A little over a year ago, someone I care about called to tell me they had to terminate their pregnancy. My heart skipped a beat. I'd been her biggest cheerleader concerning the pregnancy. Her first child died at a few months old. This friend had an illness that prevented healthy pregnancies. Was afraid to try again. So she'd adopted a newborn girl.
She'd finally been able to have another pregnancy. Everyone was so excited. What in the world would make her choose termination? It just wasn't like her. Then she told me it was an ectopic pregnancy. My heart broke.
I had no idea what to say. There are never good words when a person faces such tragedy.
Sometimes life termination just has to be. Not because of inconvenience. But because the child was growing in her tubes. So I told her.
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Blog: I Am Still A Princess (Login to Add to MyJacketFlap)
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Hi, everybody! Yep, it’s time. Back by popular demand (and to remind myself, in addition to all of you), it’s the New Year’s Eve Ritual. Here’s how it goes:
Years ago a friend of mine told me about his Korean mother-in-law’s tradition for New Year’s Eve. Her theory was that you want to go into the new year the way you want the rest of the year to go. If you want abundance, ease, order, fun, etc., these are among the things you do:
- Fill your car with gas.
- Fill your cupboards and refrigerator with groceries.
- Put money in your pocket.
- Catch up on your bookkeeping/bills.
- Clean your house.
- Catch up on your laundry and ironing.
- Clear out any old clothes in your closet that don’t fit or that you don’t absolutely love anymore, and give them away so someone else can start enjoying them right now.
- Catch up on your beauty routine (get a fresh haircut or color your hair, do your nails, shave/wax, etc.)
- Eat the kind of food that you love.
- Pick an event for yourself on New Year’s Eve that symbolizes the kinds of things you want to do more of in the coming year.
That’s just the base list to get you started. The fun is in adding your own items year by year. Maybe you want to spend the day reading, to make sure you read more books in 2015. Or maybe you want to see a great movie. Or spend time with your loved ones. Or get more sleep! Pick something you’ve been meaning to move to the top of your list for the coming year, then treat yourself to it right away. We all need to practice being sweeter to ourselves. The day leading into the new year seems like an excellent time to start.
Enjoy your fresh start! And Happy 2015 everyone!
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Lessons going out this morning on this lovely, but a little cloudy October Fairy Friday. Energetically, that’s been one hell of a week, hasn’t it? We need a vacation! Some place warm and happy. For today, I give you a little excerpt from the Fairy Healing the Feminine class, which was one of my favorites to create. (By the way, another session starts this weekend and sign-ups open here).
This one is so timely for me, as I found myself giving too much out and not getting even the basics of what I needed. When that happened, I came to the conclusion that I would have to give out much less AND that when I don’t have what I need, I am at such a disadvantage to be able to give out at all. Time to scale back.
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Now that I’ve outed myself as the secret author of books by Elizabeth Ruston, I can freely talk about one of the concepts in the book Love Proof.
We writers always hear “Write what you know!” Well, I’ve known many of the things I wrote about in Love Proof, including the life of a striving law student, the beginning uncertain years of practicing law, the sometimes disgusting personalities of some of the lawyers you have to deal with, and yes, even the unexpected excitement of accidentally falling in love with your opposing counsel. Yeah, that happens.
But I’ve also known the kind of poverty Sarah Henley experiences in the book. And that was really interesting for me to write about, because I know I still have some vestiges of that poverty mentality deep inside my brain. And I have to actively make choices to move myself past that way of thinking.
One of the things Sarah does in the book to deal with her own poverty mentality is to create a Flourish List. It’s an idea that came to me a few years ago, and something I tried for myself before ever putting it into my fiction.
The name comes from both definitions of flourish: “an extraneous florid embellishment” (or as Sarah puts it, “something I want, but don’t actually need”), and “a period of thriving.”
I don’t know about you, but at times I am MUCH too stingy with myself. I call it frugality, but sometimes it’s just being harsh for no great reason. Perfect example from last night: I was down to maybe the last half-squeeze on my toothpaste tube, and I could have forced out that last little bit, but I decided to make a grand gesture of actually throwing it away–that’s right, without it being fully empty (call the frugality police, go ahead)–and treated myself to a brand new tube. I’ve had to give myself that same permission with bars of soap that have already broken into multiple parts that I have to gather together in a little pile in my palm just to work up a decent sud. Lately, out they go, fresh bar, and if I feel guilty, I know it will pass.
So where did this new radical attitude come from? A few summers ago while I was backpacking in a beautiful section of the South San Juan mountain range in Colorado, I had an afternoon to myself when I sat out in a meadow, my faithful backpacking dog at my side, while my husband took off to fish. And as Bear and I sat there looking at the small white butterflies flitting over the meadow flowers, the thought occurred to me that those butterflies were not strictly necessary. Not in their dainty, pretty form. They could have been ugly and still done the job. Or they could have left their work to the yellow and brown butterflies–why do we need the extra? But having pretty white butterflies is a form of nature’s flourish.
