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Taking your calls and doing readings….
Then we go through your calls and questions. Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »
The Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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Nadine LaGreca and I – two psychics and mediums providing loving validation and messages from loved ones that have crossed over.
Even us psychics and mediums have our days of doubt, we just employ the tools of faith and trust in the devine, in spirit to make it all “good”.
Today we spoke to and learned the importance of trust, keeping the faith!
When you are experiencing ringing of the ears: that is spirit trying to get your attention… in that moment stop and … listen to show to get the tools.
Perhaps, you have felt spirit around you and can not quite hear them…. we spoke to some great tools to answer this as well.
You can also ask:
Who are you? then listen very quietly for the soft voice to answer in smells, voice, images. This is the “Awareness” I am always teaching about. Listen to Radio show for more.
Here is my VERY special trip to
Gray Whales, San Ignacio Lagoon, Baja California, March 22 2016 visiting Campo Cortez in San Ignacio Lagoon, Baja California Sur, Mexico
“I kissed a whale and liked it”
See my Gray Whale video »
brought to you by Lorna Hill Photography,
Then we go through your calls and questions. Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »
The Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Nadine La Greca:
Nadine La Greca comes from a family of natural born Psychic Mediums.
From a young age she always had a “knowing” about future events, what people needed to hear and do, and she could see, hear and feel Spirits around her. Nadine struggled with this gift and tried to turn it off for many years.
After going thru bouts of anxiety in her 20’s and knowing this was Spirit trying to communicate she decided to embrace her gift and use it to help others. Nadine began reading for friends and family 15 years ago and has been reading and teaching professionally for over 5 years.
She has trained with many well known Psychics, Mediums, and Spiritual Teachers from all over the world including Carmel Joy Baird, James Van Praagh and Sonia Choquette. Nadine loves to deliver healing messages and guidance from your loved ones, Angels and Guides on the other side.
She believes there is no greater gift than knowing they are right here beside us and helping every step of the way.
Find her online at: nadinelagreca.ca
Or follow her on social media at:
Facebook »
Instagram »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post Episode 017 – Nadine Returns! appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
New perspective
New thoughts
New idea’s
A new YOU….this show is all about learning:
- What is a Psychic?
- What is a Medium?
- What is Intuition?
- What is an Empath?
- And what do they all do?
I also share quality and trusted websites and teachers and a bit of goofing-off and silliness (what I do best :O) ).
So tune in and be sure to check out my Psychic, Medium, Energy Work, and Intuitive Clarity Coaching, as I have limited spots available! I’m also offering free 15 minute introductory consults »
Plus, on the 21st Welcome Nadine LaGeca back to the show for more education and we will be conducting live medium readings so you too can get loving messages. So get your dial’n fingers ready to call in and ask your questions then.
Resources mentioned in the show:
On psychics and mediums: https://carmeljoybaird.com/readings/
On Intuition: http://www.soniachoquette.com
On Empaths: http://www.drjudithorloff.com/empath-support-community
Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »
The Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 016 | What Does a Psychic, Medium, and Intuitive Coach Really Do? appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Today we had special guest Nadine La Greca comes from a family of natural born Psychic Mediums.
Amazing reading and validations with spirit today! Quite a bit of healing happened.
Even MY Dad came through with a BIG message for me, tune in to hear it. BIG, BIG Thank you to Nadine.
Stay tuned because we are working on something BIG together.
Nadine is gifting a FREE READING $200 value!! But you must turn in your email IF you want a free reading. She will then pick the winner and we will be contacting with you.
REMINDER: NEW CUSTOMERS ONLY-prices slashed for only two weeks. This is for your past/present/future readings, we may even be gifted with a message from a loved one who has crossed over. Join me and spirit for messages and validations.
Please go to suelundquist.com/readings
Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »
The Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
About Nadine La Greca:
Nadine La Greca comes from a family of natural born Psychic Mediums.
From a young age she always had a “knowing” about future events, what people needed to hear and do, and she could see, hear and feel Spirits around her. Nadine struggled with this gift and tried to turn it off for many years.
After going thru bouts of anxiety in her 20’s and knowing this was Spirit trying to communicate she decided to embrace her gift and use it to help others. Nadine began reading for friends and family 15 years ago and has been reading and teaching professionally for over 5 years.
She has trained with many well known Psychics, Mediums, and Spiritual Teachers from all over the world including Carmel Joy Baird, James Van Praagh and Sonia Choquette. Nadine loves to deliver healing messages and guidance from your loved ones, Angels and Guides on the other side.
She believes there is no greater gift than knowing they are right here beside us and helping every step of the way.
Find her online at: nadinelagreca.ca
Or follow her on social media at:
Facebook »
Instagram »
Special Gifts from our Guest:
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post Episode 015 | Readings and Mediumship with Nadine La Greca appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Another great show…..
I seem to say this every week, but it is true. I so love the validation and conversations with spirit. Mix in some practical tools to over come anxiety and fears you have MAGIC!
We had some callers and the theme seemed to be patients and forgiveness…. please tune in to hear their stories and messages. One was of cancer and forgiveness.
Do you have a personal development hangover? Listen to show to learn what the heck I am talking about.
Very excited of course) for Next weeks show. I have another veteran psychic who will be joining us. We are educating and taking callers. SO if you want to receive a loving and healing message from spirit, we want you to call in 1-888-298-5569.
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Sue Lundquist:
Sue Lundquist helps all the ladies, mothers, and woman entrepreneurs ditch the negative self-talk and lack of confidence and self-worth to regain their purpose, passion, and power. More importantly, she uses her 20+ years of experience to help MAKE IT STICK!
Sue is a multi-faceted dynamo who coaches, speaks, leads life-changing workshops, authors multiple books, and has interviewed hundreds of inspiring minds through her radio shows. Her radio show The Gratitude Cafe runs every week live to the PNW and online to international audiences.
Find her online at:
www.suelundquist.com
Or follow her on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
PINTEREST
Special Gifts from our Guest:
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 014 | Call in Q&A and Readings appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
One of the biggest hurdles you’ll overcome in your transformation, and I’ll show you how.
We’ll uncover my secrets to using forgiveness to break through our blocks and our past pains that hold us back.
And we’ll be taking calls and questions from all of you!
We learned some great tools for forgiveness from the book:
8 Keys to Forgiveness, by author: Robert Enright, PhD
Sue’s acronym for F.O.R.G.I.V.E.N.E.S.S.
