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May 29, 2008 Radio Broadcast gives ideas on how grandparents can help their grandchildren deal with grief and sibling loss.
Grief and Loss experts Dr.s' Gloria and Heidi Horsley have made available their discussion with two author grandparents, Jewel Sample and Nina Bennett.
To listen to the broadcast please click on the link below.
Helping Grandchildren Deal with SIDS Grief and Sibling Loss
Guests: Jewel Sample and Nina Bennett
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To learn more about Drs' Horsley supportive grief and loss web site, please visit Healing The Grieving Heart now called Open To Hope
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Hi there. Jewel allowed me to guest-write for her blog. This is the first time I've done this so it's an adventure. Thanks for the opportunity.
I'm a 40-something mom of two. I'm a counselor, speaker, and writer in Littleton, Colorado. I'm married to John, and I love Honey Nut Cheerios.
Last summer, my 20 year old daughter suggested we should start a tradition for the Fourth of July. My husband suggested we make homemade ice cream, so we bought an electric ice cream maker with my 20% off coupon at Bed, Bath and Beyond, and our tradition began. For about a week we did nothing besides try ice cream recipes. Our very favorite was cinnamon gelato.
When the kids were little we would pile into the car and drive around looking at Christmas lights. We chose this time to deliver gifts of cookies, or wine to friends of ours. If our friends weren’t home they missed out. For some reason we always picked up some tacos from Taco Bell and ate them in the car. Silly, but this became a family tradition.
On Saturdays in the summer, when we’re not all going different directions, we like to make breakfast burritos and sit outside on the deck. It seems like a lot of our family traditions center around food!
On road trips we listen to the Bare Naked Ladies or Abba, loudly, and we sing along. When the kids were really little we listened to the Adventure in Odyssey series (Focus on the Family). Every once in a while, just for grins, we’ll pull off the highway and run silly circles around the car.
William Doherty, director of marriage and family therapy at the University of Minnesota addresses the importance of family traditions or rituals in his book, “The Intentional Family: How to Build Family Ties in Our Modern World.”
He gives the main reasons family should develop rituals or traditions:
1. * It makes family life predictable.
2. * It gives family a chance to reconnect.
3. * Family rituals teach children what the family values.
Melinda Hall, Extension Agent at Ohio State University says there are 3 different types of traditions:
1. *Celebration Traditions (holidays, birthdays, etc)
2. *Family Traditions (special things which fit your family’s lifestyle i.e. pizza, vacations, etc)
3. *Patterned Family Interactions (bedtime, Sunday afternoons, etc.)
Here is my list to get you thinking about family traditions:
- Games on popcorn on Saturday night
- Saying “I Love You” before going to sleep
- Having a “tailgater” before the ballgame
- Serving a meal like chili or dumplings before a certain event
- Acting out the Christmas story from Luke 2 using real people or figures from the crèche.
- Dancing to a favorite Neil Diamond song
- Opening one gift on Christmas Eve
- Having an event such as the Bolder Boulder that you all do together
I need to hear from you. What traditions does your family do?
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The topics I found most helpful were estate planning, a living-trust, Medicaid-planning, and living-wills. Bloom’s explanations affirmed my understanding of scripture related to these topics, as well as he gave me things to think about in choosing a lawyer if the need ever arises. The Believer’s Guide to Legal Issues is available through most major bookstores.
Stephen agreed to chat about writing and his book. This is what he had to say.
Jewel: Hi Stephen! Thank you so much for agreeing to share with us a little about your experiences as a writer and your book. Let’s start things off by asking how you get started in writing?
Stephen: It’s a heartbreaking tale. The first thing I remember writing was a poem in 2nd grade, something about wading in a stream. It got selected for “publication” by our teacher, Mrs. Winklehouse. She typed it up and included it in a little mimeographed sheet of poems to be sold for three cents apiece as part of an afterschool class fundraiser. On the morning of the sale, my mom gave me the pennies I needed to buy a copy. But when the time came, I couldn’t get the pennies out of my pants pocket! My little fingertips stretched desperately and I could just barely touch the coins, but I couldn’t get a grip! I was shy and didn’t dare ask Mrs. Winklehouse for help (she was old school, the kind who dragged kids around by the ears when they got unruly), so I just went home without my poem! How sad is that!? I never did get a copy! What a traumatic event for an aspiring young writer!
Jewel: Oh, indeed that is a sad and frustrating moment for a budding writer. It is awesome to think at a young age you learned about promoting your works through fundraising. Well, I am glad you have a copy of your new book. By the way, why is practicing law important to you? Did you dream of being a lawyer during your childhood?
Stephen: As a lawyer, I get invited into some of the most intimate and vulnerable moments in my clients’ lives. As a Christian lawyer, I can use those situations to be a witness for Christ, sometimes through the legal counsel I give, sometimes through prayer, and sometimes simply by listening. I believe the most important aspect of my work as a Christian lawyer is the unique opportunity I have to be a peacemaker in some very difficult and challenging circumstances.
I never planned to be a lawyer growing up, but one of my grandfathers had been a lawyer, so I was aware of the profession. When it came time to think seriously about my future, I realized I had a good combination of skills for law, and it seemed like a practical choice, a solid career. It wasn’t until later, when I became a born again believer in Jesus, that I realized what amazing opportunities the law provides to be an emissary for Christ.