And that led to the companion idea that if flourish is allowed in nature, wouldn’t it be all right to have some of it in my own life?
So right then and there I pulled out pen and paper and started making my Flourish List. Spent an hour writing down all the things I’d wanted for years and years, but never allowed myself to have. I’m not talking about extravagances like a private jet or a personal chef, I’m talking about small pleasures like new, pretty sheets (even though the current ones were still in perfectly good shape); new long underwear that fit better; a new bra; high-quality lotion from one of the bath and body shops; fancy bubble bath. The most expensive item on my list was a pillow-top mattress to replace the plain old Costco mattress we’d been sleeping on for the past twenty years.
I gave myself the chance to write down everything, large or small, just to see it all on paper. And you know what? It wasn’t that much. I had maybe fifteen items. Then, still sitting out in that meadow, I did a tally of what I thought it would all cost. I knew the mattress would probably be very expensive, so I estimated high (no internet connection out there in the wilderness, otherwise I could have researched actual numbers). I think I ended up estimating about $3,000 for the whole list. And that sounded pretty expensive to me. So I just put the list away and promised myself I’d start buying some of the cheaper items when we got home.
And I did. New underwear. Vanilla lotions and bubble baths. New sheets. And finally, a few months later, a pillow-top mattress, on sale, less than $400. By the time I checked off the last item on my list last fall, I had spent less than $1,000. That might still sound like a lot, but in the greater scheme I felt like it was too small an amount to have denied myself all those little pleasures all those many years. Especially if I had bought myself one of those items every year–I know I never would have noticed the cost.
So that’s my suggestion for today: Create your own Flourish List, just like Sarah and I have, and give yourself the pleasure of writing down every small or large thing you want for yourself right now. All the little treats. Maybe they’re not so little–maybe this is the year you need a new car or some other big-ticket item. But that’s a “Need” list. This is your Flourish List–everything you want but don’t necessarily need.
And then? Treat yourself. Choose one item every week or every month, and give it to yourself. And if you feel strange about replacing something you don’t like with something you know you will, then remember to pass on that other item to someone else who might love it more than you did. I’ve done that with clothes, kitchenware, books: it feels so good to take everything you don’t want and give it to a thrift store where someone else can be happy to have found it, and found it so cheaply. Maybe there’s someone out there with a Flourish List that includes a pair of boots like the ones that have just been gathering dust in your closet. Stop hoarding them. Move them on to their new, appreciative owner.
And by doing that, you make room in your own life for things you’ll appreciate and enjoy. It’s hard to invite abundance when you’re chock full of clutter. Make some room. Make your list. And then start treating yourself the way you deserve by no longer withholding those little items that you know will make you smile.
I felt pretty great throwing out that nearly-empty tube of toothpaste last night. It doesn’t take much to make me happy. But I didn’t really realize that until I sat in a meadow and enjoyed the simple sight of some unnecessary butterflies.
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OMG, this video had me bawling. So great. Love this whole idea of making the sky rain goodness over one person.
Enjoy!
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Psst!
How talented an Art Director is Chad Beckerman anyway?
Check out some of the covers he's worked on. Puh-retty amazing.
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A Julia Rothman, Brooklyn-based illustrator, pattern-designer, and co-founder of the company Also (which has one of the more enjoyable websites out there) has found time in her busy schedule to create a blog called Book by its Cover. The site features cool designer-worthy children's titles, examining both their interior and exterior charms. I'm rather taken with her feature on The Lollypop Factory.
Quiz Question of the Day: At what point in our nation's history did the spelling of this word change from "lollypop" to "lollipop"?
Thanks to Children's Illustration for the link.
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A whole website dedicated to book covers? Brother, that's a sweet little old idea just ripe for the picking.
I like the format of this. You just click on the cover of your choice and read the comments. Part of me wonders if this could be done with children's books. I don't see why not. You'd just need a website and a way to post scans of the covers. I don't have either at my disposal, but surely there is someone out there willing to put in the time and energy.
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Here is the new paperback cover for Jenny Han's first middle grade novel, Shug.
Ahem.
- No dismembered females. You can see her face and, remarkably enough, HIS face too.
- Both a girl and a boy on the same cover and they're under the age of 14 AND they're not fighting aliens side-by-side? A true rarity.
- Love how they worked in the popsicle from both the book and the original cover.
- They don't look like models. Just regular kids.
- I like the expression on the girl's face.