- Forgiving with self and others
- Open your heart
- Radical change will happen
- Gratitude, foster daily gratitude
- Is crucial for transforming anxiety/depression
- Vulnerable: learn to be vulnerable, create a safe place to be vulnerable
- Evolving every day through forgiveness
- Necessary for positive change
- Emotional: you have permission to be emotional, allow it and release it
- Sacred, create a sacred safe space to be heard, seen & loved
- Sensitive to yourself and any others that are working through the process of forgiveness
Then we go through your calls and questions. Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »
The Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Sue Lundquist:
Sue Lundquist helps all the ladies, mothers, and woman entrepreneurs ditch the negative self-talk and lack of confidence and self-worth to regain their purpose, passion, and power. More importantly, she uses her 20+ years of experience to help MAKE IT STICK!
Sue is a multi-faceted dynamo who coaches, speaks, leads life-changing workshops, authors multiple books, and has interviewed hundreds of inspiring minds through her radio shows. Her radio show The Gratitude Cafe runs every week live to the PNW and online to international audiences.
Find her online at:
www.suelundquist.com
Or follow her on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
PINTEREST
Special Gifts from our Guest:
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 013 – Transformation through Forgiveness appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Every time I write this it’s every show but it’s true we had a great show today.
We go head first into speaking our truth! And what to do when you just aren’t feeling as though you are enough.
We’re giving you a new prospective…
New thoughts…
New ideas….
All so you can be more productive and make better, more purposeful choices.
You are enough.
We spoke to living a fulfilled life, authentic life, and being truthful in said life.
I give you some tools to help work through that. And we took some calls that ironically enough all revolved around speaking your truth and feeling loved and being enough.
And speaking of which, we talked about your PCC… my simple but powerful tool to know your truth and LIVE your truth. Grab this simple training for only $14.99 during our Spring Sale!
Grab your online access and start living YOUR truth »
Feeling blessed and grateful,
Sue
About the Show
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 012 | The Key to Speaking Your Truth appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Today was a great show we took calls and learned a new awareness through messages with spirit. This came in the form of Angel cards and messages from the Animal world and it was SPOT ON for each caller.
Listen to hear what 555, 111, even 170 means.
I also spoke to what messages a spider and a deer are giving me. You will see spiders in whole new way.
We also learned of a new location being built in Seattle for area healers and light workers.
And I share with you my clearing prayer below…
My Clearing Prayer for Home, Office, and Other Spaces
I had many people asking me to share my clearing prayer I use for my home, office, and other important spaces in my life. It’s a simple but powerful way to ground and connect yourself to the space, and clear out the negative.
Click here to get instant access »
Show Details
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 011 | Intuitive Coaching with Live Call-ins, and Very Special Clearing Prayer appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
What if you could change the running dialogue going on in your mind… the running dialogue that forms the path of your life?
It starts in your mind, and there are simple tools to change your inner dialogue. The negative thoughts that keep you back, that keep you small, that keep you scared or anxious or worried.
Today we dig into these tools and how they change the very biology of your brain when you keep using them.
It all starts with cognition…
What is it?
Why do we need to be aware of it?
How changing habits helps me live a better life.
Let’s dig in…
Now, it’s time to grab your access to the Reset Your Compass course and start forever changing the direction and quality of your life.
Simply click here to grab it for yourself during our Spring sale!
It’s the first, most important step… so important that I REQUIRE it of all my workshop participants and coaching clients. It’s what start’s pointing your true north where you need to go, and keeping you coming back to center.
Show Notes
Gandhi quote:
“your beliefs become your thoughts
your thoughts become your words
your words become your habits
Your values become your destiny”
Get very clear on who you are, who you are choosing to show up in this life to bed and who you are allowing in your life and that all starts with YOU and a little of me. I mean that by saying, I help you get clear by teaching you the PCC, and then giving you “forever tools” to help you “sustain” the positive change.
Here is the NEW language and your cognition tools we spoke to on Tuesday show. Of course feel free to alter and or change make your own too, this is a start:
- No thank you I am no longer that person anymore.
- Noo thank you, that is my old story. I got this and my new future
- I choose love and trust
- I am happy, healthy, wealthy…financially, physically and emotionally
Show info:
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Sue Lundquist :
Sue Lundquist helps all the ladies, mothers, and woman entrepreneurs ditch the negative self-talk and lack of confidence and self-worth to regain their purpose, passion, and power. More importantly, she uses her 20+ years of experience to help MAKE IT STICK!
Sue is a multi-faceted dynamo who coaches, speaks, leads life-changing workshops, authors multiple books, and has interviewed hundreds of inspiring minds through her radio shows. Her radio show The Gratitude Cafe runs every week live to the PNW and online to international audiences.
Find her online at:
http://www.suelundquist.com/
Or follow her on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
PINTEREST
Special Gifts from our Guest:
Escape the Spin Cycle – the pattern of fighting that goes nowhere – by taking the Spin Cycle Test. Identifying the 6 Spin Cycle saboteurs creeping into your relationship and what to do about them.
You’ll find it here »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 010 | The Language and Cognition Tools to Transform Your Inner Dialogue appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Most of us are familiar with the concept of compassion.
We give those who are suffering our acceptance and kindness. It’s about non-judgmentally accepting others for their circumstances, weaknesses, failures or disappointments.
Self Compassion is about turning those attributes of care and kindness and respect towards ourselves.
Today, we delve into learning to live brave and bold by cultivating our own self-compassion. We can’t hope to rise back up and to face our challenges without self-compassion. And so, we can’t hope to live our truest selves and truest purpose without self-compassion to help us keep going and keep getting back up.
Listen in as we dive deep with Cynthia Benge, MSW-LMHC into:
- How self-compassion creates greater well-being, sense of security, and resilience
- How our focus on self-esteem has back-fired
- The strive for perfection and what it is doing to us and our lives
- Know the enemy, and disarm it step by step with a simple process
- The secret to creating your own self-compassion mantra
And be sure to sign up for the FREE 30 Day Self-Compassion Challenge!
Every day for the merry month of May I will be guiding you to develop the capacity and awareness to practice Self Compassion. I will be sharing the teachings from some of the top researchers into this topic – people like Dr. Kristen Neff, Dr. Brené Brown, Chris Germer and more.
I will share exercises designed to help you find a voice for you inner compassionate guide and help to quiet that inner critic.
We will create Self Compassion Mantras. We will learn some breath work. We will explore what the barriers are to self commpassion and how to break through those barriers like perfectionism, shame and comparison thinking…
The 30 Day Self Compassion Challenge is free and if you bring a friend to register then you both will be entered into a drawing to recieve a copy of Kristen Neffs Book on Self Compassion!
