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Yes this is from the back cover of my latest book-The Real Deal:For Parents Only-The Top 75 Secret Questions Teens Want Answered Today.
I am also the author of the best selling recovery book, Times Square Rabbi:Finding Hope in Lost Kid's Lives
My name there has an H of Yehudah and is not listed as Yehuda.
Yehuda Fine, rabbi, teacher, family therapist and author, spent 16 years on the guidance staff at Yeshiva University and rescued scores of runaway teens from the streets of New York as documented in his previous book, Times Square Rabbi.
Today he is known as America's most streetwise family and teen expert. He regularly conducts seminars for public schools, private and alternative schools, parent groups, social service agencies, youth groups, hospitals, recovery centers and social workers. He is a popular guest on talk radio and TV nationwide, and a frequent contributor to scores of magazines and newspapers.
Currently, he resides in Florida. His dog Brooklyn is always by his side when he goes bass fishing. His citrus trees are his gardening joy. He never misses spring training for the New York Yankees and of course is a devoted Disneyophile.
"Here is a down-to-earth, sensible prescription for parents of teens. No one has spoken to and, more importantly, listened to more teens and pre-teens than Yehuda Fine. His lifetime of caring shines through the pages of The Real Deal, and it is a beacon for parents (and any adult who works with our youth). Parents and teens need not live in parallel universes. The Real Deal prescribes guidelines, point by point, that make conversing with youngsters as normal as breathing -- and almost as easy. Yehuda Fine's book offers parents a hope-filled recipe for connecting with their youngsters." -- Dr. Pat Montgomery, Founder and Director Emeritus of the Clonlara School Home Based Accredited Education Program "We shouldn't see these kids as oddballs, but as kids who are desperately crying out for help," Rabbi Yehuda Fine says. He is a family therapist in Evergreen this week to present a keynote address on school violence..." -- Janet Simmons, "Tragedy at Columbine," Rocky Mountain News "Rabbi Fine has been delving into the psyches of adolescents for decades and now with his second book he has written a parental guide on relationships with parents and their teenagers. He has helped shape the counseling technique used in my practice of adolescent medicine." -- James G. Scelfo MD, FAAFP, Medical Director, Disney Marathon and the Citrus Bowl, Medical Consultant NBC affiliate WESH Channel 2 Orlando
"Yehuda Fine is an interpreter, a conduit, a bridge builder. He perhaps better than anyone knows how to repair the downed lines of communication between adolescents and adults. America: dial him in before those worlds drift too far apart." -- Chris Mercogliano, Director of the Albany Free School and author of Making It Up As We Go Along and Teaching the Restless.In Defense of Childhood. "Finally a book for parents of `tweens' and teens that conveys a clear, concise message for American families. Not only a great read, but a book every parent will find extremely helpful. This is the parenting book and is a one of kind endeavor, for no one has spoken to more teens and parents than Rabbi Yehuda Fine." -- Dr. Efrem Nulman Senior University Dean of Students Yeshiva University, New York
"Rabbi Yehuda Fine is more than a national treasure, he's a necessity, and sadly, something of an anomaly: A frontline spiritual warrior for the rights and survival of America's youth, whether they are struggling at home or adrift and written-off in the back alleys of our cities and towns. But what gives added credence to this powerful book is that Yehuda Fine is also a father of a brood of fantastic kids of his own. He walks the walk, he talks the talk and he works tirelessly and boldly in a shadowy world that precious few have the courage to penetrate and most would like to ignore." -- Alex Winter Writer/Director and Actor, Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure, Lost Boys, Freaked, Fever
Imagine a streetwise Rabbi who is equally comfortable quoting from the Talmud, the rapper Coolio, the National Survey of Families and Households, Baba Kamma and Newsweek. He is your personal `spy' into the secret world of teens, who talks their language -- and yours: Yehuda Fine.
I am also the author of the best selling recovery book, Times Square Rabbi:Finding Hope in Lost Kid's Lives
My name there has an H of Yehudah and is not listed as Yehuda.