Jewel: It seems you have the best of both worlds; practicing your faith and your love as a legal advocate. What is your favorite thing to do when you’re not practicing law, teaching a class, or writing?
Stephen: Spending time with my wife and kids is about the best. We’ve always made that a priority. I love playing guitar and writing songs (Sorry, maybe that counts as writing? But it’s very different than regular writing!), reading and keeping up with politics and world events online, working around the yard with plants and trees, and helping to lead in my home church in all kinds of ways, big and small.
Jewel: I am glad you have found that balance of writing, practicing law and spending time with your family. Many writers struggle with finding the right balance between writing and the beneficial avenues of book promoting. What advice would you give a newly published writer?
Stephen: Pray hard and then work even harder to spread the word about your book! Unless you’re at a major house with a big publicity budget (not many of those left!), you are the primary engine driving your book’s visibility. But amidst all your hard work, don’t forget to have fun with it! Being published is a joyful and humbling experience! Relish it!
Jewel: You are absolutely right on! An author is the one who primarily makes others aware of their book. In the midst of all the hard work one must take time to have fun, even in promoting a book. Tell us what inspires you?
Stephen: God. It sounds cliché, but until I decided to turn my writing gifts over to Him, nothing much ever happened. All I had was a bunch of ideas. It was only the urgency of using my gifts to offer the healing power of Christ to our hurting world that finally inspired me to write “The Believer’s Guide to Legal Issues” and to seriously pursue my other writing projects.
Jewel: Indeed total surrender and the willingness to trust God with all the talents one has is what I think God wants from all of us. I learned in writing Flying Hugs and Kisses my trust and total surrender to God brought forth ideas in how to put it together that would help children heal from the loss of a loved one. Speaking of your new book, The Believer’s Guide to Legal Issues, how did you choose your content topics?
Stephen: I wanted my book to be extremely useful and relevant to real people dealing with real legal issues, so I chose the topics that my actual clients are most frequently facing. And I tackled each of the topics from a practical Christian perspective, rooted in God’s wisdom as revealed in the Bible. I also wanted to warn people about some of the common pitfalls and traps for the unwary that arise in working with secular attorneys.
Jewel: Being aware and understanding how to navigate through the judicial system is legal empowerment at its best. I must ask, do you have a book coming in the near future?
Stephen: I have two strong ideas for the next year or so, but it all depends on whether God provides the necessary windows of opportunity for writing. One would be another book for non-lawyers, and the other would be written specifically for lawyers. That’s really all I can reveal about them for now, but stay tuned!
Jewel: Thank you so much Stephen for chatting with me about writing and your book, The Believer’s Guide to Legal Issues. I look forward to reading more books written by you.
For folks seeking to learn more about a Christian perspective on legal issues and Stephen Bloom, please visit IsThereALawyerInTheChurch.com.
Stephen Bloom’s interview is posted by Jewel Sample award-winning author of Flying Hugs and Kisses, also translated: Besos y abrazos al aire (Spanish edition). To learn more about Jewel Sample visit her at jewelofabook.blogspot.com.
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In uncertain times when it may look good on the surface and you find it treacherous underneath, it is important to remember these words: "The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, And He delights in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; For the Lord upholds him with His hand. I have been young, and now I am old; Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken, Nor his descendents begging for bread. He is ever merciful, and lends; And his descendents are blessed." Psalm 37:23-26 (NKJV)
DON'T GIVE UP! HANG IN THERE. LEARN THE LESSON GOD HAS FOR YOU TO STRENGTHEN YOU WITH WISDOM.
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By Sharlene MacLaren
ISBN-13: 9780883687468, 2006
Fiction: Grief and Loss, Child loss, Family Relationships, Change, and Death
Publisher: Whitaker House; $9.99
Author site: http://www.sharlenemaclaren.com/
Review Date: November 3, 2008
The compassionate writing skill of Sharlene MacLaren permeates through out her story of a young family who experiences the unthinkable tragic loss of their toddler. Early on I believed I was walking along side an ordinary couple whose heart gripping grief and loss extended beyond their personal relationship to the personal lives of those who loved them and into a few lives unforeseen.
The twists and turns of everyday life combined with the unpredictable choices of others make this novel one I did not want to put down. Most importantly, MacLaren caringly shows the truth about grief and loss that it knows no boundaries, nor does the healing love of Christ when allowed to be embraced.
Through every Storm is an excellent and gentle source for the grieving adult heart.
Reviewed by Jewel Sample--Award-winning author of Flying Hugs and Kisses, also translated: Besos y abrazos al aire (Spanish edition). To learn more about Jewel Sample visit her at jewelofabook.blogspot.com.
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Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. (NKJV)
Yes, some women haven't discovered men have their very own secret language. It took me the first few years of married life to discover it. The first two years were wedded bliss with my husband’s undivided attention on me (at least I thought so.) Then our first child was born and the grunts started. One grunt meant "no" and two for "yes."
About 10 years later I discovered another secret to his language called selective hearing. I would ask him to do something and he would automatically say, "huh?" So after ten more years of repeating myself, I got the clever idea of making a Honey Dew list. I really put that title at the top of my paper. I thought if I mentioned food he would at least get to the first request. Years went by with him smiling at me and walking out to the garage with paper in hand. Nothing was getting done on my list. One day I asked him if he was reading my "sweet nothings" I was writing to him. His reply, "yup, that's what I thought of them too." After 40 plus years of learning my sweetie’s secret language the quest goes on.