Click here to join the FREE 30 day Self Compassion challenge! »
And join us for the live Kick-Off event in Seattle with Cynthia diving deeper into Self-Compassionn, preparing you for the 30 Day Self-Compassion Challenge, and giving you a chance to share stories and meet others on the same journey.
Click here to join the live even on May 1st
Show Notes:
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Cynthia Benge, MSW-LMHC:
As a veteran therapist with over 25 years experience, I am committed to helping clients free themselves from the paralyzing affects of shame and the limiting beliefs that hold them back. A professional communicator with a genuine warmth and ability to make authentic connections, I create a safe container for people to be vulnerable enough to explore their own truths.
Find her online at:
http://www.cynthiabenge.com/
Or follow her on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
Special Gifts from our Guest:
SPECIAL EVENT: Join the 30 Day Self-Compassion Challenge »
And join us for the live Kick-Off event in Seattle with Cynthia diving deeper into Self-Compassion and the journey you’ll be taking on the 30 Day Self-Compassion Challenge.
Click here to join the live even on May 1st »
The 3 Steps to Rising Strong from any Failure or Challenge »
More You’ll Love:
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The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 009 | Live Bold and Brave by Cultivating Your Self Compassion appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
How do you make big change this year?
It starts with your personal compass.
After creating and implementing your personal compass (or what I call your PCC) things will start to change. Emotions evolve, manner differ, behaviors change, morals all shift. And with that comes change in language, change in rules of engagements, and the need to place personal boundaries.
It is the GPS showing you the way to the amazing, fulfilling life you wish you had the courage, determination, and focus to go after.
Boundaries:
YOU teach people how to treat you!
Take responsibility and accountability for your actions, inaction and behaviors.
Listen in to the podcast to hear about…
- The Red Flag’s and Universal boundaries.
- Awareness that someone is subtly giving you their boundaries and how you can be subtle yourself
- Setting up your own boundaries
Then I quickly go over Tools, I call them your “Forever tools”!
Here is the B.R.A.V.I.N.G example I was referring to from Brene Brown
The Anatomy of Trust, what I have read and learned from Brene Brown:
B- Boundaries:
You have boundaries and you stick to them. If you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, then you ask & are willing to say no.
R- Reliability:
You do what you say you are going to do. Do not over promise.
A- Accountability:
You own your mistakes as well as your wins.
V- Vault:
What I share with you is only for you and visa-versa. It is my story and you do not have permission to speak about it.
I- Integrity:
Do what you say you are going to do. You choose courage over comfort.
N- Non judgement:
You can fall apart with out being judged. You can also ask for you want/need And it goes both ways with out judgement.
G- Generosity:
Our relationship is only a trusting relationship. You can assume the MOST GENEROUS things about my words, actions, intentions and behaviors are all based from loving and trusting. If not, then I trust that you will check-in with me and yourself and we can talk.
Above is my interpretation to what she says, Please read her books you can find more information at
www.BreneBrown.com This is put in place to build the foundation of your best life. It is essential to changing that tired old story driving your life and taking control, finding your courage, and going after something that is truly YOURS.
And so it is also a pre-requisite for my insanely powerful full day workshop.
More You’ll Love:
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
The post 008 | Boundaries and BRAVING to Boldly Go After an Amazing Life appeared first on Sue Lundquist.
Today’s show is extra special Sue has been gifted by Dr. Joe’s team a very special selection of educational material for all of us to get a sneak peak of and learn from. The footage heard here today is a HUGE gift, and is only heard if you take his courses. SO TAKE ADVANTAGE of this time today.
We will be learning and hearing from Dr. Joe about :
-Creating your Future
-Thinking greater than your environment
-Your personality creates your personal reality
-You are NOT doomed by your genetics
-A wonderful story about over coming Cancer
and lastly
-Two states of mind survival and creation. and how you CAN change!
This opportunity is a HUGE gift, so enjoy sit back leave your life for just an hour, relax and get our your pen and paper ready to take notes, cuz this is going to be a great educational show!
Reminder: Dr. Joe will be having a weekend workshop on May 6th, 7th and 8th. More information here »
Sue will be there and could not have asked for a better Mothers Day gift, one of full immersion of self love and self care.
You will find all the workshops links and information in the following newsletter, so please be sure to sign up at the Gratitude Cafe home page »
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Dr Joe Dispenza:
Joe Dispenza, D.C., first caught the public’s eye as one of the scientists featured in the award-winning film What the BLEEP Do We Know!? Since that movie’s release in 2004, his work has expanded, deepened, and spiraled in several key directions—all of which reflect his passion for exploring how people can use the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience and quantum physics to not only heal illness but also to enjoy a more fulfilled and happy life. Dr. Joe is driven by the conviction that each one of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities.
As a teacher and lecturer, Dr. Joe has been invited to speak in more than 27 countries on six continents, educating thousands of people in his trademarked easy-to-understand, encouraging, compassionate style, detailing how they can re-wire their brains and re-condition their bodies to make lasting changes.
Find him online at:
http://www.drjoedispenza.com/
Or follow him on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
INSTAGRAM
PINTEREST
LINKEDIN
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Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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When I am hurt, are you there for me?
Is our relationship safe, non judgmental & kind? Or do we create hurt, resentments, shame and rejection?
There’s a science to love and connection, and it’s called EFT (emotionally focused therapy), proven by over 26 years of research and studies. Today we dive into these methods that fundamentally change the way you connect and create a safe relationship with your partner.
Our guests are Joseph Losi, MA-LMFT and Cynthia Benge, MSW-LMHC of Hold Me Tight Seattle, experienced EFT practitioners and trainers.
We talk about the destructive patterns that slowly degrade relationships until there is nothing left but hurt, resentments, and a giant wall standing between you.
Then we talk about transforming these patterns. Cynthia and Joseph reveal the science behind rebuilding love bonds and the deep sense of connection, showing love isn’t the mystery we thought it was.
All month we are speaking to Emotional Intelligence, planting the seeds of growth!
I am ecstatic about getting to speak to Joseph and Cynthia live on the show, and getting your questions. Be sure to tune in this Tuesday as we unpack creating a safe relationship so you can begin to break down the walls and reconnect.
Special Gifts from our Guest:
Escape the Spin Cycle – the pattern of fighting that goes nowhere – by taking the Spin Cycle Test. Identifying the 6 Spin Cycle saboteurs creeping into your relationship and what to do about them.
You’ll find it here »
What we discover:
- Emotions are like the red light on the dash board telling us something is going on underneath the hood!