Yehuda Fine, rabbi, teacher, family therapist and author, spent 16 years on the guidance staff at Yeshiva University and rescued scores of runaway teens from the streets of New York as documented in his previous book, Times Square Rabbi.
Today he is known as America's most streetwise family and teen expert. He regularly conducts seminars for public schools, private and alternative schools, parent groups, social service agencies, youth groups, hospitals, recovery centers and social workers. He is a popular guest on talk radio and TV nationwide, and a frequent contributor to scores of magazines and newspapers.
Currently, he resides in Florida. His dog Brooklyn is always by his side when he goes bass fishing. His citrus trees are his gardening joy. He never misses spring training for the New York Yankees and of course is a devoted Disneyophile.
"Here is a down-to-earth, sensible prescription for parents of teens. No one has spoken to and, more importantly, listened to more teens and pre-teens than Yehuda Fine. His lifetime of caring shines through the pages of The Real Deal, and it is a beacon for parents (and any adult who works with our youth). Parents and teens need not live in parallel universes. The Real Deal prescribes guidelines, point by point, that make conversing with youngsters as normal as breathing -- and almost as easy. Yehuda Fine's book offers parents a hope-filled recipe for connecting with their youngsters." -- Dr. Pat Montgomery, Founder and Director Emeritus of the Clonlara School Home Based Accredited Education Program "We shouldn't see these kids as oddballs, but as kids who are desperately crying out for help," Rabbi Yehuda Fine says. He is a family therapist in Evergreen this week to present a keynote address on school violence..." -- Janet Simmons, "Tragedy at Columbine," Rocky Mountain News "Rabbi Fine has been delving into the psyches of adolescents for decades and now with his second book he has written a parental guide on relationships with parents and their teenagers. He has helped shape the counseling technique used in my practice of adolescent medicine." -- James G. Scelfo MD, FAAFP, Medical Director, Disney Marathon and the Citrus Bowl, Medical Consultant NBC affiliate WESH Channel 2 Orlando
"Yehuda Fine is an interpreter, a conduit, a bridge builder. He perhaps better than anyone knows how to repair the downed lines of communication between adolescents and adults. America: dial him in before those worlds drift too far apart." -- Chris Mercogliano, Director of the Albany Free School and author of Making It Up As We Go Along and Teaching the Restless.In Defense of Childhood. "Finally a book for parents of `tweens' and teens that conveys a clear, concise message for American families. Not only a great read, but a book every parent will find extremely helpful. This is the parenting book and is a one of kind endeavor, for no one has spoken to more teens and parents than Rabbi Yehuda Fine." -- Dr. Efrem Nulman Senior University Dean of Students Yeshiva University, New York
"Rabbi Yehuda Fine is more than a national treasure, he's a necessity, and sadly, something of an anomaly: A frontline spiritual warrior for the rights and survival of America's youth, whether they are struggling at home or adrift and written-off in the back alleys of our cities and towns. But what gives added credence to this powerful book is that Yehuda Fine is also a father of a brood of fantastic kids of his own. He walks the walk, he talks the talk and he works tirelessly and boldly in a shadowy world that precious few have the courage to penetrate and most would like to ignore." -- Alex Winter Writer/Director and Actor, Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure, Lost Boys, Freaked, Fever
Imagine a streetwise Rabbi who is equally comfortable quoting from the Talmud, the rapper Coolio, the National Survey of Families and Households, Baba Kamma and Newsweek. He is your personal `spy' into the secret world of teens, who talks their language -- and yours: Yehuda Fine.
Yes this is from the back cover of my latest book-The Real Deal:For Parents Only-The Top 75 Secret Questions Teens Want Answered Today.
I am also the author of the best selling recovery book, Times Square Rabbi:Finding Hope in Lost Kid's Lives
My name there has an H of Yehudah and is not listed as Yehuda.