What’s your discoveries about men’s secret language?
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There was an enchanted butterfly
Who had only but one wing
She walked because she could not fly
And she taught herself to sing
She had the keen ability
Of making others smile
‘Twas her understanding of the heart
That made her life worthwhile
She sang her songs of happiness
And tales of love so true
She’d sing so loud as she would walk
None near her could feel blue
Her lovely voice would echo
Off the mountains, through the glen
And all the creatures in her path
Felt humbled by their friend
A frog came up and asked her
“How come you do not fly?”
She said “Dear frog, if I had wings,
I could not see you eye to eye.”
She was blessed without her wing, she said
And in being kept earthbound
She was able to enchant the lives
Of all the creatures on the ground
You see though soaring has its perks
On land she’d rather be
So she could use her pretty voice
To teach love and harmony
On a starry night while all alone
With no one else in sight
She returned to her true angel self
Then flew off into the night
But every morning at sunrise
If you listen you will hear
The butterfly angel’s pretty voice
Still spreading love and cheer
Sherry Heim
February 24, 2006
Printed by Permission: Copyright © Sherry Gail Heim 2006
Resource Box: Sherry Gail Heim is a multi-talented writer who lives in the beautiful state called “The Land of Enchantment.” To learn more about Sherry visit her at Sherry Gail Heim
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May God’s blessings be upon you
in the sorrow that you face,
and a sense of peace and comfort
as He fills you with His grace.
May you feel God’s loving presence
by your side in all you do,
and loving arms supporting you
in the loss you’re going through.
May you always feel surrounded
with tender, loving care
and awareness that your burdens
God willingly will bear.
May God relieve your sorrow,
knowing He will give you rest
and assurance that your loved one
is with Him, forever blest.
Printed by permission of Connie Arnold, © February 2008
Resource Box: Connie Arnold lives in North Carolina with her husband. They share and enjoy two children and three grandchildren.
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PRESS RELEASE
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Date: August 22, 2008
Contact Information
Name: Robyn E. Bear
Address: 210 Ewing Drive, Manvel, TX 77578
Email: [email protected]
Website: http://www.october15th.com
H.CON.RES.222 Passes in Congress supporting the Goals and Ideals of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, October 15th of every year
Too many parents grieve in silence when suffering a pregnancy or infant loss. 983,000 babies died in 1996 from miscarriage or stillbirth. In 1995, 15.7% of pregnancies ended in fetal demise (miscarriage or stillbirth). These statistics do not include neonatal loss, SIDS, or other causes. (Center for Disease Control Trends in Pregnancies and Pregnancy Rates by Outcome Vital Health Stat (21) 56 - updated March 2001)
On September 28, 2006, Congressman Tom Latham from Iowa brought before the House of Representatives, House Concurrent Resolution # 222. The House Concurrent Resolution was passed in the House of Representatives supporting the goals and ideals of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Many families watched this take place live on C-SPAN Television, watched live on the internet, and listened on news radio.
The House started out with several speakers including Georgia Representative Lynn Westmoreland, Illinois Representative Danny Davis, Iowa Representative Tom Latham, Georgia Representative Phil Gingrey, and ended with California Representative Brian Bilbray.
California Representative Brian Bilbray told of his own personal story 22 years ago. He and his wife lost their precious baby at the age of 3 months to crib death which is now known as SIDS. Soon after, they agreed to pass the House Resolution.
Quote by California Representative Brian Bilbray:
“Mr. BILBRAY. Mr. Speaker, I rise today to thank Mr. LATHAM and both the majority and the minority for presenting this resolution today. I do not talk about a situation that occurred over 22 years ago in my family. Actually it was 22 years, 2 months ago that my wife and I lost our child at 3 months to crib death. I am sure you have got to believe that 22 years should be able to cover up the pain and the hurt and the scar. But it does not. And though we have been blessed with five healthy children, we will always have that missing spot that that little 3-month-old baby filled. But I want to thank you for today, and I stand up here today and speak of this matter to represent the men and women who have gone through what my family has gone through, and thank you for this.
If I may leave you with one message: more important than us grieving for our losses of those young ones that have died and are not here today, the best way for us to really remember them is to appreciate and worship and thank God for the blessings of having healthy children and babies that we can take care of. Because they truly are the best memorial for our babies that we have lost, by preserving and protecting the treasures that God has given us in healthy children.”
What we are asking from the media:
We are asking the press and media to show their support by helping us get the word out about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day on October 15th and about our personal stories of loss. So many parents suffer in silence and have nowhere to turn. These families need to know that they are not alone, and that miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal death is no longer a taboo subject. Support groups founded by and facilitated by parents are being formed all over the country to help families through the tragedy of losing their baby. We need to make communities aware that help is available.
We are asking everyone in all times zones, worldwide, to join us in a candle lighting ceremony at 7pm on October 15th, 2008. For more information, please visit: http://www.october15th.com
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First Candle is pleased to share with you an interesting new study on the use of fans in an infant’s room to help reduce the risk of SIDS.