- Emotions organize behavior
- Are you not allowing your spouse off the “white horse” and with compassion and safety?
- Sex and intimacy blossoms when we feel seen, heard, and loved. All because of reaching a deeper level of connection. We discuss how that happens and why it works.
- When you combine fostering an EFT process with EFT counseling, 80% of couples improved. That is HUGE!!!!
EFT with Joseph and Cynthia’s safe coaching and workshop will help you to create a secure base, get through your triggers and the deep emotions under the resentments, the fear and the loneliness. This is HUGE OMY GOODness I want more. In fact that is what the audience was saying too.
I received some great text messages affirming the “need for more” right after the show aired. Faolks are hungry for what HoldMeTightSeattle is teaching, and it has ABSOLUTELY struck a cord!
Stay tuned for part two… or three or four. I know I want more!
Tune in to the Show Live:
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday April 5th
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Our Guests:
Hold Me Tight Seattle
Workshops to help you revive and strengthen your relationship, your connection, and your love. In these weekend experiences, they provide the proven tools and methods to break free of old patterns and develop a new level of closeness, acceptance, and intimacy.
Discover their couples and marriage workshop »
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Joseph Losi, MA-LMFT
The father of two young men in their 20’s, Joseph discovered his true passion of relational psychology at the age of 52. Now a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist he works with couples, men and women in his Seattle private practice. He very happily tied the knot for a second time on September 12th of last year. Joseph is also active in the awakening field of “Mature Masculinity.”
Joseph is a licensed marriage and family therapist. He is recognized by the International Centre for Excellense in Emotionally Focuse Therapy as a Certified EFT Therapist.
Find him online at:
http://www.josephlosi.com/
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Cynthia Benge, MSW-LMHC
Cynthia is a licensed therapist with over 25 years experience helping couples learn to problem solve, communicate more effectively, and discover the deep needs and longings that underlie most relational conflict. She has a warm and empathic style that draws couples in and helps them see their best selves. She helps them find the roots of love hidden at the heart of their intimate relationships and the deep and authentic bonds that hold them together.
Find her online at:
http://www.cynthiabenge.com
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Shonagh will explain the basic premise of the shamanic arts and discuss her work as a shamanic therapist and teacher. She will share relevant ways in which you can enhance your life in the modern world with these ancient practices.
Shonagh Home is an author, international speaker, shamanic therapist and teacher of the shamanic arts. She is a woman of Celtic ancestry and works with people around the world to help them heal and awaken. Her specialized private sessions are probing and revelatory, assisting clients to break chronic, self-defeating patterns, and move into empowered personal sovereignty.
Stay tuned this Tuesday, she’s offering something great on the show to all of you!
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday Mach 15th
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Shonagh Home:
Shonagh Home is an author, shamanic therapist and teacher of the shamanic arts. She is a woman of Celtic ancestry and works with people around the world to help them heal and awaken. Her specialized private sessions are probing and revelatory, assisting clients to break chronic, self-defeating patterns, and move into empowered personal sovereignty. Her classes on the shamanic arts take seekers far beyond the watered-down, westernized model and focus instead on the vast and ancient realms hidden in both the world of nature and our own human nature. Shonagh is an international public speaker on the subject of visionary shamanic-spirit medicine, and the author of ‘Ix Chel Wisdom: 7 Teachings from the Mayan Sacred Feminine,’ and ‘Love and Spirit Medicine,’ both of which can be found on Amazon.
Find her online at: www.shonaghhome.com
Or follow her on social media at:
TWITTER
PINTEREST
FACEBOOK
Special Gifts from our Guest:
Get a free 30 minute session with Shonagh Home by Skype!
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Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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First, I just have to say how much I love Dr. Joe and for what Dr Joe is doing. Seriously, he is changing lives annnnd for GENERATIONS!!!!
Second, Its my Birthday and my gift to me and you is to have him on my show!
Did you know he started this journey from a tragic Triathlon accident in 1986, yep come hear this.
On the show we speak about so much… here is a little snap shot:
- He takes a scientist’s perspective measuring body energy, room energy, and heart energy to show you change is possible.
- Applying these tools will create instant healing in your body. I have seen it for my own eyes, YOU have to be the one to say YES!
- Learning how to turn those healthy genes on.
- When you practice so much that the body becomes the mind memorized.
- “I am causing an effect” vs. waiting for it to come to me because it will not.
You just have to listen to the show, there was such great content and I truly could listen to him for hours!
Special Event in Seattle!
May 6th – Join Dr Joe Dispenza (and I’ll definitely be there!) for this powerful weekend of change. It will be one of the best workshops for your transformation you could possibly attend, and it’s happening right here in Seattle. Leave your life behind and come submerge yourself in love and self care! ACT NOW click here to change your life!
Hear the Show:
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday Mach 22nd
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Dr Joe Dispenza:
Joe Dispenza, D.C., first caught the public’s eye as one of the scientists featured in the award-winning film What the BLEEP Do We Know!? Since that movie’s release in 2004, his work has expanded, deepened, and spiraled in several key directions—all of which reflect his passion for exploring how people can use the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience and quantum physics to not only heal illness but also to enjoy a more fulfilled and happy life. Dr. Joe is driven by the conviction that each one of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities.
As a teacher and lecturer, Dr. Joe has been invited to speak in more than 27 countries on six continents, educating thousands of people in his trademarked easy-to-understand, encouraging, compassionate style, detailing how they can re-wire their brains and re-condition their bodies to make lasting changes.
Find him online at:
http://www.drjoedispenza.com/
Or follow him on social media at:
FACEBOOK
TWITTER
YOUTUBE
Linkedin
PINTEREST
GOOGLE+
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The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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On todays SHOW and always, I am offering, nudging you, encouraging you towards a “different perspective.”
One that empowers, emboldens, that lights a fire and clears the veil from your eyes.
Start seeing all the opportunities around you, find your motivation, and your joy… all through the 3 step process I’m about to show you.
Today is to create space for your new Awareness so YOU can create true transformation:
Today it is all me teaching you about how to create:
- more love
- better relationships
- better job
- getting rid of your OLD story!
… all by creating Awareness in your life.
We’ll dig into…
- Awareness 101: asking the right questions for seeing,hearing and being AWARE of the answers.
- Gaining clarity from your new found awareness.
- Boundaries-no more people pleasing and standing up for ME
- Confidence-no more negative self talk, asking for what I want/deserve
- Purpose – no more listening to your old story, and creating your new you!
And then we will discuss ….
Your bottom line.
Yes you heard me – your bottom line. It is costing you allot of money, time, energy NOT being grateful!