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Comment by yehuda fine on 12/11/2007 at 1:46 PM:
I will begin finally my blog. I have been waiting to find a way to get a blog rolling. This seems to be the place.
I have blogged in here a chapter from my latest book for parents of teens.
Unfortunately unlike my first book the current publisher never made much of an effort at... more
I have blogged in here a chapter from my latest book for parents of teens.
Unfortunately unlike my first book the current publisher never made much of an effort at... more
I will begin finally my blog. I have been waiting to find a way to get a blog rolling. This seems to be the place.
I have blogged in here a chapter from my latest book for parents of teens.
Unfortunately unlike my first book the current publisher never made much of an effort at all to publicize this new book.
Ironically the book is considered controversial. It is not, but does undo most of the failed myths on drug education, sex ed., abuse, drugs, relationships, etc.
It is based on anon response from over 24,000 teens. It is their cries for real answers that prompted me to write the Real Deal.
Someone has to empower parents and remove the hysteria about teens and their problems.
I have crisscrossed the US for 20 years talking to parents and teens. The irony is that millions of dollars are budgeted for topical school seminars on drugs, et. al. that in fact do not work. The deal here in my book is that any school /community has the direct means to address all their students issues. And parents are a needed must in that loop. Furthermore, it hardly costs a dime to implement a program in house and in community that grabs an immediate handle on our kids issues and problems. It builds real trust. So much trust that students actually will go to teachers or administration with the real problems they face. Ask yourself a simple question. Why is it that in every school in the country students know who is in trouble, who is self-medicating, who is suicidal, who is dealing drugs, who is engaged in high risk sex, etc. yet never go to any teacher per se or person in school or community? The answer is simple they don't because there is no trust, no faith in help being provided, zero tolerance policy and the political climate of adults that drives teens underground. The Real Deal is that family and faith values et . al across the spectrum can be meaningfully addressed with out in any stepping on anyone's faith or values. Abortion / no abortion , suicide, depression, counseling issues, the whole ball of wax can be discussed without politics period in any secondary school. I am though no fool. What I have discovered rubs many school district politics, school board politicians, private agenda people the wrong way. In other words, all those debates go away and kids get help and the answers they need. Parents are empowered and happy. And finally it really does work. I have never not gotten in less than two hours at least 85% of teens secret questions and issues. Why is that so easy to do? Read the book and/or ask me questions.
A Word About Being the Parent of a Teen
Being a parent of a teenager is not an easy task. At times, all parents question how well they know their own child. Sometimes it seems the child at the breakfast table in the morning has transformed into someone else at the end of the school day. There always seems to be a new mood, a new style, new music, and above all a new emotional intensity that ricochets around the household. Even in families with no major problems, parenting a teenager is a challenge. Relax. The good news is that your anxiety is normal. Nearly every parent of a teen has similar thoughts and frustrations.
But challenges can also be positive experiences. In fact, parenting teens can be one of the most rewarding and satisfying times in family life. It can be a time to deeply cement your bond with your child. To accomplish this, it is essential to tackle your teen's questions and issues directly. Our children have so many questions and decisions to make in life. They need our input and advice. The key words here are input and advice. Obviously, teens don't want lectures -- as we've seen here, and no doubt experienced firsthand, lecturing doesn't work.
Don't Be a Perfect Parent
Parents often ask me, "What is the one thing I should avoid doing as a parent?" I often answer that the worst mistake a parent can make is trying to be a "perfect parent."
I consider the "perfect parent trap" to be one of the worst sins in parenting. In truth, the best way to raise resilient children is by being an imperfect parent. A perfect parent cannot teach his teenager to face adversity. A perfect parent cannot teach her children to learn from their mistakes.