Tummy sleeping and soft bedding in a baby’s sleep area can cause a buildup of carbon dioxide (exhaled air) around the baby’s face. Instead of breathing oxygen-rich fresh air, the baby may breathe the exhaled air which may increase the risk of SIDS. Many parents start getting nervous when their baby starts rolling over during sleep. A fan in the room can help disburse the exhaled air so the baby has more access to fresh air.
According to Dr. Fern Hauck, member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Task Force on SIDS and First Candle Medical and Scientific Advisory Council, more research is needed. “This is the first study that has looked at this issue,” Hauck said. “Because fan use is in line with theories, it may be worth considering.”
“While we can’t say conclusively that using a fan will reduce your baby’s risk of SIDS, First Candle has suggested the use of fans as a proactive step that parents and caregivers can take for several years,” said Laura Reno, Director of Public Affairs for First Candle. The best protection against SIDS is still to place your baby on his or her back in a safety approved crib on a firm mattress covered with only a sheet. There should be nothing else in the crib.” First Candle also reminds parents and caregivers babies who sleep in adult beds are at an increased risk for SIDS, suffocation and accidents during sleep. Placing your baby in a separate space along side your bed is safer.
If using a table or floor fan, use safety precautions to make sure the fan is not too close to the crib and that it can't tip over or onto the crib causing a finger hazard.
Use of a Fan During Sleep and the Risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Kimberly Coleman-Phox, MPH; Roxana Odouli, MSPH; De-Kun Li, MD, PhD Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2008;162(10):963-968.
Objective: To examine the relation between room ventilationduring sleep and risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).
Design: Population-based case-control study.
Setting: Eleven California counties.
Participants: Mothers of 185 infants with a confirmed SIDSdiagnosis and 312 randomly selected infants matched on countyof residence, maternal race/ethnicity, and age.
Intervention: Fan use and open window during sleep.
Main Outcome Measure: Risk of SIDS.
Results: Fan use during sleep was associated with a 72%reduction in SIDS risk (adjusted odds ratio [AOR], 0.28; 95%confidence interval [CI], 0.10-0.77). The reduction in SIDSrisk seemed more pronounced in adverse sleep environments. Forexample, fan use in warmer room temperatures was associatedwith a greater reduction in SIDS risk (AOR, 0.06; 95% CI, 0.01-0.52)compared with cooler room temperatures (0.77; 0.22-2.73). Similarly,the reduction associated with fan use was greater in infantsplaced in the prone or side sleep position (AOR, 0.14; 95% CI,0.03-0.55) vs supine (0.84; 0.21-3.39). Fan use was associatedwith a greater reduction in SIDS risk in infants who shareda bed with an individual other than their parents (AOR, 0.15;95% CI, 0.01-1.85) vs with a parent (0.40; 0.03-4.68). Finally,fan use was associated with reduced SIDS risk in infants notusing pacifiers (AOR, 0.22; 95% CI, 0.07-0.69) but not in pacifierusers (1.99; 0.16-24.4). Some differences in the effect of fanuse on SIDS risk did not reach statistical significance.
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A study, which appeared last year in the November 1 2007 Journal of the American Medical Association, provided more convincing evidence that a majority of SIDS babies have a brain disorder. The abnormality findings suggest that “there is a problem in the development of the brain that occurs in utero and after birth as well. According to Dr. Hannah Kinney, senior author of the paper, “this opens the window of time available for identifying infants at high risk and provides the opportunity to use drugs and other interventions as the baby passes through the critical first six months of life where the risk for SIDS is the greatest. My hope is that this research will in some way ease the pain for parents of SIDS victims, helping them understand that their baby’s death was part of a disease process rather than a mystery,” says Kinney.”
The abnormalities identified within this study appear “to affect the brainstem's ability to use and recycle serotonin, a brain chemical which plays a major role in communications between brain cells. Serotonin is most well known for its role in regulating mood, but it also plays a role in regulating vital functions like breathing, heart rate, temperature, blood pressure and arousal. While the SIDS cases contained more serotonin using neurons, they appeared to contain fewer receptors for serotonin than did the control cases.” Evidence was also found that male SIDS infants had fewer serotonin receptors than either of the female SIDS infants or control infants. These findings may provide insight into why SIDS affects roughly twice as many males as females.
This finding lends credibility to the observation that “SIDS risk may greatly increase when an underlying predisposition combined with an environmental risk—such as sleeping face down— at a developmentally sensitive time in early life,” said Duane Alexander, M.D., Director of the NIH’s National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.
The majority (65 percent) of the SIDS cases in the data set were sleeping prone or on their side and 23 percent were sharing a bed at the time of death, indicating the need for continued public health messages on safe sleep practices.
This important addition to ongoing brainstem research gives us renewed hope that medical researchers are on the right path to eliminating SIDS as a cause of death for our children, our future generations, and all the more reason to support vital research.
It is important to REMEMBER that although medical research is doing it's best to find a cure, a silent killer called Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, (SIDS) still strikes at least six infants a day somewhere within our nation. It is not the caregivers fault. There is absolutely nothing the caregiver could have done to stop their baby’s body from shutting down.
For more information about SIDS and how you can support ongoing research contact First Candle.org
SIDS Facts can be found here
Resource box: Jewel Sample is a children’s writer and author of Flying Hugs and Kisses. For more information about her background and publications visit her at Jewel Of A Book.com
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Despite success at reducing SIDS rates by over 50 percent in recent years, SIDS remains the leading cause of death for babies one month to one year old. SIDS continues to strike unexpectedly and takes families down a terrifying life-transforming journey of unthinkable grief and loss.