So tune in and we’ll uncover all of these together…. planting new seeds for a transformative year and giving you practical steps and tips to make it happen.
Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday Mach 15th
Place:
Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com
Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:
1-800-298-5569 (KKNW).
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
More You’ll Love:
If you like this, you’ll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »
The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)
Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.
Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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That would be Suzanne Giesemann, not all at once of course. Come find out about her amazing story and her guides the Council of Poets.
Suzanne is a retired U.S. Navy Commander. She served as a commanding officer, as special assistant to the Chief of Naval Operations, and as Aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff on 9/11.
Today Suzanne addresses questions about the purpose of life, the nature of reality, and attuning to higher consciousness. Her work has been recognized as highly credible by afterlife researcher Dr. Gary Schwartz, Ph.D., and best-selling author Dr. Wayne Dyer. She serves on the advisory board of the Academy for Spiritual and Consciousness Studies.
In our conversation about spirit today we talk about:
- “Evidential Medium” and just getting messages.
- We spoke so much about the importance of Awareness: Keep your eyes out, what catches you this time vs. last time
- How to pay attention to the messages of support and love everywhere coming from your spirit tribe on the other side of the veil.
- Discernment and your anxiety: Come listen to find out what your heart has to do with it.
On the show we will be discussing Spirit 101, Mediumship 101 and the very important discernment.
Originally Aired: @ 8:00am PST Tuesday Mach 8th
Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »
Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »
About Suzanne Giesemann:
Suzanne Giesemann is the author of eleven books, a spiritual teacher, and an evidential medium. She captivates audiences as she brings hope, healing, and comfort through her work. Suzanne’s gift of communication with those on the other side provides stunning evidence of life after death. Touted as “a breath of fresh air” with “a quality that is so different from others that it is difficult to describe,” she brings messages of hope and love that go straight to the heart.
Find her online at: http://www.suzannegiesemann.com
Or follow her on social media at:
https://www.facebook.com/SuzanneGiesemann
https://twitter.com/SuzanneGieseman
Special Gifts from our Guest:
Suzanne offers three free meditations and all are AWESOME. They can be downloaded. I have mine on my phone so that they travel with me and are always available. http://www.suzannegiesemann.com/meditationsgifts/
Also, if listeners sign up for Suzanne’s newsletter, they will receive her free guide “Mastering Meditation.” The link is:
http://www.suzannegiesemann.com/meditation-guide/
She has her very well attended and loved weekend retreat: Your emerging Soul, be sure to check her out.
Help me to get her to Seattle so be sure you go to all her social media spaces and tell her you are from the PNW and want her to come teach out here again!
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Please leave your feedback on the show below!
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Listen to KKNW this Tuesday at 8am to hear the first episode of the Gratitude Cafe with Sue Lundquist!
In Seattle, listen live to 1150 AM on your radio. Or listen to the livestream on Tunein at http://tunein.com/radio/KKNW-1150-s33547/
And you’ll have the opportunity to call in to the show!
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February 28th at 5pm – at Utopia in Redmond
Full details at our Facebook event page »
I am so thrilled and excited to be re-launching my Radio program. The Gratitude Cafe Radio to Feed your Soul is here to give you and me the tools to sustain our positive mind set, and to give us “practical tools” to create and foster the life we have always wanted.
I truly love being in a position to faciliate this awareness and postive change and accomplishing this by helping each of us change our perspective with the result of making profound changes.
At the event:
The first 25 to arrive will get an AMAZING VIP bag and will get to pick from the Gratitude Tree. This is a “one of kind” found only at UTOPIA.
We will also be having a live raffle with some truly wonderful gifts and you must be present to win-you wont want to miss this.
This is an “ADULT only” function.
Thank you for sharing and celebrating a few hours with me.
Full details at our Facebook event page »
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Sometimes we need a reminder.
Sometimes we need to be inspired to be our best self when life is crashing down around us, or our own anxiety is pushing us to go further and harder.
That’s why I wanted to share this music video with you. It’s a powerful reminder to keep everything in perspective and make your day just a little better…
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Will you be armed up to tackle challenging family Mojo over the Holiday?
We’ve all been there…
Either we are dishing it out or we are the receiver.
Neither is any fun.
So what to do when you are hit square in the head with the “boundary pushing” Grandma Eddie, or perhaps the well intended Aunty Mae prying about career, relationships, and anything else she can push her opinion on you with.
What to do when you find yourself being “called out” out because you are not married, coupled up, pregnant or not doing what “they” think is best for you. Even more, your internal “people pleaser” meter going bonkers inside your head.
Frantically, you are trying to make everyone happy and put out the fires, and you may even find yourself shaking or exhausted, and completely overwhelmed.
Take it from a recovering “people pleaser” (aka no personal boundaries):
If you are not creating clarity with your own values and needs, you will be finding yourself in arguments or resentments because you are taking everything everyone says very personal. Not very empowering is it?
Taking Family Time from Dread to Success
Whatever the “it” thing is in your family dynamic, you can transform your experience.
Imagine, just for a moment, being thrown right in the thick of it. But instead of freaking out, getting riled, getting defensive, or becoming the martyr… imagine coming from a place of personal strength.
The jabs that would have pierced your heart, your self-confidence, or your precarious state of calm stay where they belong – with THEM.
- Every offensive quirk of Uncle Joe
- Every judgmental question of why you aren’t married or pregnant
- Every temper tantrum or personality conflict
- Every snarky comment from well-meaning and not-so-well-meaning family
Each and every one bounced off your own self-confidence and resolve.
And you know why?
Because you know who you are, where you’re going, your value, and that their issues are THEIR issues, not yours.
Know who you are, and that their issues are THEIR issues, not yours.
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Start Standing up for “ME”
Here’s the first rule of thumb for “Standing up for ME!”
1. Awareness
Yep, be keenly aware of who you are and what’s important to you! Be vigilant in being aware of your own self-care needs, and when they are being invaded.
The first step is being aware so you can have the power to do something about it.
- Are you feeling overwhelmed?
- Are you feeling invaded?
- Are you feeling unsafe?
- Are you feeling disrespected?
- Are you feeling compelled to keep the peace at the expense of yourself?
Keep taking a moment to acknowledge what is happening and what you are feeling. And be aware of what keeps happening so you can arrive prepared.
Sometimes, you even need to be aware of who you simply cannot continue a relationship with. Family is important, but so are you. No family is so important that they’re worth letting them tear you down.
2. Clarity
Next is to be deeply clear on who you are and where you’re going. The clearer you are, and the deeper you hold your values, the less swayed and emotionally affected you’ll become.