A perfect parent, by definition, tries always to appear never to do anything wrong. Perfect parents demonstrate that they are living life as one big cover-up. Besides the rigidity and tension that comes from trying to appear perfect, it is also exhausting, disingenuous, and certainly not helpful to your teen. The truth is that your child will grow stronger when you admit your failures. Not doing that creates an impenetrable wall between you and your child. You are unconsciously signaling to your child that in her most desperate hour, she had better not go to Mom or Dad for help. Perfect parenting gives teens the message that they cannot approach you because they haven't measured up to your standards. Children growing up in families where they can't possibly admit their failures are vulnerable and isolated.
Perfect parenting, therefore, puts your teenagers at risk. Why? Because perfection creates rejection. If you raise the bar beyond your teenager's reach by creating a false, perfect view of the rules and regulations of family life, you are giving confused messages. Who better than teenagers to understand, as they go through all the complexities and frustrations of adolescence, that perfection is impossible, that it simply can't be attained? As a result of pressing perfection on them, then, your children will know only one rule clearly:
Don't go to Mom or Dad if you are in trouble. They will not understand, and they will not support you! What makes matters even worse is that teenagers see through the false standards their parents preach. They fear letting their parents down by not handling their own problems "perfectly." Not only is this a recipe for low self-esteem, but it also forces your children to move their emotional life underground, below the radar screen of the family. All of this, if compounded, provides the jet fuel for creating a dysfunctional family life.
Be an Imperfect Parent
In adolescence, your children are on the cusp of the transition into adulthood. They are having the beginnings of adult experiences and challenges in their lives. If parents don't demonstrate the value of truth and honesty, which means exposing your mistakes, vulnerabilities, and imperfections, how are teenagers going to learn how to manage success, failure, and adversity?
Being an imperfect parent means being forthcoming about your mistakes. While it may be painful to let your child witness your vulnerability, ultimately it strengthens their ability and resolve to grapple with their own problems and dilemmas. Sharing your admissions, regrets, and hard lessons learned -- as well as your successes -- prepares them to meet their own challenges in life. Your example -- of being a perfectly imperfect human being in a far-from-perfect world teaches them how to face consequences and challenges. Most importantly, they are able to recognize how your ethics and standards didn't magically arise from nowhere.
I have blogged in here a chapter from my latest book for parents of teens.
Unfortunately unlike my first book the current publisher never made much of an effort at all to publicize this new book.
Ironically the book is considered controversial. It is not, but does undo most of the failed myths on drug education, sex ed., abuse, drugs, relationships, etc.
It is based on anon response from over 24,000 teens. It is their cries for real answers that prompted me to write the Real Deal.
Someone has to empower parents and remove the hysteria about teens and their problems.
I have crisscrossed the US for 20 years talking to parents and teens. The irony is that millions of dollars are budgeted for topical school seminars on drugs, et. al. that in fact do not work. The deal here in my book is that any school /community has the direct means to address all their students issues. And parents are a needed must in that loop. Furthermore, it hardly costs a dime to implement a program in house and in community that grabs an immediate handle on our kids issues and problems. It builds real trust. So much trust that students actually will go to teachers or administration with the real problems they face. Ask yourself a simple question. Why is it that in every school in the country students know who is in trouble, who is self-medicating, who is suicidal, who is dealing drugs, who is engaged in high risk sex, etc. yet never go to any teacher per se or person in school or community? The answer is simple they don't because there is no trust, no faith in help being provided, zero tolerance policy and the political climate of adults that drives teens underground. The Real Deal is that family and faith values et . al across the spectrum can be meaningfully addressed with out in any stepping on anyone's faith or values. Abortion / no abortion , suicide, depression, counseling issues, the whole ball of wax can be discussed without politics period in any secondary school. I am though no fool. What I have discovered rubs many school district politics, school board politicians, private agenda people the wrong way. In other words, all those debates go away and kids get help and the answers they need. Parents are empowered and happy. And finally it really does work. I have never not gotten in less than two hours at least 85% of teens secret questions and issues. Why is that so easy to do? Read the book and/or ask me questions.
