themselves with ‘writers block.’ I personally have found that dream journaling is a great way to stop those recurring dreams or those that end too soon. Recurring dreams and those that end in the middle seem to have one thing in common—something needs attention or closure. I’ve found that by writing down what I remember about the dream and then adding the unfinished details I can find the closure my sleeping self was looking for. This may not come naturally at first, but the more you journal the easier it gets.
My most recent example was a dream where I was visiting the doctor and he was about to give me some important news, and my alarm starting blaring and I woke up. I had that unsettled feeling, and I grabbed my journal later in the day and wrote a happy ending in which the doctor explained that I was expecting a child. I went on to write about a textbook pregnancy, quick delivery, and gorgeous baby girl with blue eyes and blonde hair. Those unsettled feelings were quickly replaced with joy, pride, and excitement!
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This reminds me of author Eric Maisel's "sleep thinking" technique that I haven't used in awhile. Before you sleep or nap, you give yourself a prompt like "I wonder what should happen next?” (in your story/novel), or "I wonder what creative project I should work on next?" or whatever. You try to just wonder about it vs. worrying. A lot times your mind works stuff out as you sleep-ponder!
MP - I can't wait to read more about Eric's technique. What a great idea, thank you so much for sharing! (for anyone else interested, I found Eric's book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Sleep-Thinking-Revolutionary-Problems-Creativity/dp/1580624456)
Marcia and Crystal: I actually do this. I did it with my YA novel that I NEED to send out and with my current WIP--a mg mystery. It works. For some reason, I always write better once I've done it.
Margo - I'm starting to think that I can tell my husband that an afternoon nap is a mandatory part of the creativity process, right? It wouldn't really be a nap, it would be 'work related'...:)
Neat idea, Crystal, and I love the story about how you found out your daughter was on her way! Now I want to check out Eric's book, too.
Thanks Renee! A side story about my daughter was the VERY real dream that I had 2 days before she was born and in the dream she was a cat ... I wish I had re-written that one, but life re-wrote that one for me instead! lol
Thanks for the reminder, Crystal! I used to dream journal all the time using Eric Maisel's technique before I even knew it existed! I didn't use it for stories; I used it for questions I had about life. I would write the question down and then dream on it with a journal, pen, and a flashlight on my nightstand. But I really like your idea of using it for those recurring dreams. :)
You'll have to let me know if it works for your recurring dreams Angela - I was incredibly relieved when I could move forward. I'm curious if it will work for others. Dream on!
I'm glad to know about Women on Writing. Thanks for sharing.
Glad to share - thanks!
About five years ago, I bought a "dream journal" that I keep close and when I wake up, I fill it out. You find a lot of patterns when you reread it. At least I do.
Dream Journal from Journals Unlimited - "Write It Down" series
LuAnn - you bring up a good point. I probably don't look at my dream journal as often as I should ... but I bet there are a lot of patters. Thank you for bringing this up, now I have a plan to pick up my journal from last year this time and see if the patterns are related to time of year and such (which for me, they likely are).
~Crystal