Really take the time to decide and feel deep in your heart:
- The person you are and aspire to be
- What you will and will not stand for
- What your dreams and goals are (this does not have to be crazy making here, simply that you are clear)
- What type of people you want and will allow in your life.
- Who and what you really want to say YES or NO to before the situation comes up
The process I use with my clients is to create what I call your PCC – a guiding vision for yourself and your life.
It literally works to reset your brain, rewiring the neurological pathways that control your reactions, so that you build a heart and mind wired for confidence and the life you want.
Go through these questions, write your answers down, and keep them to remind yourself. Or go through creating your own PCC with a simple video walk-through with my Reset Your Compass course.
Take the time to really feel it.
The clearer & deeper your values, the less swayed & emotionally affected you’ll become.
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With that clarity, you are building the confidence and self-assurance to walk into any family situation and not let it break you down. You aren’t letting people make you feel guilty, feel worthless, or feel unsafe and overwhelmed.
Creating your vision (your PCC) will also creates a much needed and wanted sense of purpose. So hear me out…
Even if you are unclear and feel you do not have a purpose, creating your PCC will help you work through them and get clear. As a result, you’ll create the self confidence you need when you are faced with the “boundary pushers” or the “well intenders.”
And with awareness and clarity, you can take the next step…
3. Take Action
You’ve built the foundation, now it’s time to act.
You’ll be acting from a place of clarity in yourself and your values, and you’ll have the awareness to know when you need to act.
Most of the time, we just act reactively.
It just happens – we get defensive, we lash out, we take in the painful jabs, we give into the pressures, we ignore the red flags and the flashing warning light of our personal fuel tank… and we crumble.
At the end of the day, we hit our bed without an ounce of energy, rumbling with our own emotions, self-doubt. Even feeling worthless, a disappointment, or ready to burst into tears.
Your first act – choose to dedicate yourself to change.
Build your awareness. Build your clarity. And take action.
What to do Beforehand:
Be aware of what you are feeling, what you are worried about, and what you will find when you get there.
Get clear – review your values, your vision, and who you are. Review your PCC. If you don’t know, take some time to get clear and feel it. Say them out loud, imagine them a part of you, create a mantra – whatever it takes to internalize them deep inside and that works for you.
Have a plan of action – based on your awareness and values, what can you expect to face, and how will you choose to act in those situations?
Your first act – choose to dedicate yourself to change.
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Ready?
OK, maybe you’re still uneasy, but you are far more ready than you were! Trust me.
So let’s go!
Now You’re Thrown in the Thick of it
You arrive, and you’re with your family. Uncle Joe and Aunt Mae are testing you already…
Be aware of what is happening… what are they doing and how are they affecting you? What is your impulsive reaction as a result? Would it help you are make more pain or overwhelm?
Remember your values and your vision and which ones are being stepped on right now. Their problems are their problems. Remember your own values. Not everyone has to agree or even hear them. It’s your little secret they just don’t understand.
Choose to act with awareness and from your own values and vision….
For example, try these actions:
- If you need a break – leave.
- Take a breath when you feel compelled to do or feel something. Then choose to act in a way that aligns with your values and your needs.
- Tell them they are making you uncomfortable and you’d like to drop the subject.
- Choose to acknowledge who they are and where they come from with respect, but know that they’re not you and actively choose not to let what they say in.
- “Uncle Joe, I love you but we have different beliefs on this subject and I’d like to talk about something else.”
- “Aunt Mae, I know you want the best for me, but this is making me uncomfortable.”
- Leave the conversation, or leave the room.
- Take a moment to review your PCC, even if you use the bathroom as an excuse to do it!
Now, you’ve made it through. You didn’t kill anyone, that’s always a good sign.
Maybe you flew off the handle, let someone push you around, or someone still got in your head…. that’s okay.
It takes time to overcome these challenges. And it takes practice to build your awareness, clarity, and the right actions.
Our brains are wired from our past to react in a certain way. Changing those pathways doesn’t happen overnight anymore than you can lift 300lbs or drop a dress size overnight.
It takes practice. Keep going through these steps.
It takes time & practice to build your awareness, clarity, and right actions.
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And after the night is done, go through them again:
- Be aware of what the challenges were and, most importantly, what positive steps you made, however small. Even if it was “I took a breath when I felt invaded”, then that is progress! It means you are becoming more aware.
- Again, review your PCC, who you are and what you stand for. Reinforce them instead of letting what happened today tear them down.
- Is there any small actions you can still take to help positively respond to what happened? Maybe there is someone you need to have a heart to heart with in private. Maybe you need to do an act of self-care and self-empowerment.
Action is the Number One Thing You can do for Creating Your Self-Esteem
And it is the number one way that you build those new neurological pathways in your brain to improve your life and build positive habits and reactions when faced with these kinds of challenges.
When a kid learns to ride a bit, they start of terrified and shaky. They need that helping hand to get going and give them safety.
But what really matters is the action they take to keep doing it.
Every time they act, riding that bike, they gain a little more confidence and self-esteem. They also improve their ability and their actions start to become more and more automatic.
Action is the number one thing you can do for creating your self-esteem
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They fall down, and the more they get back up and act to ride again, the more confident they get and more they build those skills into their muscles and neuropathways. They become stronger and stronger.
Before you know it, they are flying!
And it all becomes automatic. They aren’t thinking… “okay, here’s how I balance, and here’s how I turn the wheel, and here’s how I pedal…”
Of course not! They just do it.
That is what can happen for you the more you put this into practice.
Taking action and creating your PCC will give you the tools to create purpose in your life and foster the self confidence to be flying through life with glee on your own bike.
And it only expands… being confident to ask for a raise or to find a better paying job you love. Standing up for yourself in intimate situations, and finding a better relationship with yourself and others. Going after that big dream you kept putting off for another year or someday… (someday syndrome is a whole other subject!)
Start today. Start with awareness.
And get the help you need to achieve it.
Now, share you biggest family gathering challenge with us in the comments below:
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Will you be arming up and building the defenses to take on challenging family Mojo over the holidays?
We’ve all been there…
Either we are dishing it out or we are the receiver.
Neither is any fun.
So what to do when you are hit square in the head with the “boundary pushing” Grandma Eddie, or perhaps the well intended Aunty Mae prying about career, relationships, and anything else she can push her opinion on you with.
What to do when you find yourself being “called out” out because you are not married, coupled up, pregnant or not doing what “they” think is best for you. Even more, your internal “people pleaser” meter going bonkers inside your head.