A Word About Being the Parent of a Teen
Being a parent of a teenager is not an easy task. At times, all parents question how well they know their own child. Sometimes it seems the child at the breakfast table in the morning has transformed into someone else at the end of the school day. There always seems to be a new mood, a new style, new music, and above all a new emotional intensity that ricochets around the household. Even in families with no major problems, parenting a teenager is a challenge. Relax. The good news is that your anxiety is normal. Nearly every parent of a teen has similar thoughts and frustrations.
But challenges can also be positive experiences. In fact, parenting teens can be one of the most rewarding and satisfying times in family life. It can be a time to deeply cement your bond with your child. To accomplish this, it is essential to tackle your teen's questions and issues directly. Our children have so many questions and decisions to make in life. They need our input and advice. The key words here are input and advice. Obviously, teens don't want lectures -- as we've seen here, and no doubt experienced firsthand, lecturing doesn't work.
Don't Be a Perfect Parent
Parents often ask me, "What is the one thing I should avoid doing as a parent?" I often answer that the worst mistake a parent can make is trying to be a "perfect parent."
I consider the "perfect parent trap" to be one of the worst sins in parenting. In truth, the best way to raise resilient children is by being an imperfect parent. A perfect parent cannot teach his teenager to face adversity. A perfect parent cannot teach her children to learn from their mistakes.
A perfect parent, by definition, tries always to appear never to do anything wrong. Perfect parents demonstrate that they are living life as one big cover-up. Besides the rigidity and tension that comes from trying to appear perfect, it is also exhausting, disingenuous, and certainly not helpful to your teen. The truth is that your child will grow stronger when you admit your failures. Not doing that creates an impenetrable wall between you and your child. You are unconsciously signaling to your child that in her most desperate hour, she had better not go to Mom or Dad for help. Perfect parenting gives teens the message that they cannot approach you because they haven't measured up to your standards. Children growing up in families where they can't possibly admit their failures are vulnerable and isolated.
Perfect parenting, therefore, puts your teenagers at risk. Why? Because perfection creates rejection. If you raise the bar beyond your teenager's reach by creating a false, perfect view of the rules and regulations of family life, you are giving confused messages. Who better than teenagers to understand, as they go through all the complexities and frustrations of adolescence, that perfection is impossible, that it simply can't be attained? As a result of pressing perfection on them, then, your children will know only one rule clearly:
Don't go to Mom or Dad if you are in trouble. They will not understand, and they will not support you! What makes matters even worse is that teenagers see through the false standards their parents preach. They fear letting their parents down by not handling their own problems "perfectly." Not only is this a recipe for low self-esteem, but it also forces your children to move their emotional life underground, below the radar screen of the family. All of this, if compounded, provides the jet fuel for creating a dysfunctional family life.
Be an Imperfect Parent
In adolescence, your children are on the cusp of the transition into adulthood. They are having the beginnings of adult experiences and challenges in their lives. If parents don't demonstrate the value of truth and honesty, which means exposing your mistakes, vulnerabilities, and imperfections, how are teenagers going to learn how to manage success, failure, and adversity?
Being an imperfect parent means being forthcoming about your mistakes. While it may be painful to let your child witness your vulnerability, ultimately it strengthens their ability and resolve to grapple with their own problems and dilemmas. Sharing your admissions, regrets, and hard lessons learned -- as well as your successes -- prepares them to meet their own challenges in life. Your example -- of being a perfectly imperfect human being in a far-from-perfect world teaches them how to face consequences and challenges. Most importantly, they are able to recognize how your ethics and standards didn't magically arise from nowhere.
Comment by Eric Hammond on 12/8/2007 at 11:36 PM:
Greetings, fellow Floridian.
Welcome, Yuhuda, to JacketFlap.
Greetings, fellow Floridian.
Welcome, Yuhuda, to JacketFlap.
I have been deeply moved by this incredible man and my path has been lit very brightly with his teachings for over 30 years. A true treasure and a giant among mankind.
With much Love & Gratitude Yehuda, from only one of many of your blessed pupils. We carry you with us everyday....proudly.