Many states do not provide consistent trainings about SIDS to first responders and day care workers other than the Back to Sleep program information. Nor do they offer bereavement support to SIDS families.
In 2007 Congress declared October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Many states have laws regarding Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Our babies are still dying of SIDS because states vary in SIDS definition interpretation, coding of deaths; and the guidance or support given to coroners, medical examiners and fatality review boards. Only eleven states require special training about SIDS for child care personnel, firefighters, emergency medical technicians or law enforcement officials. These states are Arizona, California, Florida, Indiana, Minnesota, Nebraska, Tennessee, Texas, Washington, West Virginia and Wisconsin.
Visit The National Conference of State Legislatures to view your state’s law on Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Please contact your state’s legislative representative and encourage them to bring your state current with the needs of the nation by requiring special trainings about SIDS, adopting a national definition of SIDS and detailed protocol for medical coding of infant deaths, along with a provision of bereavement counseling.
To learn more about SIDS or how to reduce your baby’s risk call visit www.firstcandle.org
If you or someone you know has experienced the death of a baby to any cause, English and bilingual crisis counselors are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week by calling First Candle at 1-800-221-7437
If you would like further information on raising SIDS awareness visit these excellent websites:
www.battleSIDS.org
www.cjsids.com
www.coloradosids.org
www.firstcandle.org
http://www.healingokhearts.org
www.iowasids.org
www.SIDSfamilies.com
Resource box: Jewel Sample is a children’s writer and award-winning author of “Flying Hugs and Kisses” books. For more information about her background and publications visit her at Jewel’s Sand Box News
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On October 2, 2006 Deb Westergreen awoke to a phone call and a county sheriff knocking on her door. Both were attempts to notify her that her son and daughter-law’s third child, Jaycee Marie Schilling had stop breathing and had died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
Deb's inspirational story continues in her own words.
After weeks of flopping around like a fish out of water," I started surfing the internet for information on SIDS. I came across two web sites that I found helpful. One was sidsfamilies.com and the other was Iowasids.org. I started reading posts on sidfamilies.com. The stories really touched my heart. Iowasids.org had information about a walk taking place about 60 miles from our town. I contacted my family members and told them about the walk. Thirteen of us attended that walk. I wondered why our community area didn't have a walk. We have the third highest SIDS rate in the state, but we are not the third largest community area.
I contacted Patty who is the director for the Iowa SIDS Foundation and asked her how to organize a walk. She told me what is involved. I told her I wanted to do it for 2008 and would get in-touch with her.
In 2007, 4 more babies in this area died. I knew it had to stop, so again I contacted Patty and said, “It's a go.” Shortly afterward, she contacted me and said she had a mother who wanted to co-organize the walk.
I set up a meeting, placed an editorial in the newspaper about the walk meeting. About 20 people attended the meeting. We exchanged ideas and decided we could do it.
The walk was awesome! 125-150 people attended and about $10,000 dollars was raised to fund peer-to-peer training, research, education of medical professionals and bring SIDS awareness to the public. I will do it again next year and every year I am able.
Thank you my special angel Jaycee Marie Schilling, for inspiring your Grandma to get busy and do something so important! I love you.
Deb Westergreen
2600 babies under one year of age succumb to SIDS within the United States of America each year. For more informaton about SIDS please visit the subject index provided on left side bar of this blog.
Resource box: This inspirational Iowa Grandmother story was written by Deb Westergreen and posted by Jewel Sample.
Deb Westergreen and her husband share seven adult children and 21 grandchildren. In her spare time she loves getting together with family and making scrapbook greeting cards.
Jewel Sample is a children’s writer and author of Flying Hugs and Kisses. For more information about her background and publications visit her at Jewel’s Sand Box News (http://jewelsamples.blogspot.com)
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Thank you so much Terri Forehand at Heartfelt Words 4 Kids for nominating me for this writer’s award. Terry offers warmth and support through her wonderful ideas, stories and links to help children and their families through a life altering crisis whether it is health, divorce, grief and loss or friendships. She is a blessing to those who know her.
My instructions are to nominate other blogs worthy of this award. There are so many WONDERFUL blogs to choose from and it was a hard decision for me.
DRUM ROLL!
The following have been chosen for the Brillante Weblog Premio award. The recipients are not listed in any particular order. It would be impossible for me to rank them because they are all outstanding! Thank you all for sharing a part of your writing world.
Carolyn Howard-Johnson’s Sharing with Writers and Readers
Carolyn unselfishly gives a wealth of marketing and promotional information to writers. Her love for the written word is evident and her successes of several published books showcase her many talents. Reading her blog has inspired me to move forward and not to worry about yesterday’s writing. I can almost hear her say, “After all, you were writing your best then and today’s best is better. That is what experience does.”
Lysa Terkeurst’s Proverb’s 31 Ministries
Lysa is an award winning author of several books and mom of five children. She offers her readers’ thought provoking ideas and opens her daily living view that encourages me to get through whatever is happening at the time.
Susan A. Meyer’s Susan’s Thoughts and Ramblings
Susan offer’s to her readers’ children’s writer interviews and her thoughts on writing for children. I discovered in no time at all, I couldn’t help but feel like I was sitting across the table from her sipping my favorite Latte chatting about what we both love, writing for children.