Frantically, you are trying to make everyone happy and put out the fires, and you may even find yourself shaking or exhausted, and completely overwhelmed.
Take it from a recovering “people pleaser” (aka no personal boundaries):
If you are not creating clarity with your own values and needs, you will be finding yourself in arguments or resentments because you are taking everything everyone says very personal. Not very empowering is it?
Taking Family Time from Dread to Success
Whatever the “it” thing is in your family dynamic, you can transform your experience.
Imagine, just for a moment, being thrown right in the thick of it. But instead of freaking out, getting riled, getting defensive, or becoming the martyr… imagine coming from a place of personal strength.
The jabs that would have pierced your heart, your self-confidence, or your precarious state of calm stay where they belong – with THEM.
- Every offensive quirk of Uncle Joe
- Every judgmental question of why you aren’t married or pregnant
- Every temper tantrum or personality conflict
- Every snarky comment from well-meaning and not-so-well-meaning family
Each and every one bounced off your own self-confidence and resolve.
And you know why?
Because you know who you are, where you’re going, your value, and that their issues are THEIR issues, not yours.
Know who you are, and that their issues are THEIR issues, not yours.
Click To Tweet
Start Standing up for “ME”
Here’s the first rule of thumb for “Standing up for ME!”
1. Awareness
Yep, be keenly aware of who you are and what’s important to you! Be vigilant in being aware of your own self-care needs, and when they are being invaded.
The first step is being aware so you can have the power to do something about it.
- Are you feeling overwhelmed?
- Are you feeling invaded?
- Are you feeling unsafe?
- Are you feeling disrespected?
- Are you feeling compelled to keep the peace at the expense of yourself?
Keep taking a moment to acknowledge what is happening and what you are feeling. And be aware of what keeps happening so you can arrive prepared.
Sometimes, you even need to be aware of who you simply cannot continue a relationship with. Family is important, but so are you. No family is so important that they’re worth letting them tear you down.
2. Clarity
Next is to be deeply clear on who you are and where you’re going. The clearer you are, and the deeper you hold your values, the less swayed and emotionally affected you’ll become.
Really take the time to decide and feel deep in your heart:
- The person you are and aspire to be
- What you will and will not stand for
- What your dreams and goals are (this does not have to be crazy making here, simply that you are clear)
- What type of people you want and will allow in your life.
- Who and what you really want to say YES or NO to before the situation comes up
The process I use with my clients is to create what I call your PCC – a guiding vision for yourself and your life.
It literally works to reset your brain, rewiring the neurological pathways that control your reactions, so that you build a heart and mind wired for confidence and the life you want.
Go through these questions, write your answers down, and keep them to remind yourself. Or go through creating your own PCC with a simple video walk-through with my Reset Your Compass course.
Take the time to really feel it.
The clearer & deeper your values, the less swayed & emotionally affected you’ll become.
Click To Tweet
With that clarity, you are building the confidence and self-assurance to walk into any family situation and not let it break you down. You aren’t letting people make you feel guilty, feel worthless, or feel unsafe and overwhelmed.
Creating your vision (your PCC) will also creates a much needed and wanted sense of purpose. So hear me out…
Even if you are unclear and feel you do not have a purpose, creating your PCC will help you work through them and get clear. As a result, you’ll create the self confidence you need when you are faced with the “boundary pushers” or the “well intenders.”
And with awareness and clarity, you can take the next step…
3. Take Action
You’ve built the foundation, now it’s time to act.
You’ll be acting from a place of clarity in yourself and your values, and you’ll have the awareness to know when you need to act.
Most of the time, we just act reactively.
It just happens – we get defensive, we lash out, we take in the painful jabs, we give into the pressures, we ignore the red flags and the flashing warning light of our personal fuel tank… and we crumble.
At the end of the day, we hit our bed without an ounce of energy, rumbling with our own emotions, self-doubt. Even feeling worthless, a disappointment, or ready to burst into tears.
Your first act – choose to dedicate yourself to change.
Build your awareness. Build your clarity. And take action.
What to do Beforehand:
Be aware of what you are feeling, what you are worried about, and what you will find when you get there.
Get clear – review your values, your vision, and who you are. Review your PCC. If you don’t know, take some time to get clear and feel it. Say them out loud, imagine them a part of you, create a mantra – whatever it takes to internalize them deep inside and that works for you.
Have a plan of action – based on your awareness and values, what can you expect to face, and how will you choose to act in those situations?
Your first act – choose to dedicate yourself to change.
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Ready?
OK, maybe you’re still uneasy, but you are far more ready than you were! Trust me.
So let’s go!
Now You’re Thrown in the Thick of it
You arrive, and you’re with your family. Uncle Joe and Aunt Mae are testing you already…
Be aware of what is happening… what are they doing and how are they affecting you? What is your impulsive reaction as a result? Would it help you are make more pain or overwhelm?
Remember your values and your vision and which ones are being stepped on right now. Their problems are their problems. Remember your own values. Not everyone has to agree or even hear them. It’s your little secret they just don’t understand.
Choose to act with awareness and from your own values and vision….
For example, try these actions:
- If you need a break – leave.
- Take a breath when you feel compelled to do or feel something. Then choose to act in a way that aligns with your values and your needs.
- Tell them they are making you uncomfortable and you’d like to drop the subject.
- Choose to acknowledge who they are and where they come from with respect, but know that they’re not you and actively choose not to let what they say in.
- “Uncle Joe, I love you but we have different beliefs on this subject and I’d like to talk about something else.”
- “Aunt Mae, I know you want the best for me, but this is making me uncomfortable.”
- Leave the conversation, or leave the room.
- Take a moment to review your PCC, even if you use the bathroom as an excuse to do it!
Now, you’ve made it through. You didn’t kill anyone, that’s always a good sign.
Maybe you flew off the handle, let someone push you around, or someone still got in your head…. that’s okay.
It takes time to overcome these challenges. And it takes practice to build your awareness, clarity, and the right actions.
Our brains are wired from our past to react in a certain way. Changing those pathways doesn’t happen overnight anymore than you can lift 300lbs or drop a dress size overnight.
It takes practice. Keep going through these steps.
It takes time & practice to build your awareness, clarity, and right actions.
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And after the night is done, go through them again:
- Be aware of what the challenges were and, most importantly, what positive steps you made, however small. Even if it was “I took a breath when I felt invaded”, then that is progress! It means you are becoming more aware.
- Again, review your PCC, who you are and what you stand for. Reinforce them instead of letting what happened today tear them down.