- I love how they look exactly the right age. Twelve going on thirteen. I don't know the last time I saw a twelve-year-old actually looking like a twelve-year-old on a photographic cover.
- She looks happy. He looks oblivious. And that, ladies and gentlemen, could well be the theme of the book..
I love your post and your painting.
Great stuff.
love
Wonderful post, thoughtful illustration!
Your illustration is beautiful--caught at the tender moment just before 'soaring'. I loved reading your post too. Wishing you an inspired year!
cheers,
Dave
love the picture and the meaning behind it- very thoughful and heartfelt.
eBeth
Dare I say it but the hand bag is particularly impressive, hopefully the new year brings creativity.
Beautiful and meaningful painting.
Here's wishing you good luck and more blessings in 2008- and thank you for all the wonderful paintings you shared with us.
Laurel, I think all who dare to care about their place in this world struggle with these same issues. I love that you have expressed it here so well for so many of us. Your art and your words are very inspiring.
just beautiful...the sky is amazing....
Great work! I enjoy your style and your stuff is very nice! keep on the nice work!
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Your painting and your words resonate with me. The little bird looks ready to let go of the baggage and take flight. What a lovely combination of words and artwork you've put together.
lovely!
Don't be so hard to yourself, Laurel. I bet you did much more than you realize. Next year will be even better, you'll see :)
Happy New Year!
I love the painting... it speaks even without your post! I think your resolution to replenish your soul is worthy. It is so difficult to find a balance between creativity and marketing... so my new year's wish for you is that you find that balance and feel happily in touch with your creative self:>
Very powerful and full of power. The painting is beautiful, and the thoughts you provided give us all something to ponder as well. May your year be blessed.
Amazingly beautiful! And great post too! Happy New Year, Laurel!
MMMMWAAAAHH!!! that was SO nice to read and for you to express. you go get em, ms. 2008! get em right with your heart! :)))
Laurel, I wish you the very best for this new upcoming year, may it be your most courageous and creative!
[I also agree with you and Steve about taking the time to do the very thing we wanted to do in the first place, art and creating and drawing that fine line of balance between networking and creating.]
Beeeaaatiful work!!!!
The best pieces always seem to have a deeper meaning than just that first glance. Thanks for filling us in.
Awesome sunset! I like seeing the canvas come through in the close up.
Thanks for all of your encouragement.
What a wonderful sentiment! I hope the new year brings you an abundance of joy and fullness.
lovely painting; like you, looking for a change of focus this year on many things
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i miss painting using acrylic on canvas. it's inspiring to see people doing it. keep up the good work. and don't worry, we all have baggages we wanna leave behind ;oP
Great concept and painting. The idea of the bird with 2007 baggage is great, and the sky is beautiful.
You have put your finger on the problem. There is always the danger that the temptations of flogging ones art are not entirely consistent with the kind of playful risk taking that was the chief pleasure that git you into making art in the first place.
Lovely!! Good luck on your very worthy goals!!
This is fantastic! Have a 2008 just like you dream to be!
Thanks for a wonderful illu and words of meaning. Thanks for comment on my blog. Have a happy new year and make spirit soar.
great piece of work.. best wishes for 2008..
thanks for dropping by the blog.
Laurel, your paintings and words are always so inspiring...i'm so glad IF is a keeper...i'd love to visit your blog every week!
Hope in 2008 you realize all your goals! good luck and Happy New Year!
hugs!
Insightful post and wonderful symbolic painting! Sounds like you are getting to the layers and that is great! Soar and be free my friend! Your talent speaks for itself! Happy 2008 to you!!!
Cute pic, sweet story. Have a merry new year & good luck soaring.
As always, great work...leave the baggage of 2007 behind but take with you the positive accomplishments of the old year into the new one. Keep up the consistent posts and best wishes for 2008...cheers!
Very nice, and an awesome big preview to fully enjoy!
Beautiful illustration! I feel as you do. . .I need to stop and smell the roses more.
wonderful painting Laurel!
Thanks for the comment on my piece :)
hellloooo from oz and new years wishes to you and yours too. knowing what we did wrong is one thing, fixing it is quite another, maybe 2008 can be just a 'ME' year for you! bless you.
I know what you're talking about!
It's so easy to get caught up in all the trappings and forget the real reason you are an artist. Not that you can't enjoy all the rest, but I guess balance is the best way to go. Not always the easiest thing to attain, but it is possible.
Thanks for reminding me of the real reason for art. Self expression and nourishment for the soul.
Always great to visit your blog.
Beautiful painting love the colors & design and how it says visually what you wrote about and more- can feel the bird is just about to soar into the brand new '08. You are wise and kind. It's all good! Thanks.
Great color and super post!!! Funny how life works out sometimes ;)
Happy New Year, Miss L. Wishing the best of everything!