Max Elliot Anderson’s Books for Boys
Max is a multi-talented writer and video producer. He offers several great adventure books to read, as well as awesome thought provoking ideas on book promotion and writing stories for children. Check out his post about his adventure with a message in a bottle idea and you will see what I mean.
Marybeth Whalen’s Cheaper By The Half Dozen
Marybeth is an accomplished author and mom of six children who loves to share her writing views, organizational skills and personal family stories with others. When you read her stories, be prepared for a good belly laugh!
Robyn Opie’s Writing Children’s Books with Robyn Opie
Robyn is a prolific Australian writer who posts tons of marketing and writing tips as she shares her writing journey with others. I find myself identifying with her struggles and I love her out of the box, edgy writing style.
Mary DeMuth’s So You Wanna Be Published
Mary’s blog has a multitude writing nuggets from how to get published to honing your writing skills information. I call her site my fountain of muse because I have yet to go there and not find something that is encouraging and stretches my writing brain muscles. In fact I had to put my self on a diet from her blog so I could get my writing goals completed.
Congratulations everyone! Now it is your turn to bless someone with this award.
Rules for recipients of the Brillante Weblog Premio are as follows:
1. The award may be displayed on a winner's blog.
2. Add a link to the person you received the award from.
3. Nominate up to seven other blogs.
4. Add their links to your blog.
5. Add a message to each person that you have passed the award on in the comments section of their blog.
Resource box: Jewel Sample is a children’s writer and author of Flying Hugs and Kisses. For more information about her background and publications visit her at Jewel’s Sand Box News
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After my father died, my mind flashed back to a time when he was driving our family past a cemetery and he said, “People are just dying to get in there.” Family members and I laughed at his comment.
These truisms did not have an effect on me until I experienced the death of a loved one.
Reality is we are all going to experience loss of a loved one and death. Life beyond the grave is eternal. Are you certain of where you will spend your eternal life?
“He who believes in the Son has everlasting life; and he who does not believe the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him.” John 3:36 NKJV
For us to be sure of our eternal destination we must receive salvation through God’s son, Jesus Christ. Salvation happens when you confess to being a sinner, repent of your sins, and ask Christ to save you and take control of your life. (Romans 10:9 & 6:23).
Prayer:
"Lord Jesus, I believe you are the Son of God and my Savior. I want to live with you in Heaven forever. Forgive me of my sins. Come into my heart and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. Take control of my life and teach me how to live for you. In Jesus’ name, Amen."
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Just imagine enjoying life in the most fun and amazing way with not a worry in the world, then out of no where the unthinkable happens. What is running through your mind as the unthinkable event for you? For Kellee Stone it was a tragedy that challenged her faith and trust in those dear to her. If tragedy struck your life, would you feel you had no time for tears?
Kellee Stone’s main character, Ann Deane, in No Time for Tears: A walk through life with Ann Deane Teal, walked through her devastation feeling this way from time to time. Then a miracle happened. Will it be a man of her dreams, a new career, or the explanation of her infant daughter’s death? Grab a copy of Stone’s new Christian novel to discover her miracle of a life time.
Kellee Stone stopped by the other day to chat about her writing adventures. And this is what she had to say.
Hi Kellee! Thank you so much for stopping by Around the Sand Box News blog spot to share a little about your writing life with us today. To get things going, please tell us how you got started in writing?
I wrote for the church newsletter for years, the newsletter at work, I was editor for a local magazine, I wrote sales and motivational material at work, and many other things. Writing always came easy to me.
Do you juggle your writing with a job or other interests?
I am retired from a large telephone company, but I work with counseling at church. I work with support groups for spousal abuse, people who have lost babies by violent means or by SIDS, terminally ill people and their families, and widows and widowers groups. Also, I am the caretaker in my family and have taken care of my mother, stepfather, uncle, and my husband all dying of cancer in the past twelve years. Also, I have a home in South Carolina and in Virginia and travel quite extensively between these two locations. This keeps me quite busy. It is hard to find time to write.
Indeed it is hard at times to find time to write. How long did it take you to complete your book?
About 6 months, but then I waited nine years to publish the book.
Nine years seems like a long time to work on a story. I am not sure I would have the perseverance to work on something for that long, then again if I am inspired to write about something, I would have to write it. What inspires you, Kellee?
I feel that God wants me to use my life experiences to help other people through tragedies such as death and severe illness. I feel that he sends people to me every day to help them on with their lives in a happy and productive way. I believe that I should use my life lessons to help them in any way I can; sometimes that way is simply by talking. Sometimes it is my writing. I continue to be inspired to write from the emails and messages I receive telling me how inspirational my book was to them.
I love getting emails from my readers. Tell us what advice do you have for new writers today?
Write about what you know!
Where do your writing ideas come from?
My ideas were all inspired from experiences in my life.
What do you do when you are not writing?
I work at my church, participate in community activities, travel, watch Braves baseball, work on crossword puzzles, and family activities. My daughter lives in Atlanta and I visit there quite often.
Maintaining family relationships are so important. Do you have some grandparent advice on helping children through grief?