- Is there any small actions you can still take to help positively respond to what happened? Maybe there is someone you need to have a heart to heart with in private. Maybe you need to do an act of self-care and self-empowerment.
Action is the Number One Thing You can do for Creating Your Self-Esteem
And it is the number one way that you build those new neurological pathways in your brain to improve your life and build positive habits and reactions when faced with these kinds of challenges.
When a kid learns to ride a bit, they start of terrified and shaky. They need that helping hand to get going and give them safety.
But what really matters is the action they take to keep doing it.
Every time they act, riding that bike, they gain a little more confidence and self-esteem. They also improve their ability and their actions start to become more and more automatic.
Action is the number one thing you can do for creating your self-esteem
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They fall down, and the more they get back up and act to ride again, the more confident they get and more they build those skills into their muscles and neuropathways. They become stronger and stronger.
Before you know it, they are flying!
And it all becomes automatic. They aren’t thinking… “okay, here’s how I balance, and here’s how I turn the wheel, and here’s how I pedal…”
Of course not! They just do it.
That is what can happen for you the more you put this into practice.
Taking action and creating your PCC will give you the tools to create purpose in your life and foster the self confidence to be flying through life with glee on your own bike.
And it only expands… being confident to ask for a raise or to find a better paying job you love. Standing up for yourself in intimate situations, and finding a better relationship with yourself and others. Going after that big dream you kept putting off for another year or someday… (someday syndrome is a whole other subject!)
Start today. Start with awareness.
And get the help you need to achieve it.
Now, share you biggest family gathering challenge with us in the comments below:
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I’m the raving queen of gratitude.
So… you know by now how important I think gratitude is.
But you know what is maybe even more powerful? The simple “Thank you.”
It is the embodiment of gratefulness. And when you use it… BOOM! You not only give yourself a self-worth boost, you give it to someone else at the same time!
It doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger or the love of your life – spontaneous acts of thanks matter. Even if you don’t know the person from Ozzy Osborne, that act of gratitude, no matter how small, will give you both a personal high and a boost of self-worth.
Can this even be legal??
Yes!!
And it’s free.
So how do you get such a confidence boost when you lay down this superpower? I’m going to show you…
1. Gratitude
Because we know creating gratitude creates self-worth. And what is thankfulness? Gratitude!
It says, “I value you.” Not only that, it recognizes that you are the kind of person someone was willing to do something for, some act of kindness. How can that not boost your self-worth?
You are taking a moment to express gratitude for someone who valued you enough to do something good for.
We know creating gratitude creates self-worth. And what is thankfulness? Gratitude!
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2. Social Connection
Thanking someone creates social connection simply by saying THANK YOU!
It builds the emotional bond in a way that seeps through to the heart of a person.
We’re social creatures. So guess what? You end up feeling happy and connected! How awesome is that?
You thank someone else, and you end up getting the benefit through the feeling of connecting to another human being. And as a bonus, so do they.
3. Your Perception Changes
That’s right. It does.
You actually begin to see things differently as your neurons start re-wiring around that new way of interacting with the world. The more you do it, the stronger it becomes, the more you notice things to be thankful for or to appreciate others for.
Ever notice how you maybe have your eye on a certain new car or gadget, and all of sudden you see it EVERYWHERE?
Same thing happening there.
The more you look for things to be thankful for, the more you’ll notice it, and the more you’ll have to be thankful for.
You actually begin to see things differently as your neurons start re-wiring how you see the world.
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It’s like magic. The more you choose to be thankful, the more thankful things appear in your life. As you engage and cultivate thankfulness in your daily life, the glasses you wear start to change. They see more clearly the good things.
All the little acts of kindness get sharper. All the positive moments get brighter. And you see less and less of the smudges and grime that were fogging up your lenses!
Perception is a funny thing.
The more you choose to be thankful, the more thankful things appear in your life.
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4. Compassion and Responsibility
Being thankful creates space for compassion. That means not only compassion for others, but for yourself.
Yup, you heard me right – “Compassion for yourself.”
But isn’t everyone suppose to be in love with themselves?
In a way. But too often, we can be meaner and more critical of ourselves than we even are of others. Compassion for ourselves releases that self-criticism and lets us take responsibility for our lives. We start to be able to look at the negatives that happen as lessons learned.
Too often, we can be meaner and more critical of ourselves than we are of others.
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Compassion for ourselves means we can start to accept who we are, when we stumble, and be able to see clearly enough to learn from our struggles. That is a powerful source of transformation and growth.
5. Become Better Parents, Spouses, Children
We all want to be better for those we love and are closest to. Use thanks as a tool to cultivate self-awareness and connection with your children, with your spouse, with your parents, whoever you have that life bond with.
There are always struggles and rough patches in relationships that close to you, and which we often never really have a choice with. And when it comes to our children, we know we don’t always get the appreciation we deserve.
But you can choose how you approach those relationships. And just because they don’t say it doesn’t mean they don’t feel it.
Make the small wins a BIG DEAL!
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You can choose to nurture appreciation and thanks between you.
You can shift the perception through action.
Give thanks for little things, for positive changes, for moments where they appreciated you – appreciation goes a long way to creating stronger, more positive relationships that in turn boost our confidence, self-worth, and feeling of support. Good relationships are the ultimate mental boost! Protect them. Improve them.
Make the small wins a BIG DEAL!
They take out the trash, they don’t talk back, they say a kind word, they show courage… anything can be worthy of praise, and should be.
Putting it All Together
So there you have it. Now it’s time to put it into action!
The biggest confidence booster is action, and when that action is thankfulness you get a double whammy. So here’s how to do it…
Be specific.
Thank them for a specific action they have done, no matter how big or how tiny.
For example – “Thank you for writing me that note that made me feel loved and cared for.” The person who wrote you the letter will then get a good feeling from writing it. Then it will domino positive responses or illicit more for more. This action alone will keep both of you coming back for more.
Same goes for children… “Honey I am proud of the way you handled the game. Even though you lost by one point I noticed you working hard, I noticed that you held you head up and are respectful to the other team, players, refs and your coach. Honey that show integrity and Thank you for showing me that example.”
BAM! How does that sound?
Start with one spontaneous act of thanks today…
Write a letter. Say it in person. Even a text or Facebook message can be enough.
Just act.
I want you to think of someone right now to thank. I don’t care how you do it, just do it. Thank them, appreciate them, and keep it up!
You’ll be feeling better about yourself, creating resiliency, and building better connections before you know it!
It’s like a daily shot of self-worth.
Comment below who you are going to thank and why. And bonus points to those who come back and also say how it went!
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