I have worked with a few children, but I mostly work with parents who have lost babies. I also work with terminally ill patients who know they don’t have long to live. I believe the most important point is to have faith in God. (I personally turn to the Lord in prayer whenever tragedy strikes.) Then, I discuss death with them. I tell them that everyone has to die. No one gets out of this world alive. This is God’s plan in the Bible. When my two babies died, it took me a long time to come to terms with it. I did not think I could live through it. I finally had to trust that this was supposed to happen and that there was nothing I could ever do to bring my babies back again and that I had to get on with my life. The same is true with anyone that dies.
Yes indeed, we must trust God and move forward through our grief in order to give ourselves a chance to find joy with those who are in our lives now. Do you have another book in your future plans?
I am presently working on a sequel to “No Time for Tears” and I have an idea for another book after that.
Wonderful! I look forward to reading the sequel. Do you have a favorite place to write?
Yes, my sun porch is my haven. I live on a lake and my sun porch looks out at the lake and my pier. The yard is filled with azaleas and camellias and many trees. I see geese, ducks, squirrels, rabbits, and have a large birdfeeder just outside the window. My two cats, Cooper and Elmo, are always in the office with me and love to sleep on the table next to my desk while I am working.
Wow, that sounds like a wonderful place to generate creative writing ideas. It has been wonderful talking with you Kellee. Before we say good-by do you have a humorous story about your writing or perhaps a most embarrassing moment you care to share with readers?
This book was never supposed to be read by anyone but me. It was strictly my journal. My doctors urged me for many years to write about all the things that had occurred in my life. I wrote this when I was alone after I retired. My daughter was away at the University of South Carolina and my husband had not retired. I had had two brain surgeries and was under many constraints. At this point I could not drive, do house or yard work, or cook. I could not lean over to the floor without falling because of vertigo. I had plenty of time on my hands for writing. My daughter came home from school one weekend and found the manuscript on the bookshelf. She took it in her bedroom and read the entire book that night. The rest is history since she told the world about my journal!
It amazes me how God uses others when we least expect it to share His love and to encourage us in our faith. Keep writing Kellee. Again thank you so much for stopping by for a chat. Come back and visit us anytime!
For more information about Kellee Stone please visit: http://www.kelleestone.com.
Interview by Jewel Sample, award-winning author of Flying Hugs and Kisses (2006), also translated: Besos y abrazos al aire (2006, Spanish edition) and Flying Hugs and Kisses Activity Book (2007)
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David Meigs is an emerging novelist whose fresh voice challenges the limits of Christian fiction. His background in youth outreach spans across thirty years and three continents. Having overcome severe dysfunction in his own life, he specializes in ministry to at-risk youth and their families. Though loved by all ages, his novels provide a unique, life-changing quality, critical for the youth of today. David and his family live in Seabeck, Washington, where he serves his church as youth pastor.
To learn more about what I had to say to David Meigs about my life changing writing of Flying Hugs and Kisses visit David Meig's Life-Transforming Fiction column at Christian Fiction Online Magazine.
Christian Fiction Online Magazine is a new magazine that offers a diverse range of talented writers and topics. Intriguing topics cover informational and entertaining rants and raves on writing, publishing, promoting, as well as book reviews, author interviews, devotions, and confessions of life changing twists and turns of the writer’s life, plus so much more. Check out this timely Christian Fiction Online Magazine.
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First Candle Awards $100,000 Research Grant to Save Babies’ Lives Project Works to Prevent Sudden, Unexpected Deaths in Infancy and Early Childhood
In response to ongoing concerns about our nation’s alarmingly high rates of infant mortality, First Candle today announced that a $100,000 grant has been awarded to Dr. Henry Krous, Rady Children’s Hospital in San Diego, to support his world-renowned research into the prevention of sudden, unexpected deaths occurring in infancy and early childhood. Despite significant declines in infant mortality over the past decade, the United States continues to rank only 28th among developed nations at keeping our babies healthy and safe, and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) continues to be the leading cause of death for babies one month to one year of age. More than 4,500 babies die suddenly and unexpected in the U.S. each year.
Historically, there has been no consistency in how these deaths are investigated and no central repository for the data collected. As a result, research is challenging and parents are left with more unanswered questions than answers about why their baby died. Dr. Krous is the first in the field to collect and evaluate clinical, epidemiological and pathological data on babies and children that die without warning.
According to Dr. Hannah Kinney, SIDS researcher at Harvard and Boston Children’s Hospital, Dr. Krous’ project is critical to not only her research, but to research projects worldwide, as they work to find causes and identify preventive strategies to save as many lives as possible.
“First Candle is proud to be able to continue our support of this important project,” said Executive Director Deborah Boyd. “Dr. Krous is an integral part of the SIDS/SUDC community and gives hope and healing to families that have experienced the sudden death of their beloved baby.” In addition to collecting and evaluating data, Krous volunteers his services to families by providing a “second” professional opinion for those that are concerned or confused about the diagnosis they were given for their child’s death.
One family that has been touched and inspired by Dr. Krous’ work is Craig and Krissy Thomas. On November 30, 2007, the Thomas’ lost their first child, Cole Westley, to SIDS. In his memory, and to continue his legacy, Craig and Krissy established the Cole Westley Thomas Memorial Fund at First Candle. In the short time since Cole’s death, the fund has generated nearly $50,000.
"We are pleased to contribute the funds raised in Cole's memory to Dr. Krous' project in San Diego. Without his work, important research into the brain stem as a potential cause of SIDS deaths would grind to a halt, as access to research samples would become severely restricted," said Thomas.
In an effort to help researchers unravel the mysteries surrounding these deaths, the Thomas’ have designated the San Diego SIDS/SUDC Research Project as the beneficiary of Cole’s fund. In response, First Candle has generously offered to match that contribution with $50,000, bringing the total award to $100,000.
"I am honored to receive this grant. It is an exceedingly generous gift that memorializes Cole Westley, the beloved son of Craig and Krissy Thomas, and provides much needed support to critical research into SIDS," said Krous.
First Candle is a national, nonprofit health organization dedicated to promoting safe pregnancies and the survival of babies through the first years of life. With programs of research, education and advocacy we are working toward a future where all babies are given the best possible chance to reach not only their first birthday, but many happy birthdays beyond. Until we reach this goal, we remain committed to providing compassionate grief support to all those affected by the death of a baby.
For more information, to make a donation or to access local support services, please call 1.800.221.7437 or visit www.firstcandle.org.
Dr. Henry Krous is board certified in anatomic pathology and in pediatric pathology. He is the Director of Pathology at Children's Hospital San Diego and Adjunct Professor of Pathology and Pediatrics at the UCSD School of Medicine. His clinical interests include SIDS (sudden unexpected death in infancy and childhood), and renal disease. He is chair of the Pathology Working Group, SIDS Global Strategy Task Force and Vice Chair of the California SIDS Advisory Council. Dr. Krous serves on the editorial board of Pediatric and Developmental Pathology and reviews for several other journals. He is the author of more than 120 articles, 80 abstracts and has edited three books. He has been invited to give nearly 100 lectures in the United States, Europe, New Zealand and Australia.
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When we lost our little grandson his siblings and cousins were heartbroken and needed a listening ear. Children want to tell others about when their loved one was alive. They want to talk about the sad, awful day when their loved one died. Some children even want to talk about what happened at the funeral or the food they ate that day. They want to tell their thoughts on whether God still hears their prayers or how long will everyone be sad. Sometimes reassuring them that God is with us in times of deep grief is all they want. A verse that has given our family comfort is Psalm 34:18, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit" (NKJV).
As months and years go on children want to talk about missing their loved one, or the changes that have happened in their family. Older children may want to talk about returning to school, getting new things, or eating their loved one’s favorite food with out them, feeling their deep grief as if they are stuck in the mud. Sometimes children want to talk about finding an item that belonged to their loved one and the comfort they felt just holding the item while remembering how much pleasure the item gave their loved one. Then as time continues on some children want to talk about not needing to visit the cemetery or noticing they do not think about their loved one as often as they used to. Children wonder if having these thoughts or the need to go on living with out their loved one is okay. Their grief journey has ended. God promises we will experience joy again too in Psalm 126:5, “They that sow in tears shall reap in joy” (NKJV). They need your encouragement to laugh and play again.
Some may think this type of support is for counselors, but having someone who is close to the child lending a listening ear, validating their experiences and feelings helps the child strengthen their faith, cope and heal.
God is with us in times of deep grief and joy does return to us. Reach out and provide a listening ear to a broken-hearted child today. Help them wade through their thoughts and feelings to learn if they are okay or to find joy in life again.
Visit Lysa TerKeurst's blog on how to help a grieving friend.
Resource box: Jewel Sample is a children’s writer and award-winning author of “Flying Hugs and Kisses” books. For more information about her background and publications visit her at Jewel’s Sand Box News
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ISBN: 9780670061914-2007
Fiction: Juvenile Fiction, Humorous, Reading
Publisher: Penquin Group; Viking Juvenile $15.99
Publisher site: http://us.penguingroup.com/
Carlson brings the sensitive issue of why some children don’t like to read to the forefront in an insightful and humorous way that makes it easy for the young reader to understand.
What makes this story so special is Carlson’s careful thread of showing children they will face difficulties in learning, but with help from others they can be successful. When read to my grandchildren I heard over and over that reading is hard work with so many new words to learn, but someday it will be easier.
Reviewer recommends this book for educational institutions and families with beginning and reluctant readers.
For more information about Nancy Carlson’s publications and classroom ideas please visit: http://www.nancycarlson.com/
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May 29, 2008 Radio Broadcast Update
Grief and Loss experts Drs Gloria and Heidi Horsley have made available their discussion with two author grandparents, Jewel Sample and Nina Bennett.
To listen to the broadcast please click on the link below.
Helping Grandchildren Deal with SIDS Grief and Sibling Loss
Guests: Jewel Sample and Nina Bennett
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To learn more about Drs Horsley and grief and loss please visit Healing The Grieving Heart
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I really enjoyed the radio interview with Jewel Sample with grief and loss experts Dr.'s Gloria and Heidi Horsley. I learned a lot about SIDS and how it affects not only the immediate family, but grandparents as well. It's important information to be equipped with even if you haven't experienced this tragedy in your own family, because you might need to support a friend in grief someday. I enjoyed Jewel explaining how her grandkids each contributed a "piece" of the story, "Flying Hugs and Kisses."
Thank you so much for stopping by and listening to our broadcast. It warms my heart to know my story has helped someone.
Blessings to you,
